Does controlling a girl (manhandling her) turn guys on?

I’ve always loved getting pinned down, choked, thrown around, or ordered during sex, but my boyfriend was never really big on it. Does it just depend on the guy or?
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  • It depends on the guy. Everyone is different in terms of personality. But it goes beyond that. Sometimes their personalities in bed may not always reflect their social personalities, and sometimes they are one and the same.

    Some guys like to be dominating, while others like to be dominated. Some like both, or none at all. Then there are those who like either but are too shy due to a lack of confidence or uncertainty. The best thing you can have when it comes to intimacy is communication. Be open, be real, but be sensitive as well.

    If you want to be handled rough and really spice things up, let him know. Make sure that you start off complimenting him on how amazing he is first. Tell him what you like, and how you can't wait for more. Build his confidence up, because that also builds comfort. Then you can integrate your desires into the conversation. Be honest, and make it fun! Tell him all the things you want him to do to you, and while doing so try to be playful. It may not be instant, but gradually he will become both willing and able to do it.

    Good luck!

  • As far as I can tell its women that like when a man does that (also its a little disturbing to I think a decent amount of men (not all obviously but enough)). I mean everything in our society tells men not to do this to women, especially women (except for sex where its not just okay but desirable to treat her like she is a thing (kind of fucked up when you think about it)), and biologically we are wired to want to protect women not hurt them so I think you will find that many men are not comfortable with this.

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  • it depends on how well i know her. i met a girl who liked it that way, but i didn't know her well enough to be comfortable to do that. it didn't mean i wasn't completely into her, but it did kill the relationship.

  • I am not into that as well, I am just not comfortable with being rude or rough during intercourse. Its not that I am against it, I am quite curious actually, I just lack the experience or confidence, that this kink requires.

    I guess your boyfriend has the same problem and the solution would be really simple: Just talk to him. Tell him what you want, or even show him. Grab his hands and guide him. Its quite hard for a man to overcome the societal standards of treating women well, which obviously does not include to choke your sexual partner...

  • It does depend. Some are dangerously aggressive. One may even kill you one day, given your proclivity for encouraging it.

  • No but I do love to cumm deep as possible

  • If she was into it the I'd get turned on because it turned her on, if that makes sense lol

  • lol its just in porn, its only really bad men than do that stuff. They usually end up in jail or charged. The girls are usually broken :(

    When someone does degrade you like that, you will know what it feels like. Would that man want the same down to him ever? hell no

  • ITS A HUGE VERY FUCKING HUGE TURN ON FOR ME!!

  • Definitely depends on the guy

  • For me hell Yesss

  • yessss...

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