Does having anal sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend make the relationship stronger?

I had anal sex with my boyfriend last night the first time we tried it hurt a little bit bit but this time we were both relaxed and we both enjoyed it and after we got done i felt more bonded to him i think and feel like he became more bonded towards me as well he was taking care of me and making sure he was not hurting me while having anal sex.
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  • I don't believe the act of anal sex will specifically make a relationship stronger but anything that requires you to be vulnerable and trust your partner will either push you closer or further away from your partner, depending on if they pass or fail.

    In your case it sounds like he passed. Anal sex can hurt BAD. You have to be very vulnerable to pain and trust that your partner will take care of you. So when it felt GOOD to you, your boyfriend won more trust and didn't make you feel like you made a mistake by going that far with him sexually. It wasn't the anal sex but rather, your vulnerability and willingness to trust him AND his success in taking care of you while you were vulnerable and not making you regret trusting him- this is what made the bond stronger.

    I learned this in a marriage class. lol

    • Aw well seems like a good thing my man and i had anal sex we will continue to have anal sex to spice up the sex as well

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  • I separate sex (vaginal, oral, anal) and emotion very clearly.

    To me, sex is just a tool.

    In other words, sex can be a mere mechanical thrusting of a penis in a vagina; or in the anus; or a mouth stimulating the private part.

    A guy can demand these from his girl to satisfy his lust or vice versa.

    Lovemaking however requires the change of attitude from wanting to giving (aka from lust to love, selfish to unselfish).

    Hence to answer your question, doesn’t matter PIV or anal or oral, if its done merely to satisfy lusts, then the bonding is minimal.

    But if the desire is to satisfy the partner, then emotional bonding already start during the foreplay. And the sex acts are the physical demonstration of the already connected minds and hearts.

    This is what makes the relationship stronger. Hence known also as lovemaking.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Usually when I have anal sex the guy makes sure he’s hurting me by sticking it in really hard and fast. What you describe doesn’t sound normal or healthy. Anal penetration should be about roughing the woman up and making her bleed anally.

    • You do know the anus is delicate and if you don't do it gently an intestine can get fractured and can sometimes lead to going to the hospital so good luck on that even porn sites say it's supposed to feel pleasurable for both parties porn sites say both parties are suppose to be relaxed and enjoy the moment and clearly if you are in pain then you're not having healthy anal sex so good luck with that have fun and hopefully you don't end up at the hospital

    • Thanks. I wouldn’t bother going to the hospital if anything was ruptured or torn internally. Anal sex is for men’s pleasure, you shouldn’t try to make it about you. That’s selfish.

  • It most certainly wouldn't in my marriage... Period.

    • Thank you for the MHGirl.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Wow, good for you.
    Yes to do something so intimate would bring you closer. Your guy sounds like a good guy too, since he cared so much about you.

  • Not if one partner hates it.

  • No, but it fun

  • I believe sex in general can create a closer bond between a couple. If anal sex makes the two of you feel closer to each other, then all the better.

  • Anal sex is peak gaydom

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    • generally faggotry

    • Are you saying my boyfriend might be gay

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  • It certainly requires a higher level of caring, trust, and openness

  • I think it requires a lot of trust to do. After trusting each other that much and having a rewarding experience, no pain and shared enjoyment, I think you can't help but feel closer

  • It can be very intimate and connecting

  • That’s disgusting.

  • possibly. takes trust and communication.

  • No. I dont do anal...

  • No I think it can make it very awkward

  • Depends on person to person personally no

  • relationship doesn't fully depends on sex.
    although sex is an integral parts of a relationship.
    people generally indulge in anal sex when they more comfortable between.
    so to say, you are comfortable with him but that doesn't indicates your strong relationship.

  • Definitely NOT.

  • I don't know about others but for my wife and me I think anal sex has made us closer and made our relationship stronger. It's just more intimate in a way.

  • This reminds me when I had sex with my ex girlfriend while on her period with no condom. Our bond was stronger since that happened.

    • Yeah not even remotely close.