Does being the other woman ever work out?

What does being the other woman do to you? Have you ever been in such a position? I'd like to know, how do you feel like that?

And do you believe that being the other woman ever work out?

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  • I think unfortunately society has a fundamental misunderstanding of this concept. Society as a whole, that’s both men and women are naturally very selfish when it comes to relationships. The fact that you used the Termanology of “other woman“ is a prime example of how society actually sees it. There should never be the “other“ in any type of relationship. That very term demotes and degrades the other person as being inferior or of lesser value than someone else.

    I have much family and come from a background of people who practice plural marriage. While it certainly is not for everyone (because there has been some examples where it didn’t work out and was highly destructive) for others it works exceptionally well, where there is unlimited love in the home for all and it makes for a much more efficient family. The difference between being highly destructive and not working, vs working out beautifully is the fundamental concepts and understanding of the husband and each wife. Each wife must realize that she is not secondary or third, or just the “other“ part-time woman. She must see herself as an equal wife and queen. She cannot compare herself to any other wife. At the same time, she must be selfless toward the other wives. In return, they must also have the same mindset of complete selflessness. The husband on the other hand must be selfless and take the time to know the needs and unique traits of each wife. It’s not about him. He has to be 100% giving and serving of each wife. Some men may see the as torture or a bad thing. But for a man who truly and honestly loves each wife with all his heart, this is not a problem but rather a joy to be so giving and serving of each queen that he loves.

    I realize in your situation we’re not talking about plural marriage but I brought it up because even in something that institutionalized as plural marriage, it can fail without the proper and correct understanding. In your case, you must first start to see yourself as anything but ordinary or “other.” You must demand respect. But without competition and jealousy. It’s a fine balance. In return, the woman you currently see yourself as in competition with must also lose all of her competitive and jealousy traits. You must be giving and selfless toward each other. On the nights he is with her, you should be happy for her. On the nights he is with you, she should be happy for you. And finally, he must be 100% selfless and giving towards each of you equally. Without these traits, it will never work out. If you can develop those traits, you could actually have a very joyous and beautiful relationship.

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  • I've seen it work out... a neighbor. he was separated and found other woman, ended up marrying other woman as she was having his baby.

    As to whether that's considered "working out", I'll leave to the reader. Both women ended up having 2 kids, he had 4. I saw the stress on the face of the prior teenager of his so it didn't work out for her so well, for quite some time.

    I think reality is, there's a shortage of tall high value guys, so the women will clamor for the ones out there and some guys oblige.

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  • More often than not it doesn’t. You’re usually just a side piece to a more stable relationship. I was in that situation once and he made me think there was a future so I’d keep having sex with him. He never intended to leave her and I was crushed. If you can steal him away, then it’s likely because he’s the type of guy who has a wandering eye and will jump ship again when a new girl comes along. So you probably shouldn’t want him even if you could get him. Stick with relationships where you’re the #1 priority.

  • Depends on the woman and the expectations that you have. If you think that he’s going to leave her for you then think again. If you go into it with the expectation of just sex then that fine. But rarely do people leave for another person just because they are so entangled and have a history with the other person.

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  • No one can really answer this question until you tell us your definition of what "working out" means.

    But, if it means that you (the "other woman") will end up in a happy, healthy, monogamous relationship with the man, then by that definition, it almost never works out.

    • This is correct

  • I dont think it ever works out as you cannot have trust wich is fundamental for any kind of good relationship

  • Not often does it work out! I do have a very good friend however who was the other woman more than 20 years ago, became the wife, had set of twins who are now teens and they are a very happy family. Once in awhile I will hear her husband speak about his son from the first marriage.

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  • Whether something "works out" depends on your goal. If your goal is a happy LTR, on occasion, a guy does leave his partner for the other woman. But then YOU become the partner and he is likely to find another "other woman." Probably doesn't feel too great to finally realize what an idiot you were expecting anything other than this.

    If your goal is to get fucked and used for some illicit sex, it can work out for a short time.

  • I was the other woman for a bit and it didn’t work out cause I left my bra in their bedroom which led to their divorce

    • LMAO 🤣 Good! You were a blessing in disguise for her.

    • @Sasha0426 I did it intentionally another time and didn’t even have to sleep with the husband.

    • At least that gives the wife a chance to find someone better.

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  • If you as other woman get emotionally involved you are fucked up for life

    If you just keep it to sexual needs you are the winner babe

  • Not the way you would want. Think about even if you prefer him out of the arms of his wife/girlfriend he is still a cheater that was sleeping with two women and loving it and so will probably cheat on you and he knows that you have no respect for yourself so won't respect you. If he actually loved his wife and misses his kids may end up resenting you.

  • I know one case where it did. Friend / coworker of mine married the "other woman" and they have been happy together for quite a few years now. That said, I suspect that most times it doesn't work out

  • Nothing good. Don't ever be part of a "relationship" like that- it is not one founded on respect, and the men involved are inherently untrustworthy.

  • No, it never works out. And, why do you want someone that is not available? Go find your own man, and don't play the fool. Your just a f*ck to him nothing else.

  • No it rarely does. If it did though, do you expect he wouldn't do that same to you?

  • I have seen it, but there is almost always bloodletting.

  • Spoiler : nope

  • If someone’s looking while in a relationship with someone, they’ll be looking while in a relationship with you as well. There are so many single guys out there that won’t be full of drama and heartbreak.

  • No I don’t think it does never heard of any happy & successful stories being the second woman.

  • It worked out for Layla, but nobody else.

    https://www.youtube.com/embed/pKwQlm-wldA
  • I was having regular sex with a man, not knowing that he was married. When I found out, it made me sick. I ended it immediately.

  • It can, but you're a horrible person for doing this in the first place.

  • I mean…you’re pretty much doing the main woman a favor. You’re helping her out by making her see what kind of man she’s been wasting her time with. If you want her man so bad, take him. He’s your problem now 🤷‍♀️

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