Dom/Sub Punishments and Rewards?

RJMusickid Xper 5

Hey all. So, I'm seeing someone who is a total sub. I have a lot of the characteristics of, but have never been, a relatively full time dom. I would love to hear any fun ideas anyone might have in terms of punishments, rewards, or general advice!

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Smmyskittles Yoda
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It depends on how 'severe' into punishments you want to go.

Tie her to the bed and leave her there while you go off for a few hours and do your own thing.

Orgasm Denial

Spanking (with a paddle)

Whipping (get a REAL whip not that cheap fake sheit)

Make her get on her knees, apologize and tell you "I'm sorry for being a disobedient slut, Master/Sir/Daddy". SMACK her if she doesn't say "Master/Sir/Daddy" and tell her "Say it right, Bitch"

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- Smmyskittles
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  Rewards: Kisses, Orgasms, "Good Girl", eating her out, letting her suck the tip. - Play with her. Taunt her, make her watch you rub your own dick and make her beg for it. Ask her if she's been a good girl. Make her tell you who's p***y and who's slut she is. lol, SO SOSOSOSO MUCH MORE. Feel free to PM me
- redeyemindtricks
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  If she is really a "total sub", then, he will run up against his own limits way, way, waaaayyyyy before he gets anywhere near hers. I'm not feeling particularly inspired here, for some reason. But, mah boy @intraluminal has some stories tho, about subs and their subbin'... oh boy yeah he does. If he wants to tell 'em
- redeyemindtricks
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  Here y'go asker -- Instead of writing something, I throws a couple of links at ya. Mho girly opinion on each.
  
  This is all pretty vanilla, but, so is this site. (:
  
  www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1852627-how-long-does-it-take-you-to-cum-on-average
  
  www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1867173-do-you-prefer-condoms-or-do-you-have-sex-without-them-where-does-he
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- RJMusickid
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  Damn. Thanks!! You clearly know what you're talking about. I'll definitely PM you. I need all the inspiration I can get.
- RJMusickid
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  @redeyemindtricks Thanks, Redeye!
- Intraluminal
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  Hey @redeyemindtricks I'm not feeling it either, except to say that that you're right about hitting your own limits before you'll hit a *true* subs limits. There is one thing I would like to speak out against, and that but is leaving a sub alone tied up or otherwise. It's a VERY BAD IDEA and MUST NOT BE DONE. Ropes can slip out of position. Houses can catch fire. A person can become nauseated and vomit during a panic attack and choke.
- redeyemindtricks
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  @Intraluminal oh, yah, good looking out. I automatically took that to mean "... doing stuff elsewhere in the house"
- Smmyskittles
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  Thank you for MH :]
- AustinMan
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  @Intraluminal I can't second this strongly enough. It's negligent to leave someone restrained without an emergency escape available and even then they shouldn't ever, EVER be left alone for any extended period.
- Smmyskittles
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  @AustinMan - I like and have been left alone for several hours. He went out to get dinner, took his sweet time. I think it was about 2 or 3 hours. - If you choose not to, that's your choice.
- AustinMan
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  My point isn't if it's erotic. It's that it's not safe.
- Smmyskittles
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  @AustinMan - We're going to have to agree to disagree on this matter.
- AustinMan
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  Works for me. That's called mutual respect. I appreciate how you handled this.
- redeyemindtricks
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  I gotta say I'm with @austinman on this one.
  
  I told my story of the '94 Northridge earthquake here:
  www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2040930-do-you-listen-to-smashing-pumpkins
  
  Let's just say I wouldn't have appreciated having been immobilized, if and when pieces of the building were literally falling on me.
  
  Also, I've been in houses that have caught fire. (Yay, growing up in the hood.) It's ASTONISHING how far and how fast that shit spreads.
  
  Last but not least -- If he needs artificial/physical restraints to keep you in place, he's a shitty dom anyway.
  One of *those* glances should be more than enough to keep you frozen on the spot the whole time he's gone. <3
  
  by the way I got yr note, I'll get that later on.
- AustinMan
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  @redeyemindtricks Thanks for your support. I have had ladies that while I can nail them to the spot with a look, really really really love the physical restraint. That feeling of helplessness just had them all but squirting before I even touch them.

Most Helpful Guy

AustinMan Influencer
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The most common punishment is impact play: spanking, strapping, caning, etc. If you aren't experienced, learn about caning online or from a local BDSM group before you do it very hard.

Is your partner also a masochist, i. e. is she into erotic pain?
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- RJMusickid
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  She's into light pain for sure. Not sure how much...
- AustinMan
  +1 y
  Are you familiar with endorphins and arousal? Very useful stuff.
- RJMusickid
  +1 y
  I've learned a little bit here and there, but sounds like something important to better educate myself on.
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- AustinMan
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  Endorphins are chemicals manufactured by the body that serve as 1) natural enhancers, e. g. runner's high, as well natural anesthetics, which is one reason that while you're running there's no pain but when you stop, ouch! High levels of sexual arousal produce these same endorphins as we become more and more aroused. Our pain threshold rises, often quite dramatically. These endorphins turn a sharp swat with a paddle that would be quite unpleasant into an erotic swat. Bottom line: If she's turned on enough, her pain tolerance will grow dramatically. Does that make sense?
- AustinMan
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  Thanks for the MHG! If you'd like to discuss punishment, or as I prefer to call it discipline, just pm me.