Does she like me?

[Simon1092]

The most popular girl in school asked me to help her study science and for the past 4 months I have. Two months ago, is when things started getting weird I went over to hers and she said “do you want to put some music on?” I nodded and said “yeah, sure, if you want” and she played “tiny dancer” by Elton John and said “I love this song”, then the next week she put on “drunk in love” by Beyoncé and then last week I was going through biology with her and she labelled something wrong and I said “actually that’s not the clitoris, that is the urethral opening... it’s where you pee” and she went “oh. I’m such an idiot, how could I not know? It’s just when I went through this homework with Dylan he said it was here” (Dylan was her boyfriend at the time). Then a few days ago she broke up with him, they’d been together about 5 months. I dunno, she keeps making eye contact with me and whenever she touches my hand when I’m trying to teach her she looks up at me really intense. I once even got a boner but luckily she didn’t know. Do you think she likes me? Or am I just being stupid thinking that and a girl like her would never like a guy like me?

[SnapKracklePop]

First things first. Never, say your "stupid", and never utter the thought "a guy like me" unless it is followed by the thought "is what any girl would want". Negative thoughts about ourselves tend to betray us over time. From what you've said it sounds like she might.

Start small, and speak slowly "you know, you're funny/cute/dorky, that's why I like you." See how she reacts, if you feel it's a positive reaction you could try something as bold as "I'd love to date you".

And look, If she is not keen when you try to escalate just be cool, look her in the eyes and say "That is a shame, I must have misread your feelings, at least you can be my friend" indicating to her that you are comfortable with her decision and you have subtlety friendzoned her. And then move on, no-one should make fun of you for trying, you were the bigger man for having a go. Infact, having a go deserves respect, because it takes balls and you can say that to anyone who says otherwise. If you show yourself as the kind of man who can be rejected and have it not phase him it will tend to have positive and often unexpected flow on effects for you down the track.

[Simon1092]

But her Ex Dylan has started hating me since I’ve started speaking to her. If she rejects me he will bully me for it for the rest of my life. I was walking into school yesterday and him and his friends were sat down and I walked past with my head down, avoiding eye contact and walking quick but he still got up, pushed me against the wall and started shouting “has she said anything about me?” And I just went “no, no, no” and luckily he left me. Throughout the day I’m constantly sending funny texts to her and she’s doing the same and we just click really well. Some guy yesterday started talking about her and how he can’t understand why she hasn’t “got with” him yet and I said “she’s not an object” and he said “what?” And I said “she’s got a lot more to her, the way you were speaking about her, like she’s an object. She’s not. She’s smart and she’s kind and she’s funny and if you really like her than maybe you should stop looking at her with your dick”. He punched me in the face, but I had to say it and turns out she was there because she thanked me. Thats when I realised I really liked her and now I’m wondering if she likes me.

[SnapKracklePop]

We all take a few punches at some point or another, and we all take a few more. If you that worried about it, do something about it, take up a martial art like BJJ, Muay Thai, or boxing. It will improve your confidence and it's a lot of fun. if your being targeted you can let the school know (It may feel like a weak choice, but it may be your only option). Man, you could be "wondering" your whole life and never know, that's why it takes courage to take the first step. That shouldn't be a problem since it sounds like you already have some courage to stand up for what you beleive in. The truth is, if you wait forever, and keep "wondering", eventually the opportunity will slip by you, possibly forever. The pain of regretting an opportunity is several fold higher than that of having failed an opportunity you attempted. There's pain and worry in both the past and the unknown future, I don't recommend you dwell on either too long. Take a deep breath, and just be in the moment. Summarised: Go for it, start a martial art, deal with the future as it comes. Hope that helps bud.

[Tommy2017]

To me two things are clearly happening here.
Either 1, she is just playing you for you to continue tutoring her. She knows that if you think she likes you, you might not be wouldn't stop tutoring her.
It is something high school girls love doing to smart boys they suspect of liking them.
Or 2, she actually likes you but doesn't know how to clearly say those words to you with the fear of being rejected.
I would advise you to just ask her point blank if she does, that way you would finally get an answer to your burning question.

[Moonchild714]

She may like you or she may be on the rebound and thinks you're a decent guy to help her get over this other guy. Just keep sn eye on things see if she sends more signals but try to be respectful that she needs to get over this other guy. At 17, 5 months is a LTR...

[Simon1092]

Some guy yesterday started talking about her and how he can’t understand why she hasn’t “got with” him yet and I said “she’s not an object” and he said “what?” And I said “she’s got a lot more to her, the way you were speaking about her, like she’s an object. She’s not. She’s smart and she’s kind and she’s funny and if you really like her than maybe you should stop looking at her with your dick”. He punched me in the face, but I had to say it and turns out she was there because she thanked me. I was worried about the rebound thing but she started giving off signals while she was with her ex.

[Moonchild714]

Thank you for MHO.

[JustSomeGuy11]

Keep an eye on her to she if things continue they way they are until she's had time recover from the break up. Then I would say to do a little flirting to see if you get a positive reaction.

I would say she likes you at least a little bit with all the hand touching and stuff. Though for me doing biology homework with someone I Iike would anxiously crush me inside.

Sure the songs might be all 'subliminal messaging' but try not to read into it all too much.

Might even be a case where she broke up with him to date you instead... At least you know where the clitoris is. I also refuse to believe a 23ish yr old woman doesn't know where her clitoris is... That was a 'airhead' moment or a opportunity for you to interject.

I'd say it's worth a shot. Just make sure it's not for the 'I got the popular girl' feel.

[Simon1092]

No I really like her. But, I’m a virgin and have no idea how this stuff works so don’t know what the next step would be or how to flirt back without making myself look like a tool.

[JustSomeGuy11]

Hmm well I'm far from an expert myself 😅 I guess maybe do similar things to what she's doing, maybe invite her over to yours to study, touch her hand occasionally. If she likes you, any little amount of effort will be enough for her to try an make a move.

[Simon1092]

But we are doing that already and I don’t wanna get a boner again in case this time she notices 😂 I think I’m going to ask her out but not straight up

[Hoss1981]

She likes you. No girl would make a mistake about where or what the clit is at that age. She was giving you an opening.

[Simon1092]

But I’m just a nerdy little virgin and she’s the most popular girl in school and so I just don’t think she does. What should I do to find out?

[Hoss1981]

Well you could always just ask or the next she leaves you an opening take her up on it.

[Simon1092]

But how? I’ll just choke

[Hoss1981]

Well if you think she's doing well. Reward her. Simple say hey since you've been doing so good would like to go to a movie or a dinner. If she says yes she's most likely into.

[Simon1092]

Okay, yeah

[elite665]

Either she wants attention which is what she is getting or she just wants to bang you as a rebound type thing

Cause way I see it she def does not want to date you since she had you around since she was in a relationship in which at the time you were making sure she does well in school

[Simon1092]

But she was giving off signals while in her relationship. I don’t just want to “bang her” I’m a virgin, I have no clue how this stuff works

[elite665]

I don't know man maybe then try to do stuff that shows you like her but if I’m the end she only wants to casually smash I would go along with it it’s all experience that you could use (and bragging rights)

[Darius_Kel]

Hmm... in my opinion, she might want to pursue some sort of relationship.

[Simon1092]

Okay so what’s the next step? I’m a virgin I have no clue how any of this stuff works, every time I’ve ever tried to flirt I just make myself look like a tool.

[Darius_Kel]

Well, she deems to like you as you are. So... act natural.

[Simon1092]

Okay. What if she goes in for it? What if I get a boner again when she touches me but she notices?

[Darius_Kel]

Its natural.

[Browneye57]

Dear god, does she have to knock you down to get you to pay attention? She wants the dick man. She's already in love. Don't fuck it up.

[Simon1092]

We actually went on a date today, if you wanna call it that 😂

[wisefool]

who knows, sounds like she might but don't jump to conclusions. she may be feeling attracted to you because you are a stark contrast to her ex. some other things to keep in mind are just because you're attracted to someone doesn't mean you want to date them or she might just look at you as a good friend. it's up to you to figure it out but anything is possible, try not to think in terms of types.

[Simon1092]

Okay so what’s the next step? I’m a virgin I have no clue how any of this stuff works, every time I’ve ever tried to flirt I just make myself look like a tool.

[wisefool]

yikes. well hopefully you are not just looking for sex. try being more responsive to her, maybe touch her hand lightly, hold eye contact and see how she responds. it's important to be in the moment, pay attention, slowly lean in for a kiss and closing the eyes as you get close. maybe give her a hug first and look into her eyes to see if she's feeling the same way.

[perislav85]

Just try. Ask her and take her out. I really don't think she's gonna refuse, but if she does, you don't lose anything. So, try, it's the least you can do 🙃 Wish you luck 🙃

[Iron_Man]

Yes she does

[outside_Toronto]

There's only one way to find out. You have nothing to lose here no matter what happens

[Simon1092]

I do though. She’s a nice girl, she’s funny, she’s kind, she’s sweet and I don’t wanna lose her as a friend. If she rejects me that’s also really embarrassing and Dylan and his little gang at school would bully me for it forever

[outside_Toronto]

You're 23?

[outside_Toronto]

Sorry... didn't notice the update. Fuck what everybody else thinks. If you want it, go get it. If you don't, she won't remain a friend anyway so ask her

[Simon1092]

How should I start flirting back then? Im a virgin, I don’t know how all this stuff works

[outside_Toronto]

there is no one way of flirting. Everyone is different; what works for one won't work for another. That said, everyone likes to laugh. If you make her laugh and keep the mood light, you're half way there. Pay attention to her responses and use that to your advantage when you decide what your next move is

[Simon1092]

Yeah, I make her laugh but it’s just what if she decides to make the first move? Or what if I get a boner when she touches me again but she notices this time?

[outside_Toronto]

Then deal with that when it happens. If she makes a move you're golden

[Simon1092]

I think we have a date

[Simon1092]

She said her favourite film is step brothers ages ago and she said how our local cinema were playing it along with a few other older movies and she stopped speaking as if she was waiting for me to speak and then I said “maybe we could go?” And she agreed and then said “5 is the only time I can do so what would we do about dinner?” And I said “there’s some restaurants next to it, we could go out and eat there?” And she smiled and said “yeah, I’d like that. Maybe you could give me some more study notes when we are there too” I’m not really sure wether it’s a date or another study session to be honest

[outside_Toronto]

Call it whatever you want. Title doesn't matter. As long as it's going the way you want

[Jamie05rhs]

I think she likes you.

[Simon1092]

Okay so what’s the next step? I’m a virgin I have no clue how any of this stuff works, every time I’ve ever tried to flirt I just make myself look like a tool.

[Jamie05rhs]

First, decide if you really like her and want to be with her. Then, if the answer to both of those questions is "yes", then go for it! But be cool and be smooth. In other words, don't act like a nerd. What I'm saying is "be yourself", but not TOO much. Wear deodorant. Get a fashion overhaul. Use breath mints. And work on your diction and intonation. Also, work out as much as you can. No, you're not going to automatically "catch up" to the jocks in your level of muscle. But every little bit helps. Just be advised that she IS a "popular girl", so there is a chance that the relationship could be a temporary one. So don't even go into it unless you know you will be able to deal with a breakup should it occur.

[joedunn500]

You could’ve said “I’ll show you on yours where you pee from” lol

[Gedaria]

She seems to have a soft spot for you. Specially all the time you spend together. Oh if you got a boner she will have noticed.
I would say don't rush it, what you have is nice, keep it there..

[Simon1092]

I really hope she didn’t. She’s quite straight forward in terms of if I do or say something weird she pulls me up on it and I feel like if she noticed I got a boner she would have definitely said something about it.

[Gedaria]

Not really she could be happy she turns you on.

[COMMODOREII]

Yeah she likes you.

[Simon1092]

Well... what’s next?

[COMMODOREII]

Spend some time with her that doesn't require studying. Talk to her and listen to what she likes and what her interests are. Then when you are not together look up what she likes and study it. If you find it interesting you can talk to her about it.

[Simon1092]

She often stays round for a few extra hours after or lets me stay at hers a few hours extra after where we just talk and we actually have a lot in common. We also talk in lessons and sometimes in between but not often because I get scared of her ex

[COMMODOREII]

Why are you scared? Do not allow a good opportunity rob you of a good person to spend time with. It sounds like you both like each other. Pursue the relationship and be happy. You both should be happy. Im rooting for you brother. *hugs* now go and talk to her and see if she will want to pursue it too. I bet she will.

[Simon1092]

Thanks, I think we have a date. She said her favourite film is step brothers ages ago and she said how our local cinema were playing it along with a few other older movies and she stopped speaking as if she was waiting for me to speak and then I said “maybe we could go?” And she agreed and then said “5 is the only time I can do so what would we do about dinner?” And I said “there’s some restaurants next to it, we could go out and eat there?” And she smiled and said “yeah, I’d like that. Maybe you could give me some more study notes when we are there too” I’m not really sure wether it’s a date or another study session to be honest

[COMMODOREII]

Woohoo!! Im happy for you. Add me we got to be friends and i want to know how it goes. 😂😂 im so happy for you. This is your first date.

[anametouse]

Honestly don't get caught up looking for signs and just ask her out. Much simpler that way.

[Simon1092]

But her Ex Dylan has started hating me since I’ve started speaking to her. If she rejects me he will bully me for it for the rest of my life. I was walking into school yesterday and him and his friends were sat down and I walked past with my head down, avoiding eye contact and walking quick but he still got up, pushed me against the wall and started shouting “has she said anything about me?” And I just went “no, no, no” and luckily he left me.

[anametouse]

Aren't you like 23? I doubt this happens at college

[Simon1092]

We are both 17

[anametouse]

Lies

[Simon1092]

What?

[anametouse]

What?

[MAG65]

I would say she probably does but I had sisters so I learned that guys always assume girls like them for anything. Being friends is more important than dating also if you have a good connection with them. Eventually you will find out if she likes you. She will probably tell you.

[Joker_]

Yeah

[Simon1092]

Okay so what’s the next step? I’m a virgin I have no clue how any of this stuff works, every time I’ve ever tried to flirt I just make myself look like a tool.

[Joker_]

Just be yourself

[ivbnlknfru]

I think she likes you, if you don't make a move soon to test her feelings. She will friend zone you and then, you may never have this opportunity again...

[Simon1092]

But I’m virgin and if I make a move she’s gonna find out

[ivbnlknfru]

So... girls like a guy that's clean and pure, like a brand new car...

[Exorcist_Rampage]

It seems like she wants to be with you.

[Simon1092]

Okay so what’s the next step? I’m a virgin I have no clue how any of this stuff works, every time I’ve ever tried to flirt I just make myself look like a tool.

[Billneidrich77]

I think she is, but it sounds like she is waiting for you to make the next move.

[Simon1092]

But I don’t know what to do. She’s more experienced than me, I’m a virgin. I have no clue how this stuff works