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Guys are only after sex. All guys are the same. They're pigs etc.
You see this a lot. It's in popular culture, people say this just in conversations whatever.
First of all I think that's not true at all I think there's huge numbers of guys who have a naiive view of love like a fairytail story basically and they just get friendzoned and rejected or they're not approaching women at all. I think the reason why some women believe that guys only want sex is because that's what they're into. The female sexuality is basically looking for the most confident dominant man who doesn't care about rejection or really care about her at all and is just looking for sex, that's what turns girls on. And only after the sex will she try and keep him around start a relationship etc. And sooner or later guys will adapt to this. Of course guys are into sex as well and some guys don't wan any relationships, but this behaviour is also incentivised by women since they value confidence and guys with little to no emotional investment. Personally I think women are steered more by their sex drive and instincts than men but maybe they don't realise it as much or it's just not talked about. They just call it feelings or chemistry or a spark instead lol.
But whatever that's a separate issue.
I'm not writing this to have typical gender discussions that have been had before on here. I'm writing it because I think these kinds of statements and ideas are damaging. Generalising and basically saying male sexuality is evil is extremely wrong especially when it's kind of normalised and just seen as a general truth or whatever.
It's not about grown men who should be able to handle when people talk shit about guys even though it's still not nice but whatever.
I'm writing this because of boys. When you're a kid and your sexuality hasn't even kicked in yet and you hear things like this you're like whoa. That sounds wrong. Are guys really bad ? I don't wanna be like that etc. Especially when it's people like your own mother or somone else who's close to you who says things like this. It kinda plants the seed of self hatred. It's not really an immediate impact but once this boy grows up and hits puberty and sexual desire arrives all that shit he's ever heard that was planted in his mind can come back and screw him up.
Like thinking maybe he's evil or if desiring a girl is a bad thing.
I think this can have the same effect as like a gay person who is raised in a extremely strict anti gay religious surrounding. They think they're full of sin and they hate themselves so much. Often the most outspoken and extreme anti gay religious people turn out to be gay. They thought that everybody desires the same sex but it's a sin and so they want to stop themselves and other people from sinning but they don't realise it's just their sexuality.
The same thing can happen to a guy who's straight but is raised in a very anti male environment.
As a child your brain is very open to brain washing basically the things you're told even if they're completely untrue are rooted very deeply and will have a huge effect on you. Even if later on you find out it's wrong most people find it very hard to accept it. Many will hold on totheir beliefs even if they know they're wrong because it's just part of their identity. And since as a kid your sexuality hasn't even developed you have no clue what the person is talking about so you just believe them. And later on when your normal, natural development starts happening you just think you're evil.
A child is defenseless and teaching it to hate itself is child abuse in my opinion. Maybe it's even worse than physical abuse (although I don't want to minimise that in any way) You can ruin someone's whole life with this. They will be so screwed up internally that they can never live a normal or a happy life. And what makes it worse is it's not very overt or noticable. And the child also doesn't really notice what's going on until it's too late. Just the attitude of the person and some of their statements can convey a large amount of negativity. Of course the more extreme it is the worse it will be for the kid.
If your dating life is bad, if you can't get guys to stay interested in you beyond sex for instance, then that sucks. But don't take it out on a child. Don't vent all your frustration and anger into a person who is not equipped to handle any of it. Your experience is not universal, if guys don't stick around then change something, take up a new hobby be more outgoing, have ore fun in your life be less dependent on guys, work on your social skills and your confidence etc. There's many things people can do to be more attractive and fun to be around
Personally I did experience some of this as well, I had a phase when I was 16/17 when I felt guilty and ashamed just for beeing attracted to a girl. I got over that although I was still very clueless for a long time ^^. Now I've worked through everything and I feel way more confident. I think I can still improve but I have a really solid base that I plan to build on in the future. I'm always growing and it's going super well. So I kinda experienced some of this but I didn't write it because of myself. I have no regrets or resentment about my life. For me it wasn't that terrible and I can deal with my problems but I just think it's a dangerous thing that demeaning, villifying and streotyping guys is just seen as so normal and acceptable.
I know a guy, not personally but he was on a forum that I was on once. This guy has serious issues. He wrote once that his mom was an extremist feminist and that's how he was raised. He basically hates himself and all men that's what he said. He's constantly down on himself and he doesn't really seem to have any hope or positive outlook on his life or his future. When I first saw him I tried to help him because it's so obvious when you just read one of his posts that he's screwed up. I could kinda relate a bit to some of the things he's going through or how he was thinking but he doesn't really accept advice or ideas from others.
He's 34 I think and he's never had sex or a girlfriend or anything, he doesn't understand why a woman would want to be with a man at all.
Of course I'm not arguing for censorship. I believe in freedom of speech even for ideas I don't agree with, that's the whole point of freedom of speech. But I just wanted to say that these kind of ideas do have an impact on people. It's not just a fun "joke" or whatever.
At the same time there's women out there who are asking where did all the real men go ?
Well if this guy had been raised in a more positive way maybe he'd be confident. Maybe he'd be screwing someone's brains out right now. Maybe he'd be someones boyfriend or husband. Who knows ?
I doubt he will ever have a relationship. His mindset seems to stay the same. He doesn't seem either willing or able to change anything.
Some women think it's easy beeing a guy because you see the most confident, successful strong, mentally healthy guys and think everything they do looks easy. When someone is good at something they make it look easy. You don't see or don't pay much attention the guys who are overwhelmed by their problems. This guy will go through his whole life and nobody will care about him or even see him. He's invisible to pretty much everyone because if a guy is not strong, he's worth nothing. If you want more confident attractive guys who ask girls out and have their shit together, beeing more positive would not be a bad thing.
I don't wish to generalise either, I know there are plenty of women who are very positive about men. And also everybody is responsibe for their own life to overcome the challenges they face everybody has problems I'm totally awareof that. I was just trying to point out something that isn't really talked about not that I've ever seen anyway, I don't have any hate myself and hat's not what this is about. :)
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