Does this mean that I’m not the best sex he’s ever had?

Anonymous

I’ve only had sex with him and I told him that despite him being the only person I’ve done it with he’s the best sex that I’ve ever had but he didn’t say that I was too he just said that he loved making love to me. Am i maybe not the best sex that he’s ever had? Sucks that I have to worry about this he doesn’t have to worry about this with me I wish that I was the only girl that he slept with.

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by the way I’ve been having sex with him for over a year now. His favorite sex position is doggy but I don’t do doggy because one time I literally felt like my vagina rip while doing it and after that I’ve just been hesitant about it

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Anonymous
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Can’t change the past honey, so you gotta let of wanting to be his first and only or feel hurt that you’re not. If that’s the case you would’ve been better served patiently awaiting a virgin man to lose yours to. It’s also hard to say he’s the best sex ever when he’s the only sex you ever had, bc that’s not the compliment you feel like it is when you’re saying it. If you’re not the best sex to him, then so what? You literally have zero experience so why not just enjoy learning and exploring with him instead of creating these standards in your own mind? Giving him your virginity won’t be the reason you are the best, but it is not a competition and it’ll make you self conscious in the bedroom, which makes the experience less enjoyable for you both.
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- Asker
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  Read the update I do have experience we’ve been having sex for more than a year now
- Opinion Owner
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  That’s great, but when I say you have no experience, I’m talking about past lovers aside from him. Like you did enter the relationship with a body count and everything you are learning is with him. Aside from this, I hope that something else in my statement resonated aside from you honing in on just that one part.
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  **you didn’t enter

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20yearsolder Master
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I'm going to give you my honest answer, You're probably not the best sex he's ever had. That being said, some of the women had much more experience than you. It is a huge compliment that he said he enjoys making love to you. The more you are with him and willing to experiment, the better the sex will get between the both of you. You can definitely work up to be the best sex he's ever had
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- Asker
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  My heart just stopped reading this
- 20yearsolder
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  Why, didn't you say he was your first
- Asker
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  Should I just ask him to make sure because I’m not sure if what you’re saying is true?
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- Asker
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  by the way I do have experience I’ve been having sex with him for over a year now
- 20yearsolder
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  Do you really want your feelings hurt? He's honest with you, you are probably not the best he's ever had. You're just learning, relax and enjoy the sex. He's with you and he's already said that you likes having sex with you
- 20yearsolder
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  Okay you do have a little experience, if you weren't that good, he'd already be fucking someone else
- Asker
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  But he didn’t say no maybe it was too late at night. Maybe I should ask him?
- 20yearsolder
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  No, does it really matter? Stop worrying about whether you're the best or not. You have him in your bed, that should be enough compliment for you
- Asker
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  It’s been almost two years and I still feel sad and insecure that he’s had sex with 3 girls before me
- 20yearsolder
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  You can't change the past so what if he's had sex with three other women. Once again he's with you, that's all that should matter
- DaveJord
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  @ asker this 20yearsolder is giving you some good advice here. If you have been with this guy for two years and have not moved beyond missionary and not interested in doggy style as you stated above... then yeah you should be feeling insecure about where he is in the relationship. You seem pretty young, but you might want to start addressing your sexual insecurities because this might not be heading to a good place. There's obviously something more going on, that's feeding into your anxiety. But if you have been having sex over the course of two years, then yeah you're not the best he's ever had, and if your not into doggie style I beat he probably is. He probably would love for you to put out a better effort.
- Asker
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  @DaveJord we have done doggy style but I don’t know why he hasn’t asked to do it again I would’ve done it. And last time I asked him if I could rode him but he told me not to because he was feeling good
- Asker
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  @DaveJord he said it was his favorite but I don’t know why he hasn’t asked me to try again.
- DaveJord
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  Yeah, something is up with this guy, that's not normal. In 20 years of having sex, I never told a women no for any reason, when she offered doggy or on top. You instincts are telling you something is up... trust your instincts. Your pretty young and there's is plenty of time in your life to find that special guy that will make you feel the way you deserve.
- Asker
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  @DaveJord what do you think is wrong with him? He usually let’s me go on top but he hasn’t asked if we could do doggy again.
- Asker
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  Maybe because the first time we did doggy I felt the worst pain I’ve felt during sex
- DaveJord
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  If you have asked and offered... and said no. Hell I don't know what what's wrong with him. That's beyond me to comprehend. I never had to be asked more than once and I never said no or refused. I am just saying its not normal. If I was you, next time I was with him I would tell him you want doggie and not wait to be asked. He might just feel weird about it, if you never got into it the first time. But if you ask for him to do it and he comes up with an excuse... then something is not right. If you ask him and he does feel good and doesn't want you to ride him... well if its and isolated event and it only happened the one time then... maybe he just felt sick. But if it is happening repeatedly then your probably not good at it or he is not the guy for you. Riding him should feel good for you to, not just him. So if you're not enjoying it neither will he. Don't think just because he had sex with 3 different women he knows what he is doing. He's probably far from being good at it himself, you just don't know any better. And don't think is supposed to only be all about him, you are supposed to be getting what you want out of it to. But if your not getting into it neither will he.
- Asker
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  @DaveJord he only says no I’m fine sometimes
- DaveJord
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  If your have been with him repeatedly for over two year span, have you two ever orgasmed together? Has he ever really satisfied you? Are you having sex with him, because you want to or because you feel like you have to in order to make him happy? The chemistry obviously is no there and I would refer you back to point Anonymous was trying to make.
- Asker
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  @DaveJord yeah we’ve both came before. I enjoy him on top more than me on top and he knows that but sometimes I like to take charge. He loves going down on me I know that but for me I just want the going down on me to end soon lol
- Asker
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  We have sex like once a week though or like 3 times a month. He usually just does one round I always touch him after round one but he doesn’t get hard anymore so round 2 is rare. And it’s usually him initiating sex sometimes I do but i guess since im still a bit shy sometimes im a bit hesitant
- DaveJord
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  Well plain and simply your just "NOT" the best he ever had... but who cares. If you're getting what you want out of it other then him saying you're the best, what's the problem? It should not matter whose the best ever, and you have to get over the fact he has been with other women... because your not getting any younger and most people these days have been with multiple partners before settling down or find the the one they really want.
- DaveJord
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  If your really that concerned then you might just be feeling it time to move on and consider other people and have fun while you're young.
- Asker
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  @DaveJord but how do you know that? How did you come to that conclusion?
- Asker
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  Also would it be a bad idea to ask him if I’m the best sex he’s ever had?
- 20yearsolder
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  It's a horrible idea. I told you it doesn't matter. The dude is into you
- 20yearsolder
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  It's like you need to have your ego stroked. Oh yes babe you're the best I've ever had. There's a very good chance he won't answer you honestly anyway.
- Asker
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  @DaveJord can you tell me why you think that please?
- Asker
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  How do I know the truth?
- 20yearsolder
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  Basically Dave came to the same conclusion that I gave you from the beginning, stop worrying about whether you're the best or not and enjoy each other. The next time you're in missionary position and you want to be on top, don't ask him if it's okay if you can be on top, tell him that you want to be on top. I don't think you're tired of being in this relationship and want to move on. Keep doing what you're doing, you will learn over time. But you're going to have to be a little more demanding to get what you want. Ride him cowgirl
DaveJord Editor
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I don't want to speak for anyone... but if I just had the best sex of my life with a women I'd tell her. But the best sex I ever had in my life was with the wrong person... so I would not get to upset about it. You're just feeling insecure about your first time, and want that reassurance. SO he did say he loved it and take that for a great thing.
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- DaveJord
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  @asker Comment on that update you gave... over time you need to work on being more experimental. Doggy Style is not a hard ask for some one I want to be with long term. But he should be willing to take it slow and be easy with you.