Does masterbating before sex help?

[EM9389]

I’m 18 and about to have sex for the first time in the next couple of days with my girl friend, would me masterbating a couple of times before we have sex help me last longer?

[BuckWild]

With the scenario you're dealing with, which is basically premature ejaculation, I would say it would indeed help you. In fact I remember back in the day having to do that once or twice. Don't feel bad at all though man, it's like that at your age. Just don't forget that sex is a lot more than just intercourse. Make sure you get your game on so that you can spice things up sometimes and go down on her and make her scream. :-)

[EM9389]

Yeah that’s what I thought wasn’t sure though thanks. But don’t you worry I will try my best to pleasure her without actually having sex, I’ll do what I can and hey practice makes perfect lol.

[BuckWild]

And what a fantastic thing to practice... :-)

[EM9389]

So true, I’m actually so exited lol I can’t wait. Thanks for all the advice by the way.

[BuckWild]

Also, I can tell that you are definitely sincere on this matter. One mistake young people make even having sex is failing to communicate. There are no mind readers. And for those that think their partner should just magically know exactly what feels good. Make sure to always have that line of communication open during sex. That way you will know exactly what is rocking her world and what basically is doing nothing for her. When I was 22, I was dating a girl my age and she basically taught me how to go down on a girl properly. In the nicest of ways she basically said I needed to learn how to do it right.

[BuckWild]

So I became her humble student. And we communicated during sex. It was like she was in the control tower guiding me in for a landing and she made sure I landed the plane perfectly every time. With the exception of the first few times, we ended up having mind blowing romps that couldn't have happened without communication. We dated for quite a while and I ended up being the first guy to give her a vaginal orgasm which she thought was impossible for her.

[EM9389]

Wow look at you haha good on you man, now that is the kind of teaching you need lol I’m sure because my girlfriend has done it before she will help me and give me pointers on what not to do and what feels great, I’ll just say to her tell me what you want me to do and I’ll do it and see what feels good and what doesn’t. I’d say my goal is to make her maybe orgasm but that’s a big step for the first time so I’ll see how things go.

[BuckWild]

Exactly man. Some guys are insecure but I never let that break my stride and I decided to become the humble student and I learned some very awesome and pleasurable lessons. :-) You strike me as being very secure with your own sexuality and having no problem having her show you the way. You're going to be a lady killer someday man and that's if you aren't already. :-)

[EM9389]

Haha thanks man I appreciate that, and yeah you got me perfect not afraid of my own sexuality and don’t care what people say about me, and yes I do hope to be pleasuring ladies as much as they pleasure me some day.

[BuckWild]

That's the perfect frame of mind because you sound confident and women are very attracted to confidence.

[NJ_Casanova]

I've found that I do last longer the second time... So if you want to last longer and aren't yet able to control your orgasms... it might be something to try.

[EM9389]

Good to know man I think I’ll give it a try, it good to try new things anyway and who m led maybe it will help me last longer lol because I definitely need that haha.

[NJ_Casanova]

I think Edging and learning how to control the muscles needed, is the key to lasting longer. I also found that I use to hold my breath when getting close, which makes me come faster. Just by doing relaxing breaths it helped me last longer. Form the Edging and breathing, I can now get small orgasms from the pre-cum release and can cum 2<3 times with out going soft or having to stop/slow down... but I've never found a girl that can last past 2 times.

[EM9389]

Wow that’s pretty damm good man, a guy that can last longer than a girl in bed is unheard of, well done, anyway I will definitely continue to do edging and hopefully that will help me last longer, I’ve actually came twice and had 2 orgasms in one go before but I’ve never been able to do it again

[Smudgination]

Uhmm... You need much more advice than the answer to this question..

[EM9389]

Yeah I know, I’m just curious if it would help or not.

[Smudgination]

Don't put too much pressure on yourself on your first time.. There is too much for you to get familiar with before you can expect to perform well. You could probably use some stamina training, which you can get from an STU fleshlight.. Or if your used to masturbating with a heavy death grip (this not advisable because it's not good for the health of your anatomy.. But if this is already your masturbating habit and your circumcised, it's very likely that it will be easier for you to sustain a longer sex session.. But with a condom.. Keeping your erection can also be tricky, depending on your nerves). I have a lot more advice too..

[Smudgination]

It would be a lot better for you to have sex with your girlfriend more than once, with a small break in between

[EM9389]

Thanks for the advice, I can tell you know what your talking about so thank you for that, to be honest I’m not expecting much for my first time so this is quite reassuring.

[Smudgination]

I would recommend you use things like lots of pillows to make sure your girlfriend is in a very lined up position for an easy sex motion.. Your not going to be able to last if you aren't in a position where you aren't using too much effort, and where you can easily control your own sensation (be vocal about asking her to slow down or stop moving so you can try regain composure.. You need to tune into your point of no return and anticipate not crossing that line... But its gonna take a lot of practice and mental power to develop those skills).

[EM9389]

Yeah I do know that the one thing to good sex is communication and I will definitely communicate with her, also I’m going to take a few condoms so when i inevitably Finnish early I’ll just wait 10 mins and go again, and hopefully in those 10 minutes I’ll try to pleasure her so she doesn’t stop getting aroused.

[Smudgination]

It's a lot easier to have sex for longer after your first round.. So I would recommend anticipating this.. Some guys last 5mins on the first round if they are super sexually frustrated and haven't had sex for a long time, and then can even last 30-50mins after a small break.. I'm just trying to point out, that it can be very difficult to control the urge to orgasm quickly, but 5-20-30mins later when you feel ready to go at it again.. It will be easier to control that urge. But like I said, it might take a lot of training

[Smudgination]

With a condom, if your used to high pressure gripped masturbation, you might be able to last a very very long time. But the difference between your masturbation habits and the feeling of sex, won't last long forever as a lucky consequence for your stamina. If your lucky you might be able to have this short-term advantage on your first time.

[EM9389]

Yeah it definitely is a lot of self control training to resist that urge but I have been trying it, I sometimes practice edging when I’m masterbating and it’s hard but it definitely helps when I first found porn I used to only last like 3 or 4 Minutes but after I started edging and maturing I last eat way longer like 10-20 minutes. But I do know masterbating is absolutely nothing compared to having sex so who knows what will happen in bed haha.

[Smudgination]

I dont know if edging is that helpful... Google 'training your pc muscle', that is a staple for sexual performance, helps a lot with confidence and control.. A strong muscle will add layers of defense to anticipating and pacing yourself when you get close to crossing the line of no return. A strong pc muscle will eventually help you fully regain your composure after getting close to the crossing the line.

[EM9389]

Yeah I have saw that online and tried it for a bit but I just wasn’t sure it was helping all that much, but now I see the benefits of it so I will probably start to do them again.

[Smudgination]

It can also build your psychological confidence.. When you pee you can practice closing off your stream and restarting it, just by using that muscle.. Its a good workout, and it's nice to be able to see your own mastery on that part of your body... That you can do and practice whenever your peeing

[EM9389]

Huh good to know man appreciate all the advice you now have me curious lol, what was your first time like?

[Smudgination]

It wasn't that tough for me, cause I had the death grip advantage.. Sex felt so much lighter than my usual death grip pressure I use on myself.. So I could have sex for 20-40mins on both rounds, but I also had some practice on a STU fleshlight, which helped a lot in giving me confidence, and the sensation of the STU, is pretty similar to sex. I was just lucky that she had such beautiful breasts that I could watch and play with that I could keep fully hard while she rode me (I was afraid that I might loose my erection, because it took me a long time to acclimate to the feeling sex compared to my hand). So I was very very lucky.. Also because when you don't have to pump your hips, you can conserve your energy and focus on keeping your mental focus.. Getting tired fucking while it's your first time, makes it incredibly hard to control yourself.. So I kindof just cheesed my first time.

[Smudgination]

That's why I recommend you have sex kneeling in front of her don't ly down ontop of her, that will really make the physical exerting tough on every single stroke.. You want to elevate her hips to meet your pelvis while your comfortably kneeling.. 90% of good sex is small details like lining up comfortable angles and easy access to sex motions

[Smudgination]

That's the only way you cab get yourself under control if you feel yourself getting over excited and in danger of blowing too soon

[Smudgination]

Edit: cab = can**

[EM9389]

Yeah I’ll just ask her and we will figure out a position that is good for both of us. And see what happens thought the night. But I’ll definitely keep that position in mind.

[Smudgination]

I dont know if missionary position is emotional important for you on your first time.. But doggstyle is mechanically the easiest to control and have sex with.. You can just give her pillows to put under her knees to line up with her.. Or your standing next to the bed and your too low you cab put something under your feet to give you height to line up (for if the bed is quite high). Or you can try her lying on her side, while on an elevated platform while your kneeling ontop to enter her.. Might be the easiest compromise to be close to face to face contact during the act

[Smudgination]

Edit: cab = can

[EM9389]

These positions sound like so much fun, I cannot wait to try them out, I’ve got a semi talking about all this sex stuff haha.

[Shuey]

Don't do it. It's just like a prize fight, conserve your strength, conserve your edge!

[EM9389]

Never really thought about it like that before. Makes a lot of sense though.

[TXKen]

No it usually hurts performance.

[EM9389]

Ok cool good to know man, thanks for the advice.