Does it bother you a lot if your girl or guy gains a lot of weight after you initially dated?

When I first dated my husband I was 20 pounds lighter. I had 3 kids, but I am still a size 6 just not a size 2 anymore. Do you think my husband secretly finds this gross? by the way he is still the same size as when we dated.
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  • It's not a matter of being bothered once one realizes its perfectly normal. As people get into their secure relationships, their need to physically impress goes down. Subsequently, if people get divorced, the first thing they do (esp. women) is go to the gym to look like 16 again.
    If men and women aren't both willing to make peace with the fact that a little extra weight for whatever reason is normal, then they should just stay in bars and gyms for the rest of their lives.

Most Helpful Guy

  • No man will ever leave a woman he loves when they gain a little weight... especially if it's just 20 pounds. However, we also all appreciate when a woman takes care of her health and body appearance. I would say don't worry about what your husband thinks of you, unless he's a shallow type in which case I'm sorry you didn't make a great choice, but rather just workout and put some effort into losing weight so your self confidence goes up. He would also appreciate it ;)

Most Helpful Girls

  • Nope. Not at all. I’ve varied in weight after kids too. He says I’ve been hot at every size.

  • Yes, it would bother me because that's not what I signed up for.

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  • Yes. A lot!!!

    • at least you are honest. I know it bothers at least some people.

    • I married a woman who weighed 120 pounds. In three years, she was up to 170 at 5-4. When she got pregnant, she went up to 280 and never came much off of that. It's a minor reason I left her. I swore I'd never do fat again.

    • Yikes. Some people don't know how to diet.

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  • I have three kids myself. Ex -wife and I didn’t split up because of her weight gain, which was about what yours was. Of voursexwe don’t look Quite as Good as we age.

  • Hun it is fully understandable if you expand somewhat after having.3 kids. You Chad those three children grow and develop into beautiful human beings in your body and he never went through that.

  • Twenty pounds isn't a big deal and if it bothers you cut a few calories and take walks

  • It's called life..

    • So. fucking. true.

  • I like girls with a little bit of weight.
    so I won't mind.

  • It doesn't bother me that my partner has put on a lot of weight to the extent of leaving, but I do admit that I would appreciate if she would have taken care of her body a bit more. Don't get me wrong, I'm still attracted to her, but partners should also work on looking and feeling their best for their SO's in my opinion. I do that myself, working out everyday, getting beach body ready for the summers, and she has said she appreciates that I have a defined body. So would be great if she would lose a few pounds herself.

  • C): Conditions still better Be: Unconditional love.

  • it probably bothers him but he probably also loves you more