Guys, Does it sound like he is cumming sometimes but other times just pre-cums?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend and I are only 21 and we have been dating for about 5 years. So when we first started having sex without a condom ( I've been on birth control.) He would cum a LOT inside me. Like, when I would stand up from the bed there would be a huge wet spot under me. It smelled a bit bleachy, which I've heard is what semen is supposed to smell like. And there would even be more that dripped back out of me later in the night. That was back when he first started cumming in me. We also didn't have sex as much then, so maybe that's why he came more? His cum has always looked sort of watery as well? But now that we've been together a while, we see each other more than we used to and so we have sex almost daily. But he cums a lot less now and sometimes it is white and sometimes it watery and in a small amount. It also smells less like cum if it is watery and in a small amount. Is he only pre cumming with me if his cum is watery and doesn't smell bleachy like cum is supposed to? I've heard that if a guy has watery cum and it's in a smaller amount, he is only pre cumming. It's not an actual orgasm? And I know that if a guy masturbates and has sex frequently, his cum will be more watery, but he has always masturbated and back when we first started dating, his cum was still kinda watery, but it was in bigger amounts. His cum now. is watery and. in small amounts and doesn't smell as much like bleach. He still says that he cums inside me. Does it sound like he's not getting as satisfied or just isn't completely cumming now?

[Effably]

Really don't stress it. The thickness of semen depends on a ton of things. Volume much the same. It can be affected by anything from diet to exercise to mood and of course stimulation. But the volume and quality thereof is not really a good tell for how pleasurable it was. That's just one of those common misconceptions we allow to exist because it seems flattering to everyone.

For example one simple explanations could be he spent hours being excited before sex actually happened. Which would have a similar-ish impact to edging. Which generally does increase volume quite a lot without neccesssarily having a positive impact on how good the actual sex is.

Of course if you want to up your bed-skills, I am sure that never hurts. Maybe he would like to try that together.

[Asker]

Why doesn't his cum smell bleachy anymore? That was always how. I could tell that he came. I would smell his cum. And sometimes it still has that smell, but what does it mean when it doesn't have that smell? And he says that our sex life is great and I think it is too. I just hope. that he's completely cumming instead of just pre cumming.

[Effably]

So for reference precum is basically a drop or two. Two would count as quite a lot of precum. A spoonful would be more or less unheard of. The smell, taste etc is largely a diet thing. Feed him strawberries for a week and it might even get a hint of sweetness to it. Just a hint. Either way these things can change quite quickly and easily. As long as the odor isn't unusually foul it should all be well.

[Asker]

So if there is enough to be seen dripping down my leg, then it probably is actual cum? And I mainly notice the bleachy cum smell if it is a bigger load. If it is a smaller, watery load maybe that won't smell as much like his cum usually does?

[Effably]

Yeah again. Precum is a few drops at most. With a few drops already being the upper boundary. Of course extreme cases exist but if it is enough to drip you can feel very certain he really came.

[Asker]

If the load is smaller and more watery, could that be the reason his cum doesn't smell like it usually does?

[Effably]

Could be. Could be.

[Asker]

He also used to fall asleep after sex and cuddle with me. But now, he cums and immediately gets up afterward to eat, then he comes back ans cuddles me, but he doesn't go to sleep. When he is done cuddling, he gets up and goes to play a video game all night. Am I not satisfying him as much as I used to if I can't put him to sleep with sex anymore?

[Kabluie]

falling asleep after sex is likely just being tired since sex is like a private workout. I get second winds after sex sometimes, i had a girlfriend like that too where we'd fall asleep together after sex but i might wake up in the middle of the night to see she went out on the porch balcony or the kitchen to eat something and read. sometimes you get that second wind.

[Asker]

@Kabluie so if trendiest fall asleep after sex anymore, it's not a sign that I'm not satisfying him as much as I used to?

[Asker]

*so if he used to fall asleep after sex Sorry, my autocorrect messed up

[Kabluie]

Guys start to cum less and less the more sex they have, it's just how it works because you can only produce so much sperm in so little time. Somtimes you'll notice a pattern if you skip a day or more of having sex, and as long as he doesn't wank himself until then.

Like I'll cum inside her when we wake up maybe after sex the previous evening, and it'll be clear-like that'll leak out of her. In a way that might be good since it's less to seep out during the day. But later in the evening sex, it can be very white creampie. That's also part of a guy's diet and replenishment as well. You know the saying you are what you eat.

[Asker]

Why don't I notice a cum smell anymore sometimes? When we first started having sex years ago, I would always smell a bleachy smell which was his cum. But I don't smell that much anymore. If the cum is watery and in a smaller amount, would it just not smell as much like it used to?

[Kabluie]

cum is basically what a guy's diet is as well, like if he became a more healthy eater like celery and veggies, it may just have more of a metal taste and no smell. You can play the taste game if you hang out all-day and eat different things together and then give him blowjobs at the end of day.

[Asker]

He didn't change his diet. Hmm. I don't know. But you say that cum doesn't always have that bleaching smell?

[Asker]

*bleachy

[Asker]

I also have another question if you don't mind. Sometimes I notice that his cum leaves white stains in my underwear and it gets stiff, which is normal. But other times, it comes out of me and only leaves a clear stain with a border around it and it doesn't make the fabric of my underwear stiff. And sometimes, his cum dries as only a yellow color? Is all of this normal? I thought that cum just dries as a white stain that stiffens up, but that doesn't happen all the time. Is it possible that he is only cumming inside me when it leaves white stains?

[Kabluie]

stains will be different depending on how white gooey cum is to how clear it is. when white gooey dries it will have a yellow tint, I notice this even on white sheets or mattress protector when I wash them since it'll leak out of the girl overnight. once again whether its very white or clear depends on many factors, can only create so much sperm. Like you may have swallowed the white if you blowjob first and then when he cums inside it's more clearish. just depends on time of day, last time he got off, etc.

[Asker]

So if the cum is more clear or thin, it won't leave stains behind, right?

[Kabluie]

It can still give a slight stain through panties and sometimes sheets, like it's not always 100% clear but it's mostly. Sometimes it won't if it's fully

[JPrez]

The cum is usually watery the more loads he shoots within a given day or two. It takes time for the body to recharge and build it back up to a thicker substance. Also, if it mixes with any drops of urine whether stained in your underwear or will change the appearance of it. He may get up from the bed later to clear his mind and maybe watch TV or something on his phone. This is common for guys.

[Asker]

How long does it take a guy to recharge? We usually only have sex once a day, sometimes twice a day so shouldn't that be enough time to build up a bigger load?

[JPrez]

At his age, he could probably go twice in one day with pretty big loads. After that he should have enough time to build it back up unless he’s masturbating in between.

[Asker]

His first loads with me are small and watery sometimes.. and if he has a big load with me first, his second one is small. Could he be cheating since his loads with me are small and watery?

[JPrez]

I would say not necessarily. I mentioned that he could be masturbating in between but it also could just be his particular body building up so much for the first and then not much is left for the second. His body may take much longer to build it back up.

[Asker]

I guess if his first load. with me is watery and small, then he already masturbated I guess? If he knows he's going to have a chance to fuck me, why would he rather masturbate? Maybe he isn't liking sex with me as much?

[JPrez]

Well, for guys, what happens is when you’re first excited, the body starts building up the cum. The longer he stays aroused, the more builds up and it does it faster if the guy has an erection. So, the longer the sex lasts the more he build up quickly. If he only has sex with you for say 5 or 10 minutes, the load is gonna be smaller. But if you guys went at it for 30 minutes he’s gonna build up something big regardless of whether you had sex 3 hours or a 1 day ago. That’s just something I wanted to mention. For most guys sex is better than masturbation. He’s probably enjoying the sex but he may masturbate in between because it helps him last longer with you the next time. Or he could be super horny so he does. I doubt it has anything to do with you. As long as you are getting into it, he’s gonna love have sex with you. Now, if you were just laying there like a dead fish, it might be a different story.

[Asker]

Yeah, I moan for him and move my body along with him. I don't think I just lay there.

[JPrez]

That’s great. Be a little more aggressive too. Guys like that. The more you do that the more he’s gonna worship your P and he’ll keep coming back for more and you’ll have a happy boyfriend.

[Asker]

If I'm not really aggressive in bed, could that be a turn off?

[JPrez]

Only if you lie there still and don’t move your body. If you initiate sex very much start doing that from time to time. Take clothes off fast and kiss him all over. Try moving your body more whether it’s by grinding more on him or doing more movement. Those are simple easy things that give you a winning edge in the bedroom. Act as though every time you have sex is the last time. Just like you’re starving for food one day and you gobble down a cheeseburger, treat sex the same way. If you don’t show emotion or be aggressive it’s possible he’ll think you’re disinterested and you want him to do all the work.

[boggboss]

Its normal cum if u have sex too frequently it makes it so he won't cum as hard the he will have asmuch seamen in it

[bowenw]

If his cum is a lesser amount than previously it could be because he is masturbating a lot. Instead of having him cum inside you ask him to pull out and cum on your boobs or give him a hand/blowjob so you can see for yourself how much cum there is and the texture. You may also want to try to find out what he's up to all night by himself.

[Asker]

He could be cheating since his cum is like this?

[bowenw]

If there isn't much cum, it could mean he has recently ejaculated.

[Asker]

Right. But masturbation can empty him like this as well right?

[bowenw]

Yes. The amount of time for a full load varies from guy to guy.

[kellytheman]

Maybe now he is a little older could be a factor or he has sex and masturbate too much there is not a lot of cum.

[Ilickvulvas]

It’s normal don’t worry

[Valnac]

Why are you overthinking that?
Why can’t you just enjoy sex for the sake of sex.
Don’t analyze every little aspect of it.
That’s a good way to loose a guy!

[anylolone]

It's his diet.
His diet changed.

[Lovecoffemate]

Sounds normal my cum is watery often

[Asker]

What does it mean if his cum is in a small amount, watery, and doesn't have that bleachy, cum smell anymore?

[Lovecoffemate]

Im not sure sounds strange he probably ran out of cum how many times does he cum inside you daily?

[Lovecoffemate]

Im sure you still satisfy him he seems to be having other issues maybe anxiety , depression something is happening to himnay work, in his family and he's worried

[Asker]

Like once a night. Sometimes twice. Maybe he ejaculates during the day or something? He says he always cums. Is it possible that he's just pre cumming?

[Lovecoffemate]

No unless he has a condition i always cum but in lower amounts

[Asker]

Why doesn't his cum smell bleachy anymore? That was always how. I could tell that he came. I would smell his cum. And sometimes it still has that smell, but what does it mean when it doesn't have that smell sometimes?

[Lovecoffemate]

Sounds like precum precum doesn't haveca smell. One question for you do girls get wet when they sleep naked? Im naked right now and precum still comes out even though im not thinking bad

[Asker]

I don't usually sleep naked. I'm sorry I wasn't any help to your question. So he's probably not actually cumming then if there isn't a smell of cum?

[Lovecoffemate]

Its ok ☺ yes probably

[Anonymous]

I'll give you a big load. My diet is a lot of water and I take a lot of vitamins im only 27. I can say that his problem is that he isn't hydrated and he cums to much because when I first started taking testosterone boosters I got super horny and was masturbating daily and my cum got clear and watery. I went to the doctor and she said that I was dehydrated and I was ejaculating to much. That's why I only drink water now.

[Anonymous]

My guess is you and him were high school sweethearts