Does having sex with 2 guys in one night make me a slut?

[Anonymous]

I've never done this before. But I hooked up with this guy I met at a bar. After we had sex I left. I didn't want to spend the night. I then knocked on the door of this other guy that I previously hooked up with but haven't seen in month. Ended up having sex with him. This was at 3 in the morning.

[Bandit74]

By definition, yes you have exhibited slutty behavior. Does it make you a bad person? No but it certainly doesn't make you the type of girl a guy would want to be in a long term relationship with. Think why would a guy want to take it slow and get to know you before having sex with you when you hopped into bed with 2 people you didn't even know. What's important besides sex is that it has meaning or value and when you give it away for free to people you don't even know, its not special. People talk and rumors spread. You don't want to build a reputation as the girl that puts out on the first date because then every guy is going to expect that from you. Why would a guy in the future want to wait for something that other guys got within hours of meeting you. If you have that kind of reputation, the type of guys you are going to attract are guys that just want to fuck you and dump you. If you dont care about relationships then keep doing what you're doing but if you might want a relationship one day I'd suggest you think about what kinda message you're putting out and what kinda guys yout want to attract. There's nothing bad about what you've done but every action has a reaction and you've got to base your decisions acording to that.

[Asker]

Thank u so much. What you said was very insightful and not judgmental like most people here. FYI I was drunk and would never do something like this sober.

[Bandit74]

No problem. .. thanks for mh and for calling me insightful, nobody's ever used that word to describe me before. lol

[rUinSAYAN]

call yourself as you wish.
if a girl has STD's I say ewww.
if you have had sex with ugly guys pls don't tell me. if you had more sex partners then me I would like a good reason for but might be ok with it, half the world is fucking around anyways so other people calling you slut doesn't make you special/more or less then any other human.
in other words I don't care aslong as it's not my case and I don't call you slut unless you fucked random guys who asked for sex (ugly) and you let em all! in.

[zora88]

What do you define as a slut? Since you're asking this question it's safe to presume you find this slutty. You answered your own question by asking this question. Yes, for anyone guy/lady it is. It's also the best way to get and spread stds and then left wondering who gave it you or who you gave it to. If you are going to have multiple sex partners in Your lifetime or year , out of cautionary measures , it's best to wait a few months because some viruses like HIV can take up to 6months to show it may show with 2-12 wks however. I'd hate for you to live with regret of one night's pleasure. Don't forget some people spread stds for the fun or the shame/hate of it acting on revenge. Sometimes condoms don't work or can break. Remember all kinds of sex counts intercourse, anal, oral! Be safe and enjoy life. Best wishes!! Salut!

[Mesonfielde]

Nice answer, people actually resort to having casual sex to "take revenge" on the person who made them contract STDs? :O

[zora88]

Thank you. And yes they do. It's sad. They were irresponsible and make it a point to inflict the same emotions and consequences to another. Some people contract it from spouses and make themselves believe everyone is like the person that deceived them and deserves what "life" gives them. And some just do exactly what she did with no ill intentions in mind and accidently contract stds. There are various reasons people purposefully hand out stds. A chance to "play God" if you will. @Mesonfielde

[Vesuvius87]

I think if you have to ask this question and right now is worrying about rumors possibly getting spread out (you're clearly not comfortable with what you did and have regrets towards it) and having a hard time finding a long-term bf then there is your answer.

There are naturally conservative and liberal people. The only difference is neither of them would worry about what others say about them nor even care about labels. The true players and sloots that like casual sex actually do that: they have casual sex without a care.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

yes you are so nasty. you said you've never done it before, well please don't do it again. if you came up pregnant you literally wouldn't know who the father is. ew.

[Red_Dragon]

Why? It's her body.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

so lets not judge meth users or obese people with fat fetshes. its their body too. yes its her body and she's abusing it. people are allowed to feel negatively about that

[Red_Dragon]

Meth and being obese destroys the body. Casual sex doesn't. Unless we are talking STDs and in that case you can get a STD from your "HS sweetheart" that you've been in a relationship with all this time. What type of relationship doesn't matter there.

[JulyAndrews]

She is just enjoying sex. Most promiscuous people use condoms because they are very aware of the dangers of unprotected sex. It's usually the girls that don't fuck around that don't use condoms because they are too insecure to say no to a guy asking to have sex without. When you fuck around you know how to deal with those kind of men. You have tougher skin and are not afraid to just kick them out of your house if they keep on complaining about it.

[Mesonfielde]

@Red_Dragon your HS Sweetheart doesn't get STDs from nowhere either.

[Red_Dragon]

@Mesonfielde What if the HS sweetheart was with someone else that person loved before they ended up being together by the end of HS?

[Mesonfielde]

@Red_Dragon I guess people universally need to pick their partners better.

[Red_Dragon]

@Mesonfielde The point is that you can get a STD from anyone. Not just someone who has sex casually.

[Mesonfielde]

@Red_Dragon yes, you can also die from being hit by a piano, and you can die from running around on the road while slaloming cars. There is a certain element of possible risk factor in terms of likelihood. Aka, you are more likely to find STDs in promiscuous people.

[Red_Dragon]

@Mesonfielde Not unless you take a STD test.

[Red_Dragon]

@Mesonfielde Not unless you don't take a STD test.

[xHoneyxBeex]

Gosh, so much judgment and hatred on this thread...

The definition of a "slut" is basically someone who has many casual sexual partners and they are generally careless about being safe about it. While yes, many people would probably consider you to be promiscuous by having sex with two random men in one night, you stated that this is not normal or repetitive behavior for you. It was one night so no, I don't think you are a "slut." As long as you were safe about it, I don't see the problem.

[Mesonfielde]

I think the mentality itself defines her as such. Objectively, there is nothing wrong with being one, but I don't understand it.

[xHoneyxBeex]

@Mesonfielde I disagree, hence the viewpoint I gave in my own post.

[Weirdstuff]

Yes. For the love of god, make them wear condoms. Unless you like STDs.

[Red_Dragon]

How do you know they didn't?

[R3d_Anonymous]

Yeah, how do you know?

[kittykatg]

Nope, it doesn't.

[Mesonfielde]

yes it does

[kittykatg]

She's allowed to do whatever she wants with her body, just like men are. The term slut is used to keep women submissive and inferior to men.

[Bysshe]

While the term slut is derogatory, if you consider what it's generally taken to mean (a promiscuous woman) she does fit the meaning. Having said that she's got nothing to be ashamed of, and if she enjoys casual sex good for her.

[kittykatg]

Exactly it's a derogitory term and no one would care if this was a guy who slept with two women. He'll he'd be getting high fives left and right. We should either be accepting of both or not, I hate these double standards.

[Mesonfielde]

"no one would care if this was a guy who slept with two women. He'll he'd be getting high fives left and right. " Hypothetical double standard, it depends on the social peer group. I can also picture females trying to get laid with as many males as possible, it's just as likely to occur even if it's not supported by tradition. I for one am against this type of sexual behavior from a risk analysis standpoint, and from an emotional standpoint. But it's up to them to do as they wish, but the label that society provides for people like this is "slut", and therefore I stand by my "yes". Note, guys who do this are just as slutty, except they are called "manwhores".

[Theguyoverthere]

There is nothing wrong with it assuming you're safe and open about it. I'd just suggest a shower in between partners personally if you didn't.

[BenjaminBix]

LOL See? I told you.

[Hannah591]

You can do what you want sexually and with whoever. If a guy slept with two girls in a night, no-one would batter an eye lid so it should be the same way for you. Do what you want and don't even ask what people think of you.

[JulyAndrews]

Exactly! Why should women feel ashamed for having a male mentality when it comes to sex?

[Bysshe]

@JulyAndrews They shouldn't. It's ridiculous that men that like to engage in casual sex are happy to shame women for being 'sluts', it's in their interest to encourage it...

[Mesonfielde]

@JulyAndrews "Male mentality" is a name that holds cultural bias. I believe promiscuity of this kind has more risks and is thus objectively less desirable, and also this is not the same as "polyamory" even.

[JulyAndrews]

How is that cultural bias? It's just relaity everywhere. Women who think of sex the same as men are called sluts. Those men are just normal healthy men (in society's views about male sexuality vs female sexuality) And no it's not polyamory, something I can't be and I don't see why this being brought into the discussion. I can be in a non-monogamous sexual relationship, have been with my first ex for 5 years (lived together for 3) For me sex and love can be completely seperate, easily. That's how my sexual development started. Some people have a hard time falling in love but have high sex drives, I'm one of those. I'm not going to hold myself back and be depressed because society doesn't think it's normal behaviour for a woman. I have more important things to worry about. in life ;)

[Mesonfielde]

@JulyAndrews well I'M not going to have sex with someone with whom I'm not emotionally invested. I think that's disturbing, actually, from an idealistic standpoint. It is cultural bias because "male/female sexuality" is more a chicken-egg debate in which the chicken is the fact that we enforce this through social rules, these rules are falling apart hence why promiscuity is becoming so mainstream, but that doesn't mean it's a male-specific behavior pattern. It's promiscuity.

[SirenDep]

Yes it does. one night stands are already bad, but 2 one night stands in the same night?

[psykobrahe]

Why are they bad? Because you don't approve?

[SirenDep]

Because it's just casual sex with no emotional connection. Because it might be dangerous to hook up with someone you don't know well. What if he has an std or if he harms you when you get in his home? Two of them signify that someone is greedy, interested only for sex or can't say no to people.

[dipta]

I'm kinda worried about the amount of questions like this on my live feed recently...
Is this even a real question, no trolling? Because the definition of the word is so clear no matter how PC and modern we wanna make it, for me it's a bit like asking 'so I killed someone, but it was the first time. Do I have to go to prison?'. You know the answer to this too.

[PinkSugarushh]

Are you seriously asking this? Yes it does!

[Cnyguy]

No. You are a young woman that likes sex and can and do act on that. Good for you and two guys too. Why should a woman suppress her sexual desires? Maybe your supposed to just sit home and masturbate all alone. I say get out there and learn some skills so when you find that special someone you will bring some game to the bedroom! Enjoy!

[LittleSally]

Sure...
Promiscuous...

Same thing.

Use protection.

[justbanANNAz]

sugarcoated version: no, not really. 2 guys isn't much compared to other girls.

my version: yes. if u can't control ur desires enough to avoid having sex with 2 men in the same night then thats a bit of a problem.

[Red_Dragon]

Why is it a problem?

[JulyAndrews]

Yeah why is that? As long as you perform safe sex, what's the issue really?

[Bysshe]

Why is it a problem? I think that would fit pretty well any definition of "slut", but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. What's wrong with being a slut if nobody gets hurt?

[KwazyBruhhh]

Yeah why is it a problem?

[OpinionnotHate]

Yes you have exhibited slutty behavior.

[Fleur-Rose]

Yh sluttttttttt

[BeInnovative]

Please tell me what you would comment if a guy asks 'i slept with two girls one night and i dont even know them' ..

[TheWorldIsUrs]

I'd comment that: Either both or at least one of those girls were extremely desperate (therefore easy), or that he has some major gaming skills & I'd also demand proof via NSFW pics to make sure he's not fraudin' (e-stating)... :/

[psykobrahe]

@TheWorldIsUrs: And I wager that 90% of the guys slutshaming her would say the same. Just goes to prove the double standard.

[BeInnovative]

No my aim is not blaming one side like oh women are slut or oh those men are players... What i am trying to say is that if she feels comfortable in this situation if she doesn't judge a guy doing the same thing then she is good to go.. it doesn't matter what she does who she sleeps with or how many partners she has had.. she is an adult and if she is happy that way she doesn't need to seek an answer like "am i a slut?"...

[TheWorldIsUrs]

@psykobrane Slutshaming? Is that a new shaming-word in the liberal handbook? Meh.. either way your opinion is invalid for even making up such a word as slutshaming... :/ Also it's not a double standard you ignorant ideologue. A 6/10 guy has to have game in order to get laid while a 6/10 girl just has to walk in a bar, spread her legs, & say ''come & get it big boys''. You saying this is a double standard is like me saying it's a double standard that we would ask the male OP to provide proof of bangs when we wouldn't ask the female OP to do so. It's not a double standard you idiot, it's just our reality.

[TheWorldIsUrs]

@psykobrahe

[psykobrahe]

@TheWorldIsUrs: I didn't make it up, it's a commonly used term which rather neatly describes the phenomenon taking place on this thread: Total strangers shaming a woman for being promiscuous. And of course it's a double standard. And it ruins women's lives all over the globe. From the Middle-East where women are stoned to death for sex outside of marriage, to young girls raped and/or driven to suicide in the U. S. when word gets round that they are 'easy'. How 'easy' you perceive it to be for the sexes to get laid has nothing to do with the matter. Which is: People harassing a person for something that is none of their business.

[TheWorldIsUrs]

@psykobrahe It's not a double standard & whether you or someone else made up that word it doesn't matter cuz it's still a stupid word... :/ Also this: ''And of course it's a double standard. And it ruins women's lives all over the globe. From the Middle-East where women are stoned to death for sex outside of marriage, to young girls raped and/or driven to suicide in the U. S. when word gets round that they are 'easy'.''... Is just all around idiotic. The middle east has suicide bombers, ISIS, Al-Qaeda, Allah Akbar's, martyrs, etc. etc.; it's an extreme everything & it is foolish for you to try an use it as a way to prove your point for anything really. Then when it comes to girls committing suicide for being raped. The girls who commit suicide (because of the reason you gave me) are idiots for throwing away their lives just because a bunch of other idiots decided to go an call the girl a slut because she was raped. SRSLY THAT DOESN'T EVEN MAKE ANY SENSE & THE PEOPLE WHO---

[TheWorldIsUrs]

@psykobrahe/---THINK IT DOES SHOULD BE FORCEFULLY EUTHANIZED SO THAT THEY CAN'T DILUTE OUR GENE POOL ANY FURTHER THAN THEY ALREADY HAVE!!!

[godfatherfan]

I don't know about slut. it is just a word and kinda silly kids stuff.
it is disgusting however. I could never have sex with 2 different women in the same night. and guys can clean up easily. take some soap to the cock and we are nice and clean. here some other guy is screwing you and you still have cum from the first guy in there. just the thought makes me sick.

[Mesonfielde]

Practical and disturbing.

[Nylena]

depends on how you define "slut"
for me it's not about the numbers but only if you are easy to get or not. and that I can't answer since I don't know you.

[TonyNoTiger]

What the!!

[BenjaminBix]

Simple answer: Yes

[Theguyoverthere]

You're not underneath or over me. You're spaces down from me.

[BenjaminBix]

Don't take it the wrong way. And chill.

[Red_Dragon]

It's a mindset. Do you like to have casual sex? If so then yes you are a promiscuous girl and could be considered a slut. How many guys you've had sex with don't make you that.

[Scorpio909]

Liking casual sex doesn't make you a slut. It's how you go about it that determines it.

[Red_Dragon]

@Scorpio909 If you are promiscuous you are a slut by definition. How you go about it doesn't matter.

[Mesonfielde]

@Scorpio909 partaking in casual sex with people you don't really know is pretty much the *definition* of slut.

[Scorpio909]

@Red_Dragon @Mensonfielde Not how I see things. Casual sex is fine as long as you're responsible about it.

[Scorpio909]

@Mesonfielde

[Red_Dragon]

@Scorpio909 I didn't say it was immoral. I just said it makes her a slut.

[Red_Dragon]

Wow this escalated quickly. 0 to 100 real quick.

[Red_Dragon]

@KwazyBruhhh Is mad. Awww. Poor guy.

[Red_Dragon]

@JulyAndrews Yeah I know. I'm 21. By now I know how society works. By definition a N***er is not a black person. It represents a color, and technically what we refer to as the black race isn't the color black. Just like what we refer to as the white race isn't really white. To add to that you have hundreds of years of torment and torture with that. Slut by definition is a promiscuous person. I'm a slut by definition. ME. A GUY!!! N***er by definition is incorrect. Therefore when it is used all you can go by is the society meaning when it's used as such.

[Red_Dragon]

@Bandit74 Slut is a dictionary term yet that guy thinks it doesn't exist. How ridiculous do you have to be to believe that? LOL!

[JulyAndrews]

@Red-Dragon wo I'm in this discussion to, weird. But the accepted denotative meaning of slut is a sexually promiscuous woman[2] or "a woman of a low or loose character; a bold or impudent girl; a hussy, jade. This is what society means with slut, a promiscuous WOMAN.

[Red_Dragon]

@JulyAndrews A person, especially a woman, considered sexually promiscuous. That's what I've found. I don't know what society considers a guy who's sexually promiscuous to be I guess. I've always thought of womanizers as cheaters and weasels.

[Bandit74]

@JulyAndrews Player:A MALE who is skilled at manipulating ("playing") others, and especially at seducing women by pretending to care about them, when in reality they are only interested in sex. There's female players yet in the definition it explicitly says MALE.

[Red_Dragon]

@Bandit74 But I don't cheat women or try to pretend like it's something it's not. So what do you call me then?

[Bandit74]

Probably Man-whore.

[Red_Dragon]

@Bandit74 No that says that that is "to have unlawful sexual intercourse as or with a prostitute."

[JulyAndrews]

there's no real definition for promiscuous men because it's accepted for men to display this kind of behaviour. Players are people who manipulate and deceive, a woman can also be a player when she manipulates men and has 2/3 relationships at the same time (I know one woman who does this, I don't agree with it at all) A men who likes casual sex is... just a man ;)

[Red_Dragon]

@JulyAndrews Exactly my point. Society made the rules for what's a slut. That's why I say fuck society. A slut is a guy or girl. What if I don't manipulate and deceive but still have promiscuous sex like a "slut" would? So I'm just a man? Oh okay.

[JulyAndrews]

Yes of course.. fuck society on these things. I agree with that a 100%. But we have to speak in reality, women are deemed sluts when they have casual sex, men not. Is that okay? Of course not. It's a double standards and no double standard is okay. But I would never call myself a slut or perceuive myself as a slut. I'm just a woman who loves sex, and loves to act it out. Why restrain myself? For other people's opinions... pfffff... never! ;) But I get your point @Red_Dragon..

[Red_Dragon]

@JulyAndrews So a guy who's promiscuous is just a man?

[Mesonfielde]

@JulyAndrews I judge everyone equally for casual sex with strangers, regardless of gender, lol.

[JulyAndrews]

@Red-Dragon I don't even like the word promiscuous. What I'm saying is that man don't get the slut labeled slammed on them if they like to have casual sex. That's it! and @Mesonfielde yeah in your reality both men and women are sluts if they enjoy casual sex. You are entitled to your opinion. I don't share it of course ;)

[Red_Dragon]

@JulyAndrews Why you don't like the word promiscuous?

[JulyAndrews]

Just don't like the negativity surrounding that word ;) majority of people use that word to judge people in a negative way. But in biologoy most species are called promiscuous and it has no negative meaning, and that's because the animal kingdom doesn't have these silly moral sexual codes we forced on ourselves (as a species)

[Red_Dragon]

@JulyAndrews Uhhhhh. So there's no term to describe it? There's literally nothing. Just a person who has sex. LOL.

[JulyAndrews]

What do you mean? I totally have no idea what you're talking about now. "so there's no term to describe it". Describe what?

[Red_Dragon]

@JulyAndrews A promiscuous guy. What me and you have been talking about. You said you don't even like the word promiscuous. So can't use the promiscuous guy term.

[Mesonfielde]

@JulyAndrews I am entitled to it and I stand by it. I don't understand people who have sex with randoms, I don't see the point. Then again, I'm fairly picky about everything and everyone. It's not that surprising that I'm picky about sexual partners as well.

[JulyAndrews]

You can use promiscuous for a guy but society doesn't care about men's sexual behaviour unless it's crminal (sexual assault/rape)... you can fuck aroud as much as you want with no effects. So I don't understand where you want to go with this discussion. I have been very clear about what I said and now I feel like I'm repeating myself lol.

[JulyAndrews]

@Mesonfielde I'm not trying to convince you otherwise. But your view is not fact, it's a personal opinion and your personal view on sex. I think people who share your view on sex are insane. But hey.. that's my personal opinion. I would never present it as a fact though ;)

[Red_Dragon]

@JulyAndrews If you didn't get the picture by now you should have. I really don't care what society thinks about the word. I thought you didn't like it yourself, but you seem to be saying that you don't like it because of what society thinks about it. "Just don't like the negativity surrounding that word ;)"

[Mesonfielde]

@JulyAndrews how is it insane to link sexuality with emotional connection, thus getting "physical intimacy"?

[stevie123]

You are not a slut if it was a onetime thing.
Sometimes horniness just takes over and you need it when you need it.
Try to keep the hookups to a minimum, tho, or you could change your ststus

[Mesonfielde]

The fact that she has sex with people she's just met basically means she is a slut.

[Scorpio909]

@Mesonfielde No it doesn't.

[stevie123]

My definition of a slut is a girl that REPEATEDLY goes out and gets random guys, over and over. This girl had a couple of random hookups, so far. If she keeps it up, her status will change, but for now, she is just experimenting, lets say.

[Mesonfielde]

If you have sex with a random person, you're a slut.

[stevie123]

Everybody has their own understanding of a word, that's why i stated my feelings about it. @Mesonfielde feels that one hookup is slutty, i feel many hookups are slutty. We only disagree on a number. I don't prefer random hookups, but do realize that it can happen.

[Mesonfielde]

Agreed I guess. I stand by my notion that you're a *slut* if you partake in sexual behavior without prior connection. Aka, you don't even know the person. You have more friends with benefits? That's polyamory. Some could claim that's also a "slut" because you have sex with multiple people. But I think that's still a more reasonable stance as you actually have a connection with them. You know who they are. They are important to you. But a random person from the bar? The hell? So yeah, I link the term with "random hookups".

[Jerusha]

I judge no one. I'm not a god, I'm a furball.

[Mesonfielde]

I like you already and am surprised I have not seen you before.

[Jerusha]

@Mesonfielde hahahaha thank you :P

[JackKerouac77]

YOU ARE A GOD TO ME. WORSHIP THE FUR

[Jerusha]

Lmfao xD furrr.

[CuddlesWillDie]

Society needs more people like you because its not getting enough sex, it would greatly bring down the amount of rape crimes, so, respect *Bro-fist*

[been_waiting]

Society needs to stop raping women instead actually *bro-fist*

[CuddlesWillDie]

People rape because they don't get enough sex in the first place, I treat sexual hunger like real hunger, the longer one goes unfed the more and more desperate they because until they hit a point where "anything" will do, and that includes those they should "never" have sex with

[cats98]

really sounds like you think rape is okay

[Tdieseler]

Society was the one that started judging women like her in the first place that made women not want to have so much sex but I am SO agreeing with this statement. I doubt it will reduce the rate of rape crimes though. I just believe women should just show and express/do their sexual need... and can I participate in the bro-fist lol *bro-fist*

[psykobrahe]

Being horny is no excuse for committing rape.

[thisGUYknows]

Not a slut. Generous with vagina.

[Mesonfielde]

Uh. Please specify the difference, haha.

[thisGUYknows]

@mesonfielde exactly

[AJElectric]

Yes, did you at least take a shower before you hooked up with the next guy.

[TheWorldIsUrs]

Yes it makes you a slut but who cares? If your a slut your a slut you can't change who you are & nor should you be ashamed of who you are either. Just make sure you don't trick some poor bastard into marrying you when you knew he would never have married you if he knew you were a slut/re-formed slut. It's wrong to ruin a persons life like that, so you should marry a man who wants to marry a slut/re-formed slut & not trick a man who doesn't want to marry a slut/re-formed slut into marrying you... (:

[TheWorldIsUrs]

Judging by the downvote/s to my opinion so far. At least one chump has been tricked into marrying a sloot/re-formed sloot. Damn.. that poor bastard... :/

[chocolatedragon]

You should be more concerned about whether you caught an STD or not. Your sex life is your private affair, you don't need tell pepole how many times you bang in one night.

[Shibbi]

no I don't think so

[Mesonfielde]

Well technically from the standpoint of the definition, the mere fact that you would just have sex with someone from a bar that you've met in a bar that day and see it as absolutely normal would make you a slut, the fact that you just waltzed over to someone else whom you haven't seen in a month is just the icing on the cake.

[Red_Dragon]

Exactly.

[kangy]

Nod head

[JackKerouac77]

Sure, and I agree with all these definitions, but were you safe? Did you bareback some random dudes? If so, then you might want to start re-thinking your sexual life and health. You don't have to tell yourself you're a bad person or nonsense like that, but just ask "Is this what I want to keep doing for the rest of my life? "Do I enjoy these types of experiences? "Does this fit into my definitions of love or just hedonism?" and etc. etc. Only you can make your own life choices.

[wellmademachine]

Do you even have to ask this question? of course it makes you a slut. Every guy that tells you other wise just loves sluts. lmao, Does it make me a slut. (chuckles). Guys your age love that though. They don't want a relationship, they want pusseeeee! I hope you at least used protection and washed out your clam.

[abundantlyrich]

You got a very elastic hole. I wish i could i could two birds with one stone.

[KBob93]

I don't think so, hence "I've never done this before. "

[CommieKiller]

Yes, that's just horrible. Women like you are why I'm pretty much a misogynist.

[Red_Dragon]

Really? What if a guy has casual sex?

[CommieKiller]

Well I've disowned and slandered male relatives for cheating on their wives. @Red_Dragon There's no double standard with me. It's the consistency of which women act like this though that bothers me. Yeah, there are some man-sluts out there, but there's a much smaller number of them compared to the female sluts in my experience. Even the majority of women who aren't like this will probably leap to this girl's defense if a guy like me calls her a slut.

[Scorpio909]

Yeah don't listen to this guy. As long as you are responsible about it and aren't getting knock up and contract half the known STD's you're fine.

[Mesonfielde]

@Red_Dragon they're equally as morally bankrupt from this perspective :P

[Red_Dragon]

Cheating is immoral by any standard. Being a slut may not be. Well I don't know I think gender plays no role. I think both men and women can be sluts and I wouldn't be surprised if it's a equal amount of them. From my experience it's equal.

[kangy]

I dont disagree with you on promiscuous behaviour

[Red_Dragon]

@kangy Yeah we know you don't.

[kangy]

That's great ^^

[CommieKiller]

@Red_Dragon Well considering everywhere I look, I see some virgin guy like me losing his fucking mind because he can't find a decent virgin girlfriend, I have to disagree. Whether it's on this site, the new, or one of my friends in real life, it happens consistently. I don't see any virgin girls losing their fucking minds because they can't find a virgin guy. Any virgin girl could get a virgin guy in a day if that's what they really wanted, but instead they all seem to be going for the same handful of players. I'm frustrated myself, and struggling just to maintain my sanity. It's going to literally cost me thousands to go overseas looking for love if I ever want to marry a chick who might not have HPV or herpes. It's one thing to annoy me, but when people's bad behavior is literally costing me thousands, fuck them. People better be glad you can't get punched through the internet is all I have to say.

[CommieKiller]

the news*

[Red_Dragon]

Ohhhhh see the first part of that is all I needed to read.

[CommieKiller]

@Red_Dragon Seriously though, you can't deny there are tons of guys in pretty much the same situation as me, who lose their fucking minds, on a daily basis. Society is causing those men to lose their minds. It's not right of people to sit around and blame those guys for going crazy. There's a cause behind every effect. I refuse to believe that in recent years a bunch of young men's brains malfunctioned all at the same time for no reason and caused them all to go on shooting sprees or end up in the loony bin.

[Red_Dragon]

Go get a prostitute? Go out and talk to girls? Go to a party? Go to a club? Go to a bar? I mean in a way I kind of understand you just because maybe I suffer from being a "late bloomer". Idk. The shooting spree stuff is a different matter. I mean I know you are referring to Rodgers, but bro that's a bigger can of worms than what we are talking about here.

[CommieKiller]

@Red_Dragon Rodgers is just a feminist boogey man because he was so easy to pin the misogynist label on. But he's only the tip of the iceberg. All these shooters and maniacs are only a minority of the nerdy virgin guys who have been displaced by the sexual revolution. In the past shy, introverted guys had plenty of shy, introverted women to hook up with. People paired up early and got married back then, as opposed to screwing around for 10 years first. Now women are all losing it around age 13, so it's damn near impossible for say a 26 year old or even a 20 year old virgin guy to hook up with a girl who is on the same level as him sexually. It's not just about sex for all of us. Some guys might be content to lose their virginity to a prostitute, but guys like me are looking for wife material, not a quickie.

[Red_Dragon]

Bro don't give me that shy introverted stuff. I'm shy and introverted and chicks still want me. Heck I've literally been asked out before by a chick before. And she was tall and I'm short. Rodgers I think was decent in attractiveness, had some money, and a nice BMW. If anything he could pull the shallow chicks. He had other issues. Other things going on with him that's not normal. Also I don't like that you think that guys who are introverted and shy can only get with girls who are introverted and shy. Not true. Outgoing and talkative girls like me too. As far as how early people are having sex again that's another can of worms bro. That's a much bigger problem you are bringing up. I'm not going to get into all that. Well considering the fact that most of society considers promiscuous people (sluts) as dirty, nasty, STD filled, disgusting, creatures. Considering most people like exclusive relationships I don't see the problem.

[LittleSally]

But if you hate women for that behaviour, but don't hate men for the same behaviour, then you're a hypocrite with a double standard... (you said you condemn men for the behaviour but hate only women)... Being shy has nothing to do with anything... Just because women don't like you, you try to hate them in return. They're just going to be more and more put off by you.

[CommieKiller]

@Red_Dragon I agree Rodgers had other issues. I'm no psychologist though so I'm not going to preach about what those issues might have been. As for society hating sluts, that may have been true to an extent when I was a kid, but I really feel that it moved in the opposite direction as I was growing up, and now we're seeing it become politically incorrect to slut-shame. The sexual revolution started as far back as the 60's from what I understand with all that free love nonsense. Ever since the traditional family unit has been in decline, and children have been affected negatively by this. Women used to be all about finding a nice husband to have babies with. Now they're all about finding a hot boyfriend to fuck around with, and they're all on birth control, and don't want kids until they're nearly 30. The problem with that is that the men who still want to start a traditional family young are basically marginalized, and deemed "creepy" by girls who are afraid of serious commitment.

[Red_Dragon]

Yeah true on Rodgers. I see your point. I think it's general and bias, but I see what you're saying.

[CommieKiller]

@LittleSally Well I'm a man myself, and I'm not trying to date men. I'm pretty sure if I was a woman, and men acted the way women do, I would be a misandrist. Maybe I'm a hypocrite, but so are all the guys who like getting their dicks sucked, but don't like sucking dick, if you want to be that technical about it.

[LittleSally]

Not really relatable at all... O. o

[CommieKiller]

@LittleSally Considering you saw the word misogynist and decided to jump on the Hateful Feminist bandwagon rather than even try to relate, I'm not surprised.

[LittleSally]

How COULD I possibly relate with such an exaggerated generalization... You should probably think before you write... O. o

[LittleSally]

Hahaha awww... So funny. =)

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

Well, I think the typical person would say yes. I'm not very typical, so I'm going to say no. If you like sex, well what the hell, why shouldn't you have it?

The scenario you described strikes me as... questionable decision making and maturity... but wanting and having sex in and of itself is and should be a non-issue.

And I abhor the term "slut." Labels and judgment aren't healthy or helpful.

[Asker]

There needs to be more people like you in this world. ;)

[kangy]

I think u need to respect yourself

[Red_Dragon]

How is it disrespectful?

[kangy]

I am not telling

[justbanANNAz]

agreed.

[Red_Dragon]

LOL okay.

[Red_Dragon]

@JustBanANNAz No explanation either?

[JulyAndrews]

Yeah how is it disrespectful?

[Bysshe]

How is doing something you want to do not respecting yourself?

[KwazyBruhhh]

No it doesn't make you a slut.

There is no such thing as a slut.

Some people have a Liberal attitude towards sex and some people have a Conservative attitude towards sex.

There's no right or wrong, good or bad. It's your preference.

[Mesonfielde]

Just because from an objective standpoint the term describes promiscuity even with people with whom you had no formal or informal relation, and is basically just a "social" word attributed to a specific type of "behavior pattern", that doesn't mean the word exists. There is such a thing as a slut. She has the mentality of a slut due to her open promiscuity. Is that objectively good? No. Is that objectively bad? No. Does it have more risks than not being promiscuous? Yes. Will people say she is slutty behavior if she displays "slutty" behavior? Yes.

[Red_Dragon]

She's a slut, but it's not necessarily immoral.

[KwazyBruhhh]

I disagree entirely. She have as much sex as she wants with as many guy as she wants. It's her life and she should live her life according to her needs and wants. She shouldn't be ashamed of enjoying sex. I just hope for her sake she isn't Liberal about contraception as STD and unwanted pregnancies are no laughing matter.

[KwazyBruhhh]

Slut is a dirty word, I don't like how loosely that word is thrown around either. It's acceptable for guys to bang away until their heart is content and no-one bats an eyelid, yet when a woman does it, she's a slut. No sorry, I don't engage in bigotry or discrimination. A girl that enjoys sex and has had multiple partners is not a slut, she is just someone who enjoys sex and I say 'good for her'.

[Red_Dragon]

Slut isn't a dirty word to me. By society's standards it is, but do you do everything society tell you to do? By definition it just means promiscuity. No I could consider myself a slut too. I wouldn't go against that. You are speaking out of society's mouth. Why don't you think for yourself?

[JulyAndrews]

Agree with you @KwazyBruhhh In every way. Slut is considered a slur against women who enjoy sex like men do and have the same mentality as men have when it comes to sex @Red_Dragon. Just like the N word is a slur against black people.

[Mesonfielde]

She can have as many sex as she wants with anyone. That still doesn't change the fact that according to the social definition, she IS a SLUT.

[Bandit74]

Now you're insulting and trying to make him feel like less than you by calling him short in a just because his opinion differs from yours. The word short often has a negative connotation and would hurt a short persons feelings the same way slut would hurt a girl. The difference is that being slutty or promiscuous is a CHOICE you are insulting him based on something he has no control over. So stop with this political correctness bullshit. Either all offensive words are bad or none are. Don't cherry pick.

[KwazyBruhhh]

HAHAHA I'm short myself bruhhhh Don't get it twisted. Also there is no such thing as a slut. Just a woman that enjoys sex.

[Mesonfielde]

Not true, promiscuity and enjoying sex are two different things.

[TheWorldIsUrs]

@KwazyBruhhh She's a slut. There is such a thing as a slut, you denying that is like me denying gravity. Her being a slut is not ''wrong'' or ''right'' seeing as ''morality'' is subjective & defers person to person. ''Liberal'' & ''conservative'' attitudes can not truly be defined as ''good'' or ''bad''. ''Conservatism'' is a mentality that is usually supported by ''traditionalists'' (the Oldguard), while ''liberalism'' is a mentality that is ''new'' & is usually supported by ''radicals'' (the vanguard). Think of it like this: the ''conservatives'' of 1776 in the U. S. were those supporting the King while the ''liberals'' of 1776 in the U. S. were those gun-totting farmers turned revolutionaries fighting for independence. @DearRustled: This comment you just had deleted cuz it hurt ur feewings; was not ''antagonizing'' in any way you fucking thin skinned beta af bitchboi. SRSLY! How tf does me giving you a history lesson & fucking FACTS equate into me antagonizing you, u gd beta!

[psykobrahe]

Am so fucking tired of all the preachy idiots on here.

I know you probably grew up with your minds warped by religion, trashy fiction and low self-esteem, but still: why?

Why that unbearable compulsion to lay into strangers because they have sex, and like it? Why that charmless need to own the person you're having a relationship with? Why the rampant distrust?

I get so damn sad.

[I_Have_No_Balls]

This.

[psykobrahe]

Thanks man :)

[Mesonfielde]

I'm confused about the overall message of your opinion.

[psykobrahe]

@Mesonfielde: My opinion is that people should be free to have sex with whoever they please, as often as they please, as long as it is consenting. It is also my opinion that they should not be shamed publicly or otherwise abused for this behaviour. In addition, I believe that being in a relationship does not grant you ownership over the other person in that relationship.

[Mesonfielde]

""In addition, I believe that being in a relationship does not grant you ownership over the other person in that relationship."" True. It's a relation, it symbolises the connection between the two people. That's not ownership, neither person is property. A relation stands upon equality.

[GalaxyHotChoc]

You have to ask? I mean really?
Fucxing two guys in one night.. You have no shame, or self respect.

[Bysshe]

Technically the second one was the next day... Obviously she fits the definition of a slut, but what's wrong with that? If having sex with those guys is what she wanted how is that lacking self respect? Why should people be ashamed of enjoying themselves if nobody gets hurt? (Assuming adequate precautions are taken.)

[GalaxyHotChoc]

Well technically she asked. So I'm giving my opinion. So what's your problem?

[Bysshe]

I was just joking about it being the next day. My 'problem' is why you think that means she lacks self respect.

[GalaxyHotChoc]

Ok tell me one thing.. How is this NOT a lack of self respect?

[Red_Dragon]

Because she's doing what herself wants to do. A lack of self respect would be someone considering suicide.

[Bysshe]

If a guy had sex with two women in one night would you see he lacked self respect?

[GalaxyHotChoc]

@Red_Dragon Dafuq? Commiting suicide is also an act of doing what oneself wants to do , but obviously they're in a different state of mind. I wouldn't even compare it to this. @Bysshe well I would respect him less, as so would most other females.

[Red_Dragon]

Well now that I thought about it it depends on the situation. Be it suicide or having sex casually self respect comes from having low self esteem or high self esteem. How do you know this girl has low self esteem? I would think someone who is ready to kill themselves is more than likely low in self esteem and thus low in self respect than someone who is having sex casually. It's situational.

[psykobrahe]

@mystery7: Or maybe, she was horny, and doesn't base her self respect on what judgmental people think she should do with her body.

[GalaxyHotChoc]

In entitled to my opinion. Shut up.

[PineappleBreath]

No it doesn't you can fuck whoever you want to when you want too, wherever, and as much as you want and and just say fuck you to all the haters because your having sex while they are bitching on the internet.

[TheWorldIsUrs]

Yes it does make her a slut but who cares? You/she CAN be a slut, it's not ''wrong'' or ''right'' for her to do this. Just because she IS a slut by definition, DOESN'T mean it's ''wrong'' for her to be a slut.

[PineappleBreath]

Then my definition of slut is way different from yours, for me it's someone who uses sex as a weapon to control or hurt someone. This slut shaming bullshit is what let other people control a girls sexuality by making her value being tied to how many dudes she banged. I think it's just being a normal human being, you get horny you fuck. No need to tie a label to it that carries a mountain of horseshit on top of it that justifies all sorts of sexist stuff.

[TheWorldIsUrs]

If that's your definition of ''slut'' then fine just make sure you have a word in your personal dictionary for what she is cuz it would be kinda weird if you didn't seeing as how we humans make definitions in order to define many different things; such as actions & if you don't have a word for it yet then may I suggest the word ''sloot''? :S

[PineappleBreath]

The whole point is that the word slut is meaningless. People each have some arbitrary limit of the number of sexual partners that is acceptable and once you exceed it your a slut. I mean where does it end, the stripper in a monogamous relationship, the married woman of 20 years who had a couple of one night stands before, people in a open relationship, or what about people who had to expirement to find their sexuality. Every bodies sex drive is different so just people be who they are.

[Mesonfielde]

I link it to pre-existing emotional connection for the given sexual activity. If you have sex with someone from a bar, you are a slut. If you have sex with people you actually know, you're sexually liberal.

[PineappleBreath]

So someone in a shitty relationship that the person has sex with but lost the emotional connection is a slut (that includes marriges)?

[PineappleBreath]

And besides who said feelings have to be love, most girls fuck a guy because they like him isn't that enough? Plus I have seen girls Develop feelings in a night. I mean I look at it like two people love each other for that moment whether a night or maybe a couple of years.

[Asker]

thanks for standing up for me :)

[justaregularguyy]

Yeah that's pretty bad lol

[powpowbampoof]

Yes...……
That disgusting. If I was the second guy id be pissed

[psykobrahe]

@lacosteboy1: Said the guy with the classy username...

[larry69]

Nothing wrong with having more sex. I mean it's your body.

[larry69]

Did you have enough orgasms?

[bubbletrouble]

Not if you don't tell anybody.

[bubbletrouble]

@TheWorldIsUrs Please don't trick a woman into marrying your broke ass. Women hate that.

[TheWorldIsUrs]

How would that even be possible? Am I gonna take her to my friend's ''mansion'' & say it's mine or something? :S

[legalboxers]

thats not a slut.. thats crazy behavior. But question is why..

[Syndia]

If no one paid you then no.
You just enjoy sex. Nothing wrong with that.

[Mesonfielde]

You are mixing the term "slut" and "prostitute". Slut refers to people who are promiscuous with people they don't really have any prior relation with.

[Syndia]

I looked at the definition and it said the same as prostitute but ok

[Mesonfielde]

UrbanDictionary is better for slang terms, and "slut" is a slang term.

[Shonnyybeyotch]

No I mean I did it before 😝😜 YOLO

[24yr_old_whiteguy]

Um, sounds like you are very generous. Lol, jk. I would say that would definitely be the definition of a slut, but some could say you are just living your life, having fun, exploring. But if you have made a commitment to someone then you are totally a slut. But i say live your life the way you want. Men who do exactly what you did would be praised and envied by other men.

[Asker]

Lol thank u for not judging me :)

[Kdmedic]

I think some women get horner trying guys in 1 night or even 2 days.

Though I recommend you Douche before the second guy or he will smell the first guy. Even condoms leave a tell tale smell as does some lubes.

I've been through this with my friends with benefits and she has a tendency to like 2 guys in 1 day. I recommend you do the smaller penis first and larger one second or 2 people may be dissatisfied.

[Kdmedic]

And yes its slutty behavior, but depending on your homelife, relationships, satisfaction level and ability to say no, you may grow up being a woman who typically needs more than 1 man in your life or from an early age trauma have developed this way. My friends with benefits of 14 years still has the need to see a friend or two even in a week we have sex 4 or 5x a week. It's how she grew up and we have great climaxs together (no faking allowed) I'd rather she didn't, but it's always the same 3 of us and being older than her I appreciate her spending the majority of our 1.5hrs having quality sex every few days. She says she's set in her ways having up to 30 orgasms a week and I gave up saying anything other than if you need to wash or douche you know where it is.

[Kdmedic]

Sluts no, bar sluts definitely no. Not even with a double condom. That fish odor means run the other way. A former slut (or whore) who has decided to settle for a few favorite men, is tested regularly, then let's frolic.

[Anonymous]

Well, having sex with 2 guys in one night doesn't make you queen of England
you got figure out why you self indulge in that type of risky sexual behavior
this will follow you all your life and your young yet , i hope someday you can
see what can happen within years from the time you engage in such
high sexual risk
I was hoping this isn't true i will pray for you

[Anonymous]

Yes, but whats wrong with being a slut?

[Anonymous]

Yes it does !!

[Anonymous]

Its nasty because you probably didn't shower after the first and before the last, i see women on the corner do the same things

[Anonymous]

Yep, it does

[Anonymous]

Yes it does

[Anonymous]

so many people commenting that her cause is ok, just gives a glance of future world n society what it would be. people who don't recognize their moms, fathers, sister. Not only that, people who don't see any value of family and see sex as only a physical action. I don't know what is the word "slut" means but I can tell you that as same as this argument here, there will be arguments in future that people are saying "what's wrong with having sex with your mom/sister, it's physical intimacy, it's your body etc". you will give big "NO" to that, but in past we didn't had people saying what some people have said here.

[Anno_Domini]

Brave New World, here we come! xD :(

[Mesonfielde]

""see sex as only a physical action"" This sounds horrible. Why are you anonymous? I want to follow you. I approve of everyone who sees it as "physical intimacy".

[JadedandReckless]

I don't know what the world will become if things like her case is ok to happened to all people. thats just sad.

[psykobrahe]

Yeah, because families would be so much better off if people just abstained from sex before marriage, then married one person and lived happily ever after. Like in the fairytales. And anyone who disagrees has set off down the road to incest. Jeez.

[Anonymous]

Not if nobody finds out ;)

[Anonymous]

YES. you slut...

[Anonymous]

yes you are a slut

[Anonymous]

I guess u are a slut only if you are in a committed relationship and cheat on it. 2 for a night is a little above par. But if u loved it, nothing to care about..

[Mesonfielde]

Nnnnnno. Cheating is a whole different question.

[Anonymous]

Yea I think it does

[Anonymous]

Whore alert whore alert whore alert whore alert

[Hannah591]

Immature alert

[JulyAndrews]

Doesn't say she asked money for her services. So therefor she's not a whore. whore (hôr, hr) n. 1. A prostitute. 2. A person considered sexually promiscuous. 3. A person considered as having compromised principles for personal gain. intr. v. whored, whor·ing, whores 1. To associate or have sexual relations with prostitutes or a prostitute. 2. To accept payment in exchange for sexual relations. 3. To compromise one's principles for personal gain.

[Mesonfielde]

@JulyAndrews Yeah, she's not a whore, she is a slut :D

[JulyAndrews]

@Mesonfielde to me she's not a slut ;) Just a PERSON who doesn't give a damn about society's views on sexual behaviour. To me that's a strong person and not a weak minded sheep that keeps itself in restraints for someone else or because he/she is too afraid of what others might think of them ;P

[Mesonfielde]

@JulyAndrews well yes, she still meets the definition for the social term "slut".

[JulyAndrews]

@Mesonfielde I know that, and your previous comment already mentioned that ;) Like I said in a different reply, I think people with that view are insane. So yes, I find a lot of viewpoints that live in society insane :D Humans as a species are just fucked in the head lol..

[Mesonfielde]

@JulyAndrews define "fucked in the head", we might agree. I find my point reasonable, but that's what all insane people say.