Does he no longer enjoy the sex or why does he do this?

[Anonymous]

This was a while ago when I reconnected with someone, there were a few times we were having sex… and then he will pulled out to start masturbating infront of me sayin he really wants to cum.

[ZionSpartan]

Without penetration this is what lesbian relationships are like. I had a lesbian complain about the same thing to me before and eventually left. The same will probably happen to purple you. your man might have issues because fat guys tend to suffer from a micro penis and fat chicks need a bigger dong to service the place she hides her thong. If an overweight woman wears a string bikini and you can't see it because of her weight is she still wearing it? Lady there's your problem your fat and don't wear perfume and makeup. It's also great that he hasn't gone down because that's how HPV is spread around. I wish someone told me that while growing up so I didn't risk turning into Valk Kilmer one day.

[Asker]

Your wrong about both assumptions you have here about my situation, thanks for spreading your bad exp to others and projecting it here though.

[ZionSpartan]

Lmao, I'm just kidding with you, baby girl. You might need to and sexually stimulate him some more. Or maybe he has porn induced erectile dysfunction.

[ZionSpartan]

I wish the best for you.

[Markm3212]

mmmm reconnecting with someone... never a good idea. onc you have closed a door never go back.

it sounds like he is treating you like a cheap whore and disrespecting you. also sounds like he's not that into you if he has to do that, i would have just kept pumping until done

[Asker]

Yeah I’m surprised.. like we would be having sex for a while and then he will pulled out saying that … or if he exhaust me… he will start doing that and of course I’ll help him.. so I just don’t get it..

[Markm3212]

well having never done this myself, i dont know either. however i do now from experience that my ex's are ex's for a reason. doesn't matter who ended the relationship it was ended for a reason and over time the brain forgets the bad parts and just remembers the good and thats why we fall for going back to them. however after shutting enough doors you learn not to reopen them again. i guess though the question is do you mind him doing this? if so i wouldn't stand for it and i would let him know. if however you are ok with this then thats your decision

[Asker]

Great questions… well idk… we ended for same reasons that he’s not ready for a relationship due to him not having time and dedication (he has a lot of issues such as mom passing away and such). But I don't know if I’ll ever talk about it again with him since we ended. We weren’t official but we were getting close to being official a year ago while he was waiting for me to be ready to say yes but he suddenly backed off sayin he’s not ready to fully commit… due to those reasons. But Um idk… Im not used to it… I guess I don’t like seeing it happen a lot cuz it’s kinda weird for me making me feel like maybe he don’t enjoy our sex like before? We used to have crazy wild sex before when we were dating.. so when we reconnected, I don't know what’s really up … sighs. But it does kinda put me down.. and I’m trying to get over him. Though I keep remembering small things that makes me insecure

[Markm3212]

well it sounds like you are not going to see him again and its probably for the best, it will allow you to move on and find mr right. after all all the time your with someone else or friends with benifits or whatever it is, your not looking for or will miss the right person however had it meant to be you would have both waited for each other and, this would not have been an issue. the fact that last time you had crazy wild sex and this time it was just, well not sure how to describe it, it sounds like you are not sure and therefor its a no, had you liked it then you would have been enjoying it. i hope that you find mr right soon.

[Asker]

I don't know I’ve been advice never to wait for someone who’s not ready.. lol. I also don’t think so either. I feel like if he really want to come back and make it work, I should let him go to be happy and be in a better place in life that he wanna do.. so when he’s ready and if he does want me, he will make it happen. I did asked if he would wanna try again when things are better for him, he said maybe if we both are in better place in life but he also don’t know how he will feel then… Our sex chemistry was still there & it’s fun, but it wasn’t as wild during that very short period reconnecting… not sure if he’s the right person since he did left.. so I’m obviously a little insecure about him and trying to focus on just myself now… does he not sound like he right person?

[Markm3212]

sounds like you have the right idea and focus on yourself and not worry about others, at the end of the day you are the most important person in your life and you need to first and foremost make sure that you are happy, at the end of the day you only get one life. from what you have described, it sounds like the sex wasn't as good as last time and that the spark that you maybe had last time wasn't really there? lets face it you can have good sex with a lot of people its that connection between 2 people thats hard to find, the getting along in normal life, liking spending time with each other, doing things together, etc. to be honest, from what you have written, it doesn't sound like he is the right person, as if he was, would you be on here asking these questions? i would imagine that the answer is no. i know from previous relationships that when the right person was in front of me i went at it with all that i had and done all that i could. that doesn't seem to be the case this time?

[Asker]

I agree and that’s what I’m trying to do here with myself Actually I did still feel a connection with him which was why I was opened to trying again… the first time we had sex again was still good, but he will do that thing I mentioned where he would eventually pulled out sayin he wanna cum.. and it throws me off after the first time we had sex again after a long time. I think this time I was more hesitant since he didn't ended before.. it was like I was still interested but we barely started tbh and he called it off. So I didn’t even get to see where it had gone at all.. but I knew I would slowly fall back for him again if he was actually gonna tried again. So are you sayin if he would of done the same as you if he was the right person? And so because he didn’t… then he’s not the right person? 😟

[Asker]

And well to answer your question, you wanted to give it my best this time… but he called things off… like we had a long talk to resolve issues.. and agreed to try again… but the next day he called it off after I asked if he’s really ready and he said he wasn’t… then he said he felt kinda depress we still can’t be together cuz he’s not ready.. and of course I was sad too

[Asker]

I wanted to give my best* autocorrect blah

[RobT312]

That’s no fun! If you guys aren’t using birth control he prob. Doesn’t want to get you prego

[wankiam]

didn't you just ask him? i mean we can only guess it was something like not wanting to get you preggers or he has seen a lot of creampie porn lately... i mean he clearly likes a wank

[Asker]

If it was option b… he didn’t enjoy our sex? I did ask him, but he would only said he just really wanna cum…. And yeah I wasn’t on birth control

[Daniela1982]

If you were not on birth control why would you be complaining that he pulled out. Like what?

[Asker]

Lol girl you don’t get the question. It’s not a complaint. It’s a concern he may not be enjoying the sex.

[Daniela1982]

And I'm surprised you aren't asking the usual trolling question : "Can I get pregnant if we have sex when I'm not on birth control"? *rolls eyes* You have more to worry about whether he enjoyed it.

[Asker]

When you like someone, you wanna be sure the sexual chemistry is still there that’s why. So I don't know if he suddenly wasn’t feeling it anymore.

[Daniela1982]

More like he didn't want to be responsible for paying child support for 18 years.

[boggboss]

Or he didn't wanna finish inside u

[BarryLiverstone]

He doesn’t want to get you pregnant

[Wise4myage]

Was he afraid of getting you pregnant?

[Jcrummy98]

That's fucked up. I am assuming he is not interested.

[Asker]

Yeah I try asking him that.. but he only said it’s not that but he just wanna cum… so I don't know

[Jcrummy98]

Then why don't he fuck you. Or he just want to cum?

[Asker]

Yeah I’m surprised.. like we would be having sex for a while and then he will pulled out saying that … or if he exhaust me… he will start doing that and of course I’ll help him.. so I just don’t get it..

[Asker]

But I just never had this before because usually he doesn’t do this…

[Jcrummy98]

Just ask him. My goal as a male is to make my partner cum. I'm not that selfish

[Asker]

I did but thats what he said... (we already ended by the way so I haven't bother anymore, but just curious). He also told me that I’m the only girl he hasn’t been able to make me cum.. and that’s a challenge yet it’s also a pride thing for him to be able to do it.

[Hulk30]

not sure he may be pullin out to avoid the pregnancy

[Anonymous]

He doesn't wanna cum inside you and get you pregnant, you dummy!!

[Anonymous]

It sounds like he's being very selfish if he didn't make you cum too.

[Anonymous]

doesn't want to make you pregnant or just wants to cum on your belly, boys like that