Does he only wanna touch me?

(sorry if my English is bad)
i have been sexually abused twice and my boyfriend knows about this. and whenever we meet up he touches my beasts and vaginal area. sometimes i dont like it but i don't tell him because im afraid that he's going to think that im pushing him away. i just don't really like it because it reminds me of the times when i was being abused and i just feel sometimes that he just wanna meet up so he could touch me.
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  • Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering, don't be afraid to loose someone who doesn't deserve you. He ought to be sensitive and understand that you haven't completely healed and he should be considrate and give you time.

    Don't suffer in silence. Tell him how you feel, he will understand if he cares about you, if he doesn't he isn't the man for you, bounce.


    Tell him you are not ready yet, he has to give you more time, take it slow.

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  • I am really sorry for what you have been through it's not fair and as for your boyfriend I think he should be told that you don't like it and I know what it is like to be afraid I've been there where you are but just take your time to find that little bit of courage to say no if he loves you he will understand but bottling it up could lead to him taking advantage thinking has all the power. I wish you all the best take care

Most Helpful Girl

  • If you don't like it you should tell him to stop. He kinda sounds like he might feel like he can get away with being abusive towards you because you've already experienced it before. You should find a better boyfriend.

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  • You need to speak your mind, it's really important. If you don't like it say no. If that pushes him away he wasn't worth you anyway seriously. Don't do anything sexually that you don't like ever.

  • We don't know if it's the only stuff that he do with you, but if you don't like a guy attention than why have a boyfriend in the first place? you have traumas and the main question is if you can overcome your traumas or your rather be single.

  • Firstly I’m sorry to hear that you have been sexually abused. You should talk to your boyfriend about how you feel. If he knows you don’t like to be touched and he still touches you it shows he has no respect for your feelings.
    Either stand up for yourself or get rid of him.

  • Sure sounds like that. You need to find the courage to tell him to stop. when he does this, or better yet, get rid of him and find a guy who respects you.

  • The answer is probably yes. Sounds like there is a pattern of you being used, which is awful, but I think you need to state your boundaries more clear. You don't owe him the right to touch you. He has to ask and you have the right to decline.

  • Honestly it's probably normal Young guys tend to be very horny and want to touch their girlfriend a lot

  • First there are two things here I'm sorry that you have been abused and I hope you are getting the help you need to heal. Second your boyfriend should understand this and not be fondling you every time. Now a lot of guys are physical affection showers and mix it with being horny and you get that so it may be he wants to show affection and he is really horny. You need to talk to him and tell him it makes you uncomfortable.

  • It sounds like he is taking advantage of you; you should stop dating him.