Does my boyfriend go home to materbate?

We see each other most day as and have sex most days. But he has to go home 2 days a week. He could stay but wants time alone. In that time he always masterabtes. Is this why? Does he need to do it in the relationship? Is he unsatisfied if he doesn’t. He could easily come over for sex bit chooses two days a week to masterbate. Why would he need to masterabate twice a week?
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  • Could be- but if so, it's probably not the only reason. Masturbation isn't just about sex, and sometimes people need to mentally decompress themselves, which can involve seeking sexual release without worrying about a partner's needs and desires. And sure, maybe it's okay with you if a given encounter is just about him, but it takes time for people to genuinely accept that.

    If he IS going home to masturbate, it's almost certainly not a criticism of you or the things that you're doing; it's just a more-physical-than-usual form of needing some space. If it's not negatively affecting your sex life together, I wouldn't worry about it.

    • But it is I feel like I never get him actually horny just meh and when he really wants it he masterbates

    • Does everyone do this? How is it not that the sex isn’t good enough so he also does this?

    • It's not a question of "good enough"- sex isn't just about orgasms. Even to the extent that it is, the vast majority of people start masturbating LONG before they start having sex with other people. It serves a vital purpose of de-stressing, and while logically sex with the person you're in a relationship with can and does do that, relationships themselves often ARE a source of stress. And that's all the more likely if he's feeling pressure because he's a more private person than you are- the early stages when you're sussing out each other's boundaries are probably the most tense time in a relationship. The thing about masturbation is that it's entirely personal. Think of it as him relaxing, not him cheating on you with himself.

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  • You can't assume that's the reason he goes home. Most people need time to themselves. There are some couples who are around each other almost constantly. But that's a small minority. Most need time apart.

    Also, he is going HOME. Home is more than just a place to sleep. If he's always at your place, he's in a state of limbo since that's not really his home. I've experienced this myself, but for different reasons ( nothing to do with relationships ). It's subtle and hard to describe. It's not a pleasant feeling.

    Sure, he might be going home to masturbate. But you sure can't assume that.

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  • Honestly if I had a girl that wanted to please me ever time I felt the urge to have sex, I would probably never masturbate. But honestly I do not think this women exists.

    He probably just wants some space twice a week and it has nothing to do with the sex. But in this description if he is getting it regularly the other 5 days of the week then his testosterone levels are probably elevated by the all the sex and would have to masturbate just to get the release to go to sleep.

  • Even with good sex most guys still like some self pleasure. Let him continue. Do you ever go for round 2 or 3 with him? Maybe to try to increase the frequency

  • maybe... i know i have done this sort of thing before but i am a chronic masturbater... he may on the other hand not be into wanking at all and just wants a bit of space now and again... best thing to do is talk to him about it

    • Was sex not better? No he always masterbates Why did you do it was the sex not good enough or? How often did you do it? He goes home 2 days a week it’s not now and then it’s weekly

    • its not about better... its two different things... two days a week is a healthy break and really you should be asking yourself why you have issues with that... im not taking his side by the way, im trying to help you

    • Yeah but it’s like he NEEDS to masterbate to stay satirised and if he’s really horny he does that. I never see him Fully horny. Did you do this cos the sex wasn’t good enough or satisfying enough? I’m not bothered about the break bothered. I never see him fully horny and it’s like he needs this as a substitute cos it’s not good enough

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  • Jacking off to thoughts of you and he fucking and sucking, gives him a hard-on and home and he jacks off to that visual

  • He is home and suddenly he feels the need to do it. It is pretty normal.

    • He’s not going home to do it cos he’s unsatisfacted by the sex

    • no, it may just be a practice he has gotten used to doing.

  • Sometimes if a guy has masturbated for years it's becomes habit. Plus, it does feels different. Pussy feels great. But with the hands it feels like and awesome message. I like to masturbate so I probably get off watching porn more times a day then most have sex.

    • Sorry about that last comment. Who cares how and when I do it. I got carried away...

  • Its really hard to say why or what he might be up too. Ask him?

  • I doubt the only reason he goes home is to masturbate. He masturbates at home because he's not having sex

  • Guys just like to jack off. When my wife and I were young we had sex almost every night and a lot of times I would hold back as long as I could then pull out at the last second and finish with my hand. It wasn't that her pussy didn't feel great I just like both ways.

  • I could have sex everyday but still like to jerk off. Just a different kind of feeling. If I have a partner at the time… I let her know so she isn’t offended. She could watch if she wanted

  • maybe he needs to have sex with one of his sisters... she might be jealous

  • He may be into things sexually you are not and he fantasizes about them when he masturbates.