Does it bother you thinking about your partners ex’s?

How do you feel knowing your partner has done sexual stuff with others?

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  • I never get this. And it seems to affect women way more then guys. I absolutely did NOT want to discuss previous relationships when was dating my ex-wife. Not after getting engaged, not after marriage. She forced that conversation. We were young, so the numbers were not anything to speak of. Why is this relevant at all? You can't change it. So no reason to even get into it. Also, it has zero bering on the relationship. There is no reason to discuss it as all it does it add a potential for problems if the other person is jealous. Jealousy is a cancer in a relationship, it has no place. I am so much a non-jealous person that I didn't even understand the clues when one woman I dated started showing those jealous issues. I now can spot them and would just end any potential relationship if I ever found myself with another woman like that. At the very least we would have a frank discussion where I state that I won't tolerate it and, if that is a problem, then we should just stop then and there.
    As you get older, you are in for a lot of loneliness as in your 40's and 50's, the numbers add up. Though I am 54 and I am still in single digits. That comes from being with my ex-wife 25 years (she was number 2)

Most Helpful Guy

  • Never was a problem for me, except maybe as a very young person and then, I didn't know any better, than to let it bother me. As I matured, it didn't bother me at all, and I would ask about past partners or they simply volunteered things, without my asking, and I liked that. One girl told me in detail about her sex life with guys she had been with and was with at the time.

    It did not bother me in the least and I never felt a need to be critical of her for her sex experiences. That would be childish, in my opinion.

    • P. S. I learned some interesting 'tips' about sex from listening to some prior girls telling me what a guy did to them and for them. Only problem, for me was, I was too stupid or focused on screwing them at the time to DO those things they said they liked? ! Duhhhhh!

Most Helpful Girls

  • Nah, what's done is done. And they helped make him the partner I love today.

    Besides, my husband's ex is actually my little sister. They dated for a few years in highschool, and stayed close after splitting up. That's how I met him.

    We're all so close that all 3 of us took a trip to a nude beach together a few years back. It's was wonderfully awkward and hilarious 🤣🤣🤣

  • Yeah it bothered me. Specially when I was a virgin and inexperienced. Because it makes me feel like I was left out. Outcasted. Not included. Missing out. But if you have more sex with more people.
    Your partners numbers won’t bother you.

    because you too are now experienced.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • when I first fell out with him i was upset and crying and knowing he cheated on me with 2 other girl wiles i was still his girlfriend and then he ended up remaining ones boyfriend i was so upset but after what he did to me i learned to start loving myself rather than a scum emotional abusing threatening cunt like him a didn't take his shit when I was with him but i deserve better and so do you if it happening to you

  • you need to not ask questions you dont want the answers to. and if youve found out more than you wanted, you have to physically will that shit out of your mind.


    its actually known as retroactive jealousy.

  • It doesn't bother me. I know about my husband's sexual history before we got together. It's not extensive, but he was experienced. There is a lot more to him beyond where his penis has been.

  • No, I don't ever think about it

    • Can you message me? I wanna ask something

  • No. I don’t have a partner and my former partner didn’t have any exes. So it would be a mew feeling for me.

  • When I was younger it used to really bother me.. (basically self esteem issues) but now whether the guy is with lots of women or less.. it doesn't matter... what matters is he really wants me and he is clean.. as long as I can make him hard with ease I am happy :P

  • Doesn't bother me at all.

  • It would bother me if my husband had exs but thankfully he doesn't. I'm the one and only girl he's ever been with.

  • I don't even think about it. It's none of my business.

  • Nope. Not a bit.

  • Not at all. I often think about the other guys who have dated the woman I'm serving, and wondered if the sex was exceptionally pleasurable for them.

  • Not at all. It always seems strange to me when people care about this.

  • They're past is in the past.

    It's the present time and the future that I personally like to concentrate on.

  • My self esteem is in the pits of hell so it bothered me a bit 😂

  • I assume that most of my partners at my age aren't virgins. 😆 i dont care about their past as long as they dont have any diseases.

  • Not at all. I'm way better.

  • It’s something that I try not to think about often, but if I do , it isn’t the greatest feeling but it’s something I learned to cope with knowing that it was a part of their lives , that I wasn’t a part of , just like my past , that she wasn’t a part of , so it’s just something I learned to accept, cuz all that matters is she is standing by my side, like I am standing by hers, If a partner constantly talks about an ex than that to me is disrespectful and clearly indicates that they aren’t really over their ex and that they shouldn’t be pursuing a new relationship with someone else period. People that hold on to their exes like they were this prize possession are people that shouldn’t be pursuing
    A new relationship period

  • I don't know I've never had someone who had other partners, I hope it doesn't tho if I get someone with partners

  • I generally don't think about it, and when I do, I'm happy that she has had the good fortune to be pleasured... before I entered her life.

  • Nope. I've got a past too

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