Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I was making out with this guy I've been seeing for a month. I made it clear to him that I don't feel comfortable having sex yet, but I'm ok with making out, and being naked together. After some time, he decided to put on a condom (as a precautionary measure/just in case) during our makeout session. A few min later, I feel him shove his dick inside me without even asking if I'm sure about him proceeding with it. Since he was already fully inside me, I just decided to go with it. After the sex was over, I felt very guilty and like my boundaries were crossed. Does this count as sexual assault?
Does this count as sexual assault/rape?
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8 29Getting a guilty conscience after the fact doesn’t count as rape.
Don’t expose your goods in the future if you don’t want to give implied consent. Especially when you just go with it!
If you're not ok having sex with him yet, why are you making out
You shouldn't be with anybody. You would put a man in that situation then shame him or possibly accuse him of a heinous crime for doing whats natural. Absolutely reprehensible behavior. Just don't date men, you aren't mature enough.
YUP, IT IS! BUT you might have a hardtime making it stick in court. What do you want to do?
You willingly got naked. Not assault.
It is not rape, it is consensual sex, you have crossed all boundaries, you wanted to enjoy yourself, now blaming your boyfriend
No. You are easy. That is the issue.
No it doesn’t. You literally stated in your message that you went along with it. You didn’t try to stop the engagement
And why would you be so quick to ruin someone’s life. That selfish af
Did you at any time tell him no? from the time both of you's took off your clothes to the time he put the rubber on his dick to the time he was fucking you did you at any point say no? if not then it's not rape. you didn't once try to stop him. were you unconscious and not able to give consent? no you were conscious the whole time but still didn't say no. that's not rape and by you falsely accusing someone of rape could damage an innocent man's life
Do we women not have the right and prerogative to change our minds? I think we do, and by willingly getting naked with him and watching him put on a condom, the clear message you sent was that you had exercised your right to change your mind.
If true it meets legal definition but let's be real you were naked with him, making out and you allowed him to put a condom on and were on a postion that while making out with him his penis could slip into you and then rather than stop him you were happy enough to let him continue. In a situation like that its very easy for an erect penis just to slip in accidentally.
Sounds like you just regret having sex with this guy or maybe feel used that's not rape or sexual assault. I mean if I decided that I was raped every time a woman bounced up and down on my dick without consent or took advantage when I was too drunk to consent I'd be a laughing stock.
Yes b it legally would be hard to prove, I suggest meeting him again and castrating him
Something doesn't add up here. How old are you?
Ok, taking your story at face value, yes it was sexual assault. But it would be a tough case in a court of law considering you willingly got naked with him, watched him put a condom on "as a precautionary measure/just in case", allowed him to get in a position with you where he could suddenly "shove his dick inside" you without you seeing it coming, and then you didn't try to stop him once he did it. His defense attorney would easily tear your story apart.
If this actually happened, and played out the way you say, I'm truly sorry you went through that and wish you the best.