Does this mean he is gay?

[TeresaO293]

I’ve been seeing this guy and we are long distance. We speak almost every day, sometimes on video call and other times on the phone. I’ve noticed that he is fairly feminine in his mannerisms and he even told me that he is flamboyant, and that people at work always ask him if he is gay but he said he is very much attracted to women and he’s attracted to me. He seems very into me and we speak every day. The other day we were video calling and he showed me that he was wearing a rainbow pair of socks and that he told me that his boss was gay and out and it was after he said this that he showed me his rainbow socks. He told me he just wears them because he finds the colours funky

Do you think he could be gay?

[PrettyPriya]

No. That is ridiculous to assume someone's sexuality because of their socks. Not to mention, he flat out told you that he likes women and in particular... you. Now, why would you assume he is gay because of that?

Also, his mannerisms and perceived sexuality don't mean a thing. He told you he wasn't gay. Why don't you believe him? Sounds like this is not a good start to a relationship or whatever it is the two of you have.

Trust and communication are two very key parts of a solid relationship. You seem to have the communication, even though you are not listening to it. The trust is the one you are failing at right now.

You do not seem to trust when he tells you he likes you. That is what I am struggling to understand. More so the boiling down of someone's sexuality to the colour of socks they are wearing.

That isn't even remotely defining of someone's sexuality. Again, I keep going back to the fact he TOLD YOU he was into women and likes you. What is confusing?

[Rania05]

I don't so, I have a distant cousin who's feminine in mannerism and straight. He gets masculine when he's alone with men and had two girlfriend before getting married, he sounds genuinely happy each time we met.

[TheUniqueOne96]

He could be, just like any other guy.

There's the stereotype that gay guys are effeminate and whilst it's true for some cases, it's not for all.

People think the same thing about me a lot too, due to my look and dress sense, but I'm not gay.

[RobT312]

no way of really knowing until you meet him. Everything you mentioned seems speculation. Have u asked him?

[Sandeeppingping]

Ask him if he's ever had aids that would be a dead giveaway

[IveGotNoName]

No... he literally told you he isn't.

[Wise4myage]

That's not enough to go on.

[Wise4myage]

He might be, or perhaps he just supports gay rights?

[justFriend]

i think "yes" :)

[CharlieDMX]

He might be. No one can be sure until you meet him in person and try to have sex with him

[nudeNhorny]

despite all of that, if he is attracted to you, then he is not gay

[billluc69]

yes, or maybe bi

[cyclist89]

Wimpy guy simply

[ConanTheHumanitarian]

No..