Does going on a couplecdates imply sex?

I've been on a couple dates with a younger man and he asked to come inside on the last one we had and we started to kiss and he started being more aggressive and I asked him to slow down but he didn't listen. I feel like he used me I didn't tell him to stop or anything I was kinda shocked with how he was acting I just keep my eyes closed until he was finished. He said he just gave me what I was asking for but I never wanted things like that. Is that hoe younger guys do things.
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  • It has never meant that for me.
    But I'm glad you asked this question
    Before covid-19 if I wanted to get laid I could you just go out and I can get laid is it always blue me away because as I would be talking with the girl I would ask her or we would get into a conversation about sex. And I would always ask for what kind of sex do you like.
    9 1/2 out of 10 girls I would say they want it hard and rough
    And I would always ask myself why why why I mean I understand why. But why.
    It seems like nowadays guys are more aggressive so the skip the foreplay and they just go wham-bam, b a m, b a m and they're finished roll over go to sleep or get dressed and leave. So nowadays that's all the girls know is they want it rough because of this scenario so I always do the complete opposite way and 45 minutes I have to hear Harder Faster come on. And I wouldn't say anything I would just keep going slow slow so freaking slow motion it said real until I can feel that moment where she finally got it and I'll start speeding it up and getting a little bit rough
    And in that moment I will fill a death grip arms legs body everything telling me go slow go slow my God don't go fast go slow and that's what I will do slow motion and deep. Young guys don't know how to make love young girls think that is love and it really really sucks for them because they don't get to experience. What it's like to be made love to in slow deep motion
    Don't get me wrong there's a time and a place for everything I'd like pound 2 but that's not for a while that's after I make love and sometimes it's so intense did I will just keep making love and not pound

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  • sadly i think so yet it is so much better when you build up the moment with chemistry and anticipation. a few dates or maybe a few days, few months just depends but with chemistry and desire and your good looks well lets just say he lost out on something richer and real.

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  • Wow that is awful. I'm sorry to hear that. And the sad thing is, it's probably an all too-common occurrence.

    I don't know, I can't answer, but just wanted to say sorry, and don't accept this in the future. Kick him out if it's not what you want. (Better yet, don't go to either of your places, because they're all going to see if it's on the menu then. You don't want to get into a rape situation.)

  • I do think he thought you inviting him in was a sex invitation but that is absolutely no excuse for him forcing himself on you. I’m sorry that happened.

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  • Girl you are 42, you should know this answer no offense. You should also be smart and know that young men usually chase women your age for sex.

  • Fuuuuck that shit. If you need to speak up, do it. If he made you uncomfortable, REALLY saying something is less uncomfortable than sort of speaking up but being ran over anyway. That’s not very nice of him.

  • Just by going through your previous questions I'd say yes you were definitely asking for it. Just my opinion though.

  • Any guy will start to think that once you agree to come inside.

  • He was completely wrong and out of line. Sex happens when all parties agree it does. He basically raped you. You might want to have no contact with him. At least not in private. He sounds dangerous

  • Oh! A couple of dates. Not “couple dates” as in double dates. I was like, never did that to my friends wives.

    But yeah he sounds very dominant. If you like his other qualities tell him to slow his roll.

  • He probably nterpreted your actions as you just want some rough sex.

  • Not usually. Unless they rape, and it sounds like this one did

  • That sounds like date-rape to me.

  • If he forced you it was rape, no mtter how you were dressed

  • Depends on the guy. Probably he thought you are having sex since you invited him in. However, it's your fault that you didn't stop him since you didn't want to have sex.

  • If you don't know at age 42 you've got bigger problems than that.