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Does having frequent sex make you last longer?

Ok so my boyfriend (21) and I (18) have frequent sex, maybe 3-4 times a week at least. In the beginning, we both had no had sex for over a year. He used to last for less than 5 minutes. Over time, the more frequent our sex was, the longer he took to finish. I got kind of insecure because I feel like it’s my fault for some reason, like maybe I was loose?
I was wondering if having frequent sex makes you last longer in bed?
Can you go from lasting under 5 minutes to lasting over 20 minutes in just a couple of months because of frequent sex?
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Superb Opinion

  • As he (and you) have more sex he may be getting better at holding off his orgasms a bit more. It also depends on how many days it has last been since he last had sex with you or how long it has been since he masturbated (yes all guys his age masturbate frequently... even if they have a girlfriend) but will never admit it. Do you even go for round 2 or 3 with him? Does he last longer when you do that?
    Finally it is not because you are getting loose. Hopefully you both are having some great orgasms together?

    • He doesn’t masturbate he only has sex with me and we just do it 1x a day cuz we are busy w/ work most the day.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Well, the more sex you have the more opportunity you have to get better at it. If you really want to and really value the sexual experience. So I would say more sex does make you last longer, yeah.

    Also, it takes guys longer to nut each time if you're having sex repeatedly in one day, which is also good.

    • Agree

Most Helpful Girl

  • More experience means he can get better self control, shouldn't you like that it takes him longer though?

    • Yes I like it but it can be kinda exhausting when I finish a lot before him

    • Just keep on going, we can do multiple... or sometimes I just sit up and take care of him, but whatever works for you two.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Would you rather he blow it in 30 seconds instead? You aren't loose, don't worry.

  • Professional opinion on having slept with... over 150 different ladies you just answered your own question plus sometimes having to plug the same hole all the time can become mundane so stop for a bit see what happens and if he starts firing before yer knickers are even off well... ta-dah problem solved sorry question answered! Xxx

  • Yes. Not only because you're having more sex, but as time goes on, another huge thing is being COMFORTABLE with your partner! It not only makes it more enjoyable for you, but it's huge for him also and with this. We guys worry a lot about "performance" and the anxiety often causes many guys to orgasm quickly. But the less "in our head" we are, and the more comfortable and relaxed we are, the longer we are likely to last.

  • No you’re not loose. He isorobably better able to control himself now that he’s done it with you and can relax and last longrer.

  • Yes, both because a man will tend to orgasm more quickly if he hasn’t had sex for awhile and also because it is easier to last longer when he gets practice with you. There is nothing wrong with you. Sounds like you have a great sexual relationship.

  • Yes, practice makes prfect.

  • Yes, that is true. Men do last longer if they have sex almost 3 or 4 times a week

  • I would say it's probably performance anxiety in the beginning it's you know it's new strange is always fun but honey not being too loose if anything you will gain better control especially with more orgasms

  • May be had practise with someone else

    • No we are monogamous and he’s always at work, with his guy friends, or with me

  • That's how it worked for me. :)

  • Yes and if he were smart, he could learn things to keep things going much longer.

  • A dick is kinda similar to a muscle, over time it becomes harder to make it cum which isn't a bad thing. It should push you to try harder. other than that don't be upset he's lasting longer

  • Frequent ejaculation can increase the time it takes to do so again

  • what type of birth control are you on

    • Why?

  • Yes, frequent sex make you less sensitive, reduces the ammount of cum and somtimes you become fatigued before you achieve orgasm.

  • If it’s several times on the same day, yes, that’s true at least for me.
    Frequent sex spread over several days doesn’t have that effect though because I recharge over night.

  • Yes absolutely! Plus maybe he might masturbate before which will help make him last longer.. also some guys can learn to control it..

  • Yes, you are right, if you have frequent sex, timing of your boyfriend will be increased, I have experience, of 40 minutes time

  • Well, there is more than one explanation, but I think it's still true that as a general rule, guys tend to be more visual than women when it comes to sex, so it is only natural that, as a guy gets used to seeing his partner's body in every possible sexual position, they tend to get used to their body and sort of normalize it, so it takes longer for him to come. For the girl, as long as he can retain an erection, that's a plus, unless her pussy and/or his dick start to get really sore... but there comes a point after which a guy starts to find it increasingly difficult to reach orgasm, and if he becomes enslaved by that 'goal' (reaching orgasm), then it becomes a psychological problem which can have different ramifications. But one point that girls need to keep in mind is that boys don't have any control whatsoever over their dick's behavior- they cannot control whether it is flaccid or hard. Bear in mind that girls do not really need to get anything hard for coitus to be successfully accomplished, whereas that is not the case with guys. With age, there is also that a guy's dick becomes less hard, and it stays hard for shorter periods of time. That is why older couples have to resort to all sorts of imaginable external stimuli- from lingerie, cosplay, to BDSM and horn-bull arrangements-, whereas younger couples probably need less of that, if any at all. Sex dynamics in a couple changes over the years. So probably a good advice is for each of you to focus on loving each other rather than fucking? I hope I answered your question.


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