Does it bother you if a girl is quiet during sex? Is it a turn off?

Does it bother you if a girl is quiet during sex? Is it a turn off?
For the most part girls seem to fake their screams during sex. I'm just not that type of girl. I'd rather be quiet and enjoy the moment. Only moan if I feel the need to. Is that a turn off?
Yes turn off
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No not a turn off
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  • For many men, knowing that we satisfy you sexually is a huge motivator and we want to know that what we are doing arouses you and brings you to orgasm. How do we know that our efforts are succeeding? We know when you squirm, moan, groan, and tell us how worked up you are.

    I have had a few partners who reminded me of the joke:

    Girl goes to a new gynecologist and is completing the new patient papers. She comes to the question: "Are you sexually active?" She thinks for a minute and then writes, "No, I just lay there."

    Anyway, my ex-wife was very difficult to get aroused and she sometimes needed 20 mnutes or more of direct clitoral stimulation with a bullet vibrator to get her to the point of having an orgasm. And in the meanwhile, she would just lie there, eyes closed, not making a sound, and I don't know if she is about to have an orgasm or maybe she has gone to sleep. Do you see how that could be frustrating to a guy who is trying to please his partner?

    • Might be frustrating for some men but I personally don't feel the need to say everytime I orgasm

    • It would be nice for him!

Most Helpful Guy

  • No. It's not a turn off. What IS a turn off is faking. I want her to be 100% genuine.

    Women tend to be inwardly focused on the sensations, so it's cool, for example, if her eyes are closed, her lips are slightly parted, she's breathing hard while undulating her body in pleasure and pursuit of her own satiation.

    The thing is, men want some kind of sign that she is feeling physical sensation. Along with things I mentioned, moans, gasps, girlish grunts and groans, rolling her head from side to side, clutching at herself, occasional smiles of pleasure or burning passionate gazes, and soft dirty talk like "You feel so good inside me", "Oh, fuck me!", "Don't stop!", "I'm going to cum", and things like that, encourage a guy. A woman has to do something other than lie there like a dead starfish. She doesn't have to emote, but she should participate and give signs of pleasure. The greater her pleasure, the greater is his.

    I never had a loud girlfriend. But their signals made it clear that they were euphoric.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Maybe she thinks the guy is a bum fuck and is sleeping?

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  • I actually prefer women to be on the quieter side but not completely silent unless they express a lot through their body language. Mostly I want some cues to know whether they are enjoying what they are doing. I just don't want the cues to be so loud that they distract me.

    • I agree. The fake moans are distracting

    • Aside from distracting when it seems fake or so loud, I feel disconnected. It's strange but it feels like I've become her sex toy in a sense when I'm with the screamer types. I don't feel like she's with me in the moment.

    • As weird as it sounds for a guy to say, it starts to feel like I'm being "used for sex" -- even if I'm in a dominant position -- when women start screaming and moaning so loud. Plus I start to worry about what our neighbors will think.

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  • I like girls that can express herself I mean just let herself go and whatever happens happens and she's going to express it with her voice

    Now it's saying all the above there has been times where I would be doing a girl and she's quiet and you could just read her eyes and she just wants to scream so bad and let it out so each time is it you go all the way to slow and deep all the way in and she just melts is that innocent holding up the breath are letting out the breath and you can just see the pleasure in her whole body but she's afraid to express herself that's also a turn on

  • Ugh, I'd rather fuck a blow up doll.

  • Quiet is just fine. Sometimes necessary if we're doing it where we aren't supposed to. A past dressing room experience comes to mind. lol. Seriously, I don't need the audio to know you're having fun.

    I've also had experiences where the moans were more than expected in the situation. That is a complete turn off. If you're going to fake it, don't let me catch you.

  • I know I'm a bit late to the party but I don't mind if she's quiet during sex, it means I can hear the football match on in the background..

    I know, I know,, so romantic ain't I :P

  • No, not at all actually.


    I actually like the sound of me clapping her cheeks

  • I don't know... I have never experienced that

  • But fake moans are hot and just moans are hot. Think is play's into teasing and seductiveness and hotness of it. So yes this would be one thing out of a millions that don't that would actually bother me I think.

  • Well to be clear I am getting divorce and I won't allow a female in my life for life but answering your question
    In general sense men don't seem to like too quiet females
    My soon to be sex used to say a lot of things I won't go into details you could probably guess what kind of it was and honesty at that time I think it was really good

    • Sorry about your divorce

    • No you are not, it's just what people say when they hear these sort of things but thats ok and I ain't sorry I think it's better that way

  • It depends. If she is so "dead" that cannot even tell if she wants to be there doing it or if she is gritting her teeth waiting to get it over with then it would be a huge turn off.

  • It's not a turn off if she's quiet. I do prefer hearing her moans and dirty talk though.

  • Nope long as she is enjoying herself

  • Her shaky, deep breathing tells me all I need to know.

  • I've never met a girl who was quiet with me. Must be doing something right.

    • Not always cause a lot of girls fake their moans. I seen a article that said 80% of women fake their moans to boost their partners ego

    • Well I mean she's alwa asking to go again and again and never wants to let go of me. So there's that too. And when we first started she didn't moan and then I got better at it and now it's all the time

  • As long as she’s enjoying it I prefer her to do whatever comes naturally. No fake moaning needed.

  • I usually just wait for the applause at the end.

  • Don't really care if they make noise or not. Just give up the booty and all will be good

  • I certainly don't like fake bad-porno screaming lol but I do enjoy some verbal sharing - moaning, sighing - doesn't have to be loud but is hot to hear as she gets lost in the pleasure. And some blurting like "yes - fuck yes" or "harder... fuck god yes harder" stuff like that is really hot - and again doesn't have to be "loud".

    So under that context I answered with "not a turn off" :)

    P. S. Most porn sounds are so bad I rarely have them off mute - the fakeness is a turn off :)

  • Most guys like their girls to be moaning

    • @elizamichale1 I enjoy kissing during sex.

    • @Mac-One many do

  • To me that's a turn off yes, same if I was quiet

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