Does he really love me or is it lust?

[Anonymous]

He has all symptoms of love, he wants to marry me too. I'm quite sure he loves me a lot, he's emotionally attached to me, I know that. But he is always too horny. Even when he's talking to me normally, he gets horny. On video calls at night he ends up being hard. We're in long distance relationship, I've met him once, and that's how i got to know him. He wants to meet again, but he's struggling financially. He thanks me a lot for being there for him in his difficult times. We've been talking for over 8 months. He says that he is this horny only with me, and he has never been like this before. Sometimes I don't understand if it is his lust or if he really loves me. He is 28 and I'm 26. I understand being horny is normal. He is usually very busy with his startup, but sometimes if we talk for long hours, he always ends up being horny and we do phone sex. Especially in mornings, sometimes he calls me and shows me how hard he is since last night for me. He gets wet dreams about me. He sleeps everyday with the thought of being inside me. Isn't all this way too much? I get confused with his this behavior.

[Squiggles88]

Be careful with long distance because people can just tell you anything and you never really know what they're upto or what they're really about until you spend real time in person. I say this from personal experience. Best to meet someone more accessible in real life. He sounds a bit sex obsessed and the fact he says he's only got this way with you, well my ex said stuff like this and turns out he was a cheating rat

[Asker]

Yeah that's true. But I'm quite sure he's not cheating, cause the load of work he has is a lot already. There's no way he's handling more than one woman right now. he's sex obsessed, but when I said that I won't have sex until marriage, he said he respects me bla bla etc etc. He never asks for nude either. Overall he's decent and shy, but has huge sex drive.(also he says he won't meet me in private place, like hotel to avoid sex). He confuses me!

[Anonymous]

He most likely have someone else. It's a distraction to throw you off

[Asker]

Yeah you're right. I should stay away from him.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's just being honest with you and if you are cute and sexy that's why. He can love you and still lust after you.

[Asker]

Yeah he says same thing that u said. He tells me not to misunderstand him, He says he can't help about being horny on seeing me. He tells me about everything actually, even his daily small activities, even what conversations he had with his dad or friends or coworkers. I'm so confused with him.

[Opinion Owner]

But why are you confused? Maybe he's head over heels for you.

[Asker]

Okay.. maybe you're right... girls are commenting opposite here lol. 😂

[Opinion Owner]

I think he just adores you, so you should be happy, not sad :)

[Asker]

Okay. Then I'll look into positive side. Negatives are not going to help me anyway since I can't meet him for real.

[Asker]

For now. Will get to know him better when meet.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes concentrate on the positive, he likes you and I would adore you too, so don't worry about anything and jus try to be happy someone adores you. If you see some other kind of bad sign your gut will tell you, don't let your mind wander. Good luck :)

[CoolGuy7532]

I think it's pretty normal. You should try to see each other in person more often and see how it goes.

[Asker]

Okay so men are commenting that it's normal, and females are saying he's not normal. I guess you're right I should meet him to know more.