Does it mean something to you (emotionally) when a girl swallows your cum?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been having sexual relations for the past 4 months or so. In that time I've never swallowed his cum because I don't really want to. Yesterday he told me that I don't have to do it but it would mean something to him. He said it would feel like I was accepting all of him. Then he said it was stupid and not to worry about it. But is this true or was he just trying to get me to do it? If so, can you explain it a little more?

[BeowulfKaine]

Here's the deal with his. When a girl swallows my load, it is, by far, the most amazing feeling in the entire universe that I honestly cannot adequately put into words.

The entire process works on a few different levels for us:

1) your mouth is warm, this is 50%. The feeling of being inside your mouth is like a vagina only better because your mouth has more movement.

2) when we blow our load, there is a moment, it lasts all of maybe 5 seconds in which we are at 100% your mercy in every way possible, for some that's a turn on, for women that is too.

3) when we blow our load in your warm mouth, we have a moment of primal instinct in which we feel we own you, your our property, we dominate and consume you and you will do as you are told. This literally lasts like 3-5 seconds and then we are helpless to you. Rather ironic no?

4) lastly, when you make noises and enjoy it audibly, wee get harder in your mouth. Even if you don't enjoy it, it would make a huge impact that you will feel deep in your throat.

The crux of the matter is, when a man finds a woman that can give him a blowjob that turns an atheist into the pope, than the last thing you will ever have to worry about is cheating, abuse or neglecting you. Your mouth is amazing with our cock in it, we know it and when we find the perfect blowjob queen, she's our princess.

Him saying that it will bring you closer emotionally, yea that's a lie he just wanted to blow him load in your mouth.

[theguyisback]

i don't really agree with this response

[gray_sailor]

Semen is not like anything else that normally leaves a man's body. It's only purpose is to find a new home in a woman's body.

In the course of normal sexual relations, it is a man's ejaculation that can bring about a pregnancy. Understandably then, men find ejaculating into a woman's vagina to be immensely gratifying. Similarly, women often report that having their man ejaculate into their vagina is also immensely gratifying to them as well.

While it is true that there is a substantial physiological difference between receiving a man's ejaculated semen in your mouth versus in your vagina, from the man's psychological standpoint there is no difference at all.

Furthermore, having accepted his ejaculate into your mouth only to then spit it out is a physical manifestation of rejection of your man at a fundemental level. Semen is not waste. It is identity. To accept his semen is to accept him.

[gray_sailor]

I'm having a difficult time understanding where the manipulation is here. If a guy says: "I would like to have you swallow because I really get off on the idea of it." Or "I would like to have you swallow because I really feel emotionally fulfilled by you doing it." It seems to me, that both of these statements should carry equal weight. I want sexual fulfillment from my partner, and I want emotional fulfillment from my partner. I believe she should give the same consideration in either case. Ultimately, each person must decide for themselves what sexual practices they will engage in. Are you saying that simply because the second statement is presented in terms of emotional needs, that that reason alone makes the case for manipulation? If so, then I find that disheartening too. The idea that my sexual requests get some sort of second class status in the relationship while the emotional stuff comes first strikes me arbitrary, wrongheaded and just a bit thoughtless.

[RLShepherd]

Listen from the very first time I gave my boyfriend a blowjob I wanted him to cum in my mouth and to swallow because I deeply find it emotional and spiritual and it didn't happen the first I don't know 20/30 times we did it because he was use to cumming under pretty controlled circumstances and we just couldn't make it happen. It finally happened and it was even more fulfilling than I suspected.

We're too young for kids and haven't breached intercourse yet but we both know that going to be a condom affair because even on the pill its too risky for two people who don't have a stable source of income. So it maybe a very long time until we can experience him cumming in my vagina. Which is sad because its super intimate. So having him cum in my mouth and swallowing is very near proximity yet much much safer.
I literally feel so close to him afterword because his whole DNA set is in me. which is odd but very comforting.
Ultimately its super personal and as a woman don't feel pressured to do it if you aren't comfortable. But he is most certainly being honest.

[Keepitreal007]

That’s really awesome. He’s a lucky man.

[Slutslovemycum]

I’d love to Cum in you sloppy seconds

[MargaritaPeach]

Sex can create emotional bonding between two people if they focus on that aspect of it. I'd say that swallowing probably creates the same type of bond between people that you feel when you go farther or try something new with a partner sexually. Sex causes a rush of hormone production in the body that explains these type of feelings. It's an acceptance thing and to some degree an ego thing. It probably makes him feel more attached to you.

[theguyisback]

I agree with this, minus the ego thing. Cum is the product of pure ecstasy and is also the building blocks for creating life. There's something sacred about it. Put it the other way, I love the idea of a girl being able to squirt, and having her cum into my mouth and I swallow it. It feels so intimate and bonding. Like its so wrong, but I want your fluids in my mouth. Also, kissing is very intimate, and there's something about the mouth that is absolutely tantalizing. When you eat food and there is just something that you love, and you look forward to eating it, and you find great pleasure and contentment in it. Then when you take kissing--- sharing your saliva in a deep kiss is somewhat on par with the food craving, except replacing food with a person!. For you to be willing to take my cum into your mouth, is like it is still kinda dirty and kinky, but it is also super intimate thing, like showing you that there are almost no boundaries to how much I crave you inside and out.

[XRabbitHeartX]

I find it really hard to believe that swallowing someone's semen is SO epicly emotionally connecting and accepting towards someone.

It's one thing to find it sexy visually but another to try to make it out to be this special thing. It really isn't. It's just semen in your mouth. That's it. That's what it's all about. Seeing his semen in your mouth. It has nothing to do with acceptance. That's BS.

[Nicolás25]

a lot of women say that they feel closer to a man after he has ejaculated in her vagina but lets use your logic shall we it's one thing to find it sexy but another to try to make it out to be this special thing. It really isn't. It's just semen in a vagina. That's it. That's what it's all about. feeling semen in her vagina. It has nothing to do with emotional closeness. That's BS now do you see how you sound?

[XRabbitHeartX]

@Nicolás25 You can't compare cumming inside a girl's vagina with in her mouth. That is not even nearly the same thing dude.

[noahsdev]

For men, it can be. That is the thing that you seem to misunderstand.

[XRabbitHeartX]

@noahsdev So because it is that way for some men it must be that way for women too? It's her body that the act is being done to so in my opinion it's really on the lady who can decide if it's intimate for her or not. As simple as that.

[gray_sailor]

Your argument is internally inconsistent. You are allowing that of course a man values having his semen swallowed enough to justify lying to his wife to get her to do it. Then, in the next breath, you make the counter claim that of course a man can't possibly value having his semen swallowed enough to justify confiding to his wife that it would be meaningfull for him if she did it. You can't have it both ways. Either he values it and is therfore justified in asking for it. Or He does not value it. Those are the options. There are not any others. Setting aside your argument, the general tenor of your opinion suggests to me that the primary reason you embrace for not swallowing a man's ejaculate is that he desires it. Simply put, for you, giving a man what he wants is in itself, wrong.

[Editor]

There are guys here telling you that there's any emotional connection when she swallows and that spitting it out feels like rejection. Obviously you disagree, but you truly cannot reject what they tell you by claiming to know what they're thinking. As you might have guessed, I feel an emotional connection when she swallows, and I don't understand why another guy would say they don't care whether she does or not. I suspect they don't have a serious relationship with the women they're with, but I'm mature enough to know I might be wrong, and I don't call them liars. How did you get guru status while treating commenters this way?

[XRabbitHeartX]

I am entitled to my opinion. I don't find it special/significant and that's MY opinion. I also don't know guys or have been with guys who do find it significant. If you feel differently then cool, move along. I have no issue. I was asked a question and gave a answer from MY point of view and MY framework. To date I have not been led to believe it's special. If anything for me it seems the opposite and can be very degrading in my opinion. That's how I feel and I am every bit entitled to it. @Editor What do you mean? Am I not allowed to disagree with people? Does that make me a bad person?

[Editor]

You can disagree with people without calling them liars. I don't mind your opinion, but I mind it when anyone tries to discredit someone by claiming to know what they're thinking, which is what you did. I think you feel so strongly about this that you don't realize that's what you did, and I wanted to bring that to your attention.

[XRabbitHeartX]

@Editor I never once said someone is a liar. Where did I say that? Please quote the line where I told someone "you are a liar" ... otherwise you are kinda the one making up lies about me which is very immature considering how you hardly know me. I'm perfectly aware of my actions and thoughts and don't need someone trying to tell me what I'm saying/doing. If you are trying to imply that I think someone is a liar then you are dead wrong and clearly do not understand MY point which is simply that I think that this whole swallowing semen things is used to make girls feel pressured to do something they might not feel comfortable with because many girls feel degraded about it and do not understand why a guy would find it connecting to degrade her and put his semen inside of her mouth. No girl should be made to feel like she's pathetic or not on par simply cause she doesn't want semen in her mouth. I've never had a guy tell me to put his semen in my mouth to feel connected to me. Not once.

[XRabbitHeartX]

Guys have always seemed to feel perfectly connected to me without having to resort to telling me I have to swallow their semen to be accepted or connected to them and I'm not the only one either.

[Editor]

Please reread the question. In the description, the guy makes a request politely and backs off when she expresses reluctance. You are mischaracterizing his actions. Women are of course entitled to their own desires and limits. Men are entitled to them, too.

[XRabbitHeartX]

@Editor I'm still waiting for you to provide me with evidence for your claim. If you're going to make statements like "How did you get guru status while treating commenters this way?" and "You can disagree with people without calling them liars. " then you must have the proof to back it up. So yeah, I'm waiting unless of course you'll admit you are wrong for making those statements and only saying it out of anger/frustration towards me for having a opinion different than yours.

[Editor]

Regarding, "I never once said someone is a liar. Where did I say that?" That came in your original opinion: "It has nothing to do with acceptance. That's BS."

[XRabbitHeartX]

@Editor Once again, do not put words in my mouth. Did I say HE is a liar? If not, then you're wrong.

[Editor]

I'm quoting you, not putting words in your mouth. I objected to ANYONE'S assertion that if a guy ever says X, he's lying, because I disagree with it and nobody could honestly think that. When I read your original opinion that's what it sounded like to me. My comments are an honest expression of what I think, and I take others' comments to be honest expressions of what they think. I don't object to your opinion; only your characterizing opinions contrary to your own as "BS" (I. e., lies) is unfair in my opinion. Remember, the whole point of the original question was if guys feel an emotional connection from a specific sexual act, and stating that answering "yes" to the question is "BS" is essentially calling all of those men liars. I know you disagree and I respect that, but in my opinion you still made a blanket claim of dishonesty, when really it's just disagreement.

[XRabbitHeartX]

@Editor Did it ever occurr to you that I said it is BS for the simple reason that I disagree that it should be something to do with acceptance. Can you see where I made the statement? Right after I was talking about acceptance. Did I say he is saying BS and that he is some terrible liar? Nope. Did I say I think it is BS that it should have something to do with acceptance? Yes! See how people just assume crap and dont even read properly what I writw or try to understand.

[Nicolás25]

@Editor she isn't going to be honest and accept that she implied the boyfriend was lying nor is she even going to consider that for men it can be just as gratifying to cum inside a girls mouth as it is to cum inside a girls vagina because she obviously has a problem with blow jobs trying to speak logically with some illogical is just futile.

[XRabbitHeartX]

@Nicolás25 That's pretty funny considering as you know nothing about my personal life. If you did you'd know you were pretty wrong. In fact.. shocker.. what if I told you I personally have no issue with a guy finishing in my mouth but I just speak up for other girls who might not feel the same. You're the irrational one for thinking you know me when you clearly don't. Joke is on you.

[Nicolás25]

you see that's the thing i am not trying to put jokes on people i am just trying to end a fruitless discussion but if you wish i will declare myself defeated and you the victor.

[XRabbitHeartX]

@Nicolás25 There's no winner or loser. This is a discussion. I just hate it when people think they know me better than I know myself or make up assumptions about me personally.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the guy... Every guy has a different view of things.. My man says he doesn't mind if i spit or swallow but he likes when i swallow thats just him though.. He said there's nothing emotional now that i asked him... Maybe it does to your man though..

[Taffi]

You should never do anything you're not comfortable with, although I can imagine he did mean what he said.

[Alexzktra]

Who cares if it ~~means something~~ to him? He's being a manipulative asshole, and you shouldn't feel forced to it for him.

[Lissy967]

I agree.

[noahsdev]

How is he being manipulative? He didn't force her or employ some nefarious tactic, he simply asked her. It also seemed like that was the first time that he asked her. That's what you do when you're in a relationship.

[Alexzktra]

Sounds like a guilt-trip to me. "It would meaaaan something" nah dude it's just cum, calm down lmfaooo

[noahsdev]

Doesn't surprise me considering you "think sex is disgusting." Sex is more than just a physical act and many sexual things can elicit an emotional response.

[Nicolás25]

sounds like you haven't had positive experiences with men and now you are jaded before your time.

[Alexzktra]

@noahsdev, I was a psych student. I know sex can have elicit all sorts of emotional responses. That doesn't mean those 'emotions' can be used to manipulate, guilt-trip and coerce a woman into sexual acts she doesn't want to do.

[noahsdev]

He asked her a if she would do something for him and gave an honest reason why he wated her to do it. He also made it clear that she didn't have to if she didn't want to. It's pretty clear why you used to be a psych student.

[Alexzktra]

Yeah, I had to drop out after being physically, sexually and emotionally abused by my partner and developing PTSD / agoraphobia so bad I couldn't leave the flat. I'm better now: I can go up the road and back. Sorry if I'm sensitive when I see red flags of abuse, liiiike.. lmao [rolls eyes]

[noahsdev]

Ahh! So that's why you seem to be so biased. Don't worry snow flake, you'll get better in time.

[umenie]

I couldn't care less about it

[abundantlyrich]

He believes you finally complete him.

[abundantlyrich]

But you can't know... For ex. If the semen, taste like bad mofo shit, i doubt you gonna feel good about doing it. The most important thing is to be honest about it if you don't feel comfortable to do it.

[abundantlyrich]

I read the question again. He just sounds like a mofo dominating dickhead!!! For wanting you to do it but you don't feel comfortable about it.

[abundantlyrich]

Sounds like he said those words to possibly manipulate you (if you acquiesce to his whims)

[Dargil]

"Does it mean something to you (emotionally) when a girl swallows your cum?"
No, but it does that she she finishes me in her mouth. What she does with my DNA after is up to her.

[Editor]

It means something emotional. If you don't want to swallow, don't. But he's not lying, and he's being very nice about it.

To all the people who believe the guy in this question is a horrible person for asking her to do this -- you're very special snowflakes!

[I_M_LEGEND]

i love it. it feels accepting and appreciated for.

[CreepyOldMan]

What it means to me emotionally is 'Wow! That is one nasty ho.'

[CreepyOldMan]

All of you downvoting this are all lying sacks of shit. And you know it.

[MadeInAmerica]

I didn't down vote you I was literally LMAO!!

[theguyisback]

BOOO

[Scrimshaw]

The thought of semen swallowing is DISGUSTING and REPULSIVE.

I don't see it as anything "emotional" (as most guys would say) don't be pressured into doing something like that if you really don't want to. It's absolutely grotesque how some men can be turned on by that...

[htown_stoner281]

in my opinion it jus means u a nasty hoe

[theguyisback]

Not.. Fucking.. True

[Anonymous]

Would this be the same with homosexual relationships?

[BeowulfKaine]

Same deal dude. Man/woman. It's all the same

[Anonymous]

It makes us feel like she wants us. It's hard to explain but when a girl does I get really turned on to her

[Anonymous]

To me it absolutely does mean something emotionally. I can't really explain the full extent of it but seeing a girl swallow my cum makes me feel closer very close to her. But if you don't feel comfortable doing it, then don't do it.

[Opinion Owner]

makes me feel very close to her*