Does my boyfriend have a low sex drive or there is another explanation?

So unlike most guys i know or i even dated , my boyfriend is not interested in my breast or ass i know he loves me and thats somehow a sign of respect yet sometimes i want to feel that i can excite him (sexually) knowing that i have a fine body with a cup c perky breast.. the only thing he told me as a compliment is that he loves laying on my chest because its fluffy more than his pillow and He often put his head on my breast enjoying that comfort it gives to him.. i mean i quiet admire the fact that he finds the comfort everytime he lays on my but damn i am not his mom i was waiting if he could do something about them i don't know squeeze or kiss anysign showing me he is sexually intrested in me.. knowing we didn't have sex yet.. Tell me please what shall i do?
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  • The fact that he isn't engaging in foreplay is unusual, I'm assuming he it a similar age to you. Guys of that age have raging hormones, the fact that he hasn't tried anything with you at all is very very unusual, especially if you seem open to it. Yes guys can be very nervous, but everyone will at least try a touch of a breast or something. You mentioned that he takes comfort laying on your breasts, that is a bit of a motherly comfort thing and it's sexual at all. I also noticed a reply from a comment where you have tried to touch his penis and he rejected it, this is a bit of a red flag. There are a few possibilities about what is going in here. There is a psychological aspect to him bit wanting to touch you or be touched, it could be as serious as past abuse or as simple as he is self conscious about something. He might be particularly shy about showing you his penis or he has some issues with it. Lastly, and I know you've said in a previous reply that he is straight, but there is a real possibility that he is in fact gay and hasn't come to terms with it yet. In this instance he is going to say he is straight, but his actions will give it away.
    Do you guys have make out sessions? What happens, just kissing? Have you ever noticed he had an erection while with you?

    • We had a make out and he kissed me several times He really does it in a passionate way.. Tbh never looked at his crotch but once when we hugged after kissing felt something rubbing my belly and he pulled away for sudden nd doing his shirt to cover his crotch he seemed nervous and shy so yes seems he had an erection while kissing me

    • I think you need to talk to him and try and get him to open up to you about what is going on. It certainly sounds like he is shy and has a problem with intimacy. Maybe he's had a bad experience in the past. You need to let him know it's ok and you will not make fun of him and take things slowly. Let him know that you want to be touched and that you want to touch him and that it's ok to do it. I do think it's something that needs to progress otherwise your relationship isn't going to move forward and you will likely become resentful as time goes on. I'm always available if you need more advice

    • Thanks for the MHG 👍

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  • My guess is that he’s just shy and doesn’t know how to switch modes to be more assertive with sex yet. Maybe let him know you’re open to it and interested but need him to show some interest.

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  • Take charge!!

  • Feel him, put your hand in his pants.

    • I once tried to do that while making out he dodged it and he said that i should stop he doesn't like to be touched there

    • Ask him directly

  • I never got excited just because I saw a naked person

  • Not everyone becomes sexually active in their teens, that's a fact

    • Actually i am 21 but had a problem to fix my age on this app i am new to it

    • Yeah just saying that because I didn't have sex until my mid-20s

    • Ah okey

  • Most guys would want to suck on them, maybe he is gay? No guy would say don’t touch me there

    • He is a straight guy but he is not ready yet to have sex and i am fine with that i respect it but the fact he shows that he is not interested in me physically and only what he says that he loves laying on my breast

    • Yeah he is not like most guys, We never want to wait for that so maybe he is very insecure in that area