Does he like me or is he after sex?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been seeing this guy for about 3 months now, we first started talking around my birthday and he gave me $600 as a present. He has brought me around his friends and even used to refer to me as his girlfriend but he doesn’t really say that anymore.
I’ve noticed that mostly every time we see each other we hook up, I brought this up with him and he was very upset.. he even broke things off with me briefly saying we should be friends if I think he’s only after sex. After that we got back together and when we see each other he’ll say we don’t have to do anything but we end up doing it anyway.
I called him while he was asleep one night and He woke up and came to my house at 1am, we talked for like 2 hours and ended up hooking up. The next night he came over at 4am after the club but just ended up cuddling on my couch, when he left he said he is so horny but didn’t want to initiate anything because he doesn’t want me to think that way. Does he actually like me or is he smartly using me for sex?

[Whatever2929292]

Yea that is really a good chance that he is using you. Calling someone while they are sleeping though when it is not a emergency is not really a good thing it makes you seem like you don't care about someone else only yourself and are entitled to their time

[Asker]

I didn’t ask him to come. We were supposed to hang out that night and I got home late, I didn’t expect him to be asleep. Called him to tell him I just got home and he said he’ll come by still.

[Whatever2929292]

Oh ok sorry I misunderstood.

[Fireguy17]

In my opinion it is for sex.
If you look at his behavior pattern it would seem that way.
It doesn't sound like you have a "normal " relationship.
Going out on dates, day trips, things that most couples do.
Just like you sat, you are hooking up.
I have never referred that term with any of my girlfriends.

[Asker]

Oh we have gone out and he’s asked me a few times to take trips with him when he goes away, but I wasn’t able to because of work. I just left out that part.

[Fireguy17]

Ok then I would have to change my answer to clueless. Only you can decide what you will and won't put up with. Best of luck. Hope it goes well.

[summiter]

I think he likes you. How often are you two having sex?

[Asker]

At least twice a week.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Let me reverse it.. Aren't you using him just for sex?

[Asker]

No.. I actually like him.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Calling him whilst he was sleeping, getting him to come round at 1am for sex, and admitted by you that you initiated it.. isn't that using him?

[Asker]

We were supposed to hang out that night and I got home late. I called him to tell him I just got home, he is usually awake at that time but this time he was asleep. I didn’t tell him to come, I told him if he wants to he can or we can hang out another time. He came. I didn’t admit it initiating sex, in fact I didn’t even say who did?

[TommyMountainFigure]

You did say he doesn't initiate sex though? Because he doesn't want you thinking it is just sex for him? I got caught on that and forgot to actually answer your question which is no I don't think he is using a clever way.. He obviously likes you enough to get up from a sleep to come straight round!

[WhitneySnow]

I think he actually likes you

[RavVid]

Its a bit strange that after just meeting you on your birthday he gave you $600. That was over the top.

As to calling you girlfriend his friends know you are now so there isn't the need to now. Are you calling him your boyfriend or was it just one way?

Its not strange that you have sex when you meet up. I think that is just to be expected if you are starting a relation ship

[Rizwan_khan]

It may be using you or not be. I can't say that not enough info. To say anything.

[In_Trance]

After sex

[Nahid1707]

What do you think?😊

[Waldoe]

He actually likes you, and I cannot understand why... You obviously don't like him, you are suspicious of everything he says or does. Break-up with him, so he can find someone that can Love and Trust him, You are too damaged to have a real relationship... Get healthy... Before you torture another poor guy

[CubaPirate]

All of the above probably

[Kolinator]

I think he likes you because his reactions were very hurt when u talked with him I think it's real love for him