Does this mean that I’m not good on top?

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The other day I asked him if I could go on top during sex and he said “no I’m feeling good now”. When I’m on top I don’t squat I just bounce up and down a lot and then I move back and forth then I bounce up and down again.

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And then when I asked him after sex why he didn’t allow me to go on top he said that it was because he was feeling good like that

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20yearsolder Master
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No it doesn't mean that you're not good on top, it means that he was really enjoying the position that you were in previously. If it feels best when you're on top riding him, let him know. Maybe you can start on top and finish the way he likes it or vice versa
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tilmyheadblows Xper 3
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AmandaYVR blocked me like a pussy so I'm gonna publicly say: telling someone new to exploring their sexuality that they can do whatever they want and it doesn't matter what their boyfriend wants because "he's not in charge" is not empowerment and quite literally encouraging rape. BDSM is not the only time things need to be discussed or agreed upon during or before sex; thats always. If you don't have mutual agreement to what is happening or what is going to happen then you do not have consent; that is not sex, thats rape.

Sorry that you're middle aged and too up your own ass to have had experienced a healthy sex life. 😋
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okeydoke Explorer
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Not everybody likes certain sex acts the same amount. When you sleep with more than a couple of people I think it’s a given that people enjoy completely different things.
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AmandaYVR Editor
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He said no to you?

Get rid of this guy.
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- AmandaYVR
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  This is not good sex. I don't know what the f is happening with young peoples' sex right now but you do not need to stand for this, girl. What happened to both enjoying the moment, and it being a fluid, connected, experience? You don't need to ask. He is NOT in charge. And you can't be bad at it (being on top, or otherwise) as long as you are into it, expressive, and an open communicator.
- Asker
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  I love him on top though
- Asker
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  I actually could only come with him on top but I like to take charge sometimes. I want to make him fee good too
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- AmandaYVR
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  The technical requirements of achieving an orgasm are separate from fluidity and communication that happen with good, healthy, sex. Don't worry about the position needed to climax (yes, whichever works for you.) The point is that you can't be bad at being on top. It's not a difficult 'skill'! You need to be with a partner who encourages you to gain confidence, and to feel your pleasure. All good men want their women to enjoy sex as much as they do, if not more. He's being selfish and discouraging you. That is not good.
- AmandaYVR
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  Read the general advice from men here. They all want her to enjoy it.
  Sex should not be selfish.
  
  Men: what is the best sex advice you can give to women? ↗
- tilmyheadblows
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  @AmandaYVR very bad advice, the guy having some control or saying no does not = bad sex. I agree that he is not in charge, but neither is she, unless otherwise agreed upon before sex. It takes two to make the beast with two backs, and consent to what is done needs to be mutual. Your comments come off very rapey. Thanks for shouting out my thread tho.
- AmandaYVR
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  @tilmyheadblows My comments come off as RAPEY? Are you kidding me? That is absolutely ridiculous. I am encouraging this young girl, new to sex, to feel good about herself, and sex, and own her pleasure and enjoyment, and to find partners who know that good sex is a communication between partners, not for the selfish fulfillment of just one person. Sex should not need a disclaimer of prior "otherwise agreed upon". She's young. She's not doing BDSM!
- Jerre
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  I agree with you 100%
- AmandaYVR
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  @Jerre Thank you, Jerre!
- Jerre
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  I never tell the girl what to do or how to do it. She certainly knows what’s best for her body.
- AmandaYVR
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  @Jerre 🎯
- Jerre
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  Perhaps one day we can chat about our likes and dislikes
- AmandaYVR
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  @Jerre Ok. Hey I'm thinking of writing a mytake about my worst lover, and best lover. Do you think that should be detailed and two separate articles, or both together in one? (And maybe the in-betweens too.)
- Jerre
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  I think it should all be together and very detailed.
- AmandaYVR
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  @Jerre I have 5 mytake drafts saved and none of them complete because they're all detailed and in-depth but not even finished. I think I need to re-work. Frustrating. I intend to do short, concise, but it ends up not being me. It's too dull staying on the surface.
- Jerre
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  You want me to proof read?
- AmandaYVR
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  @Jerre lolol. Oh how generous of you. But no thank you. It's a bit of a slog, tbh. Though I may ask some conceptual questions, perhaps. Such as what may be of interest.
- Jerre
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  Would it give me an erectiom? Lover. Reading tru stories wrtitten about their sex experiences, what to do to make Both the girl and guy cums superhard and multiple times. Doesn’t ta ke me long to get an erection then into a hand job. I am Hyperspermia which means. My body produced a very large amount of ejaculate (cum).
- Jerre
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  I can. imagine us in a room, listening to music, setting AVR oss from each other and both of us masturbating ourselves until we both cum. That that would lead to any other activities between us?
AmeerX Guru
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He must not have been in mood
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andy530 Guru
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It’s probable
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