Don't you think this is messed up?

My cousin called me a few weeks ago saying her daughter has been dating her cousins son for a few months.

Age of consent is 15 over there and he is 27 and she is 15. He said he likes her and wants to marry her and my cousin went apeshit and told his mom that will not happen at this age and he should find someone his own age.

The man's mom is fine with it and told my cousin her daughter will feel like a princess if she joins their family.

I believe he should have known better as he is quite older. However, she has her fault on the issue too as she went along with it.
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So they stopped being in the contract due to Covid but I don't know how long it will last. Hopefully it's over now, her family is pretty messed up.
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  • Yes, it's messed up now what does a 27-year-old man want with a 15-year-old girl now that is messed up so many ways for sure?

    • Yeah

    • Thanks For MHO:)

  • What's the problem?

    • You think its fine what's happening there

    • Yes, no problem from here. He's a lucky guy

    • I agree lol

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  • Sounds like princess Diana. Look at what happened to her. Does she really know what she is doing?

    • I don't know

  • He is grooming the young girl.

    • Most likely

  • That is messed up, first of all, incest, then an age gap bigger than 10 years, and she isn't even old enough o make rational decisions, like really.

  • Well that sound like some literal down south lousiana trailerpark shit, literal cousin fucking shit, cause they are cousins.
    The age gap seems wrong
    Them being related seems wrong.

    Why is the age of consent there 15?, the damn state laws seem to be wrong.

    My 15 year old child would not be dating a 27 yearold, I dont care what law says its "ok"

    • Well not really cousins, like a step below

    • I don't know, my cousin, 24 has 2 children and as far as I remeber they would still be first cousins to me, so my old ass has toddler cousins lol Anyway even if they aren't full on cousins, I still think having to say "not closely" or "not technically" related is reason enough to not date. What state is this? Cause also if you have to say "it's legal in blank" it's a good reason not too. Also if some 27 year old with the hits for 15 daughter had the nerve to say "I'll treat her like a princess" to my face I'd probably loss all control and lay him out, it's not funny she's 15, she's a child that probably still literally wants to be a Disney princess, she not old enough for that to be "cute" when she that young and it's a guy damn near double her age saying it, it just sounds preditorial.

    • His mom said the thing about Princess lol

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  • While I do think it is messed up, it is the legal age of consent... Unless there is more laws in place, there isn't anything they are doing wrong. Here in Ohio the age of consent is 16, but there are laws that say that if someone is a legal adult they cannot have sex with a minor (15yo). And there are also laws about marriage that say that unless the parent of a legal minor (17yo) gives permission they cannot marry...

    But it sounds like he is grooming her and your cousin needs to have a serious conversation with their child... 15 is seriously young to be considering marriage...

    • She stopped seeing him

    • Good

  • That’s one fucked up situation. If 15 is the age of consent there’s not a lot anyone can do about it. Being 15 she’s likely both dumb enough to think it’s okay and stubborn enough not to take any advice on the matter.

    I suppose you could kill him?

    • Stop it psycho

    • Or chop off one of his balls or an ear?

    • No psycho

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  • That sounds really really odd. It’s messed up. She’s only 15 and like you said he should know better.

  • Yup, pretty messed up.
    A much older guy dating a teenager... not a good idea.
    Good luck with it.

    • He isn't that older in my opinion

  • It's honestly hard to say because in america, it is clearly a messed up situation but in history with people in royalty back in the day it was custom for an older man to merry a woman just at the start of her sexual peak so she probably could offer the most heirs. That being said, it's strange to view how society sees this in other cultures...

    In place it's taboo and in others the norm.

    I personally like the age 18 mark but I'd be curious to ask the people around where this relationship is happening and seeing what their opinion is...

    That could be a very interesting conversation to hear local ethics from the area. Heck! On here! Why don't you specifically ask the people on gag that are from that area, say what country it is and see if anyone responds, now that could be very interesting to see

  • That's messed up.

  • Very messed up

    • For the marriage part?

    • In general. 15 may be legal there, but a 15 year old should not be dating anyone older than 16, or maybe 17 at the most. They're still a child. And for marriage, the same applies even more

  • Four score, and seven years ago, multipied by a half dozen New York minutes squared too the fifth power, assuming you remembered too carry the decimal points old school long multiplication style before conversion too metric tables, because metric is the European Hippie's idle playground, with new math the Devil's doing, numerical corruption of the young, encouragingly mathematical sinners too yada, yada, yada, gibberish, gibberish, gibberish, wanky, wanky, wanky, nonsense, nonsense, nonsense, pervy, pervy, pervy, boredom, boredom, 😴, 😴, 😴, 💩, 💩, 💩,🙅‍♂️,🙅‍♀️, 🙅,... you get the idea.
    There was a time when a 15-year-old young man or woman was considered old enough to make their own decisions and to screw up their life FUBAR style, as they saw fit. I believe it was known as the Dark Ages, and most parents were usually around 14 at the time, so it was almost inconceivable that their kids would actually make it to that ripe old age of 15, when they'd be old enough to call their strict parents on their. To that end I think bubonic plague, the fall of Rome, Genghis Khan and Attila the Hun being total assholes, European people crapping where they drink and eat, Asian people wiping their ass with their hands after they get done pooping, and not washing their hands afterwards, thank goodness for toilet paper only a couple thousand years too late, etc, etc, etc, yada, yada, yada, you know where this is going.
    These days, parents fully expected kids to live beyond the age of 12, and parents that are below the age of 12 are actually considered an oddity nowadays, rather than the norm, so parents tend to take the opportunity to interfere with their kids lives as much as possible in the hopes of discouraging them from screwing up the same ways that they did, in the hopes that the kids will find their own methods too self destructive behavior in their lives, rather than repeating their parents' mistakes, which kids often do now, cuz they're really creative, and thinking outside the box.
    My point, and I do enjoy stretching it out like this sometimes, point is, the only opinion I think is relevant in regards to this 15-year-old kid, and I do call that person a kid, is the parents, and if the parents of this kid don't care enough to actually have an opinion, then there are much bigger issues at play here, than what you just described in your question.
    If they do care enough to have an opinion and actually enforce that opinion by grounding or other corrective action, than that means that they are at least trying to be parents, whether they're good parents or crappy parents, at least they are making the effort, and if they're not, then they should have been sterilized before they reached puberty.
    I'm not this girl's father, so I cannot criticize a girl for the decisions she makes, but at some point in my life I may have to share the same breathing space with her parents, and if they end up being deadbeat parents who are not getting involved in this kid's life, then I will have to deal with that and usually the most appropriate action in regards to that, is too take corrective action in regards of the girl's father, kicking his ass continuously, until he either loses consciousness, or gets with the program.
    Unfortunately, I'm old-fashioned, so I can't lay hands on the Mom, unless she strikes me first, in which case, IT'S ON!!!

    • I presume you are a Republican based on the inevitable resort to violence? It would never occur to you to just call CPS instead?

    • No. OverWorked, underpaid, and understaffed. The child is not in immediate danger of losing her life, so no investigation will take place. My father was a CPS investigator, tried grooming me too follow in his footsteps, so I know how the system works. As far as violence goes, I don't like it, but Uncle Sam made sure I was exceedingly good at it, and sparing the rod with some deadbeat parents is a waist of my retirement hours better spent getting them four o'clock Early Bird dinner specias

    • You need to have your meds adjusted.

  • Wow that is waaaaaay to young. A restraining order must be placed. She is only a teenager. This dude is almost 30. naaa something is wrong with this dude needs to be check by a doc. Cuz that is some pedo.

    • I don't think they can get a restraining order unless the girl wants to

    • She is underage. Her parents can place it. She ain't no adult, yet.

    • She's not underage

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  • Completely messed up. Why is a guy who's almost 30 looking for a girl half his age? Whichever country it is has a screwed up system. It's bad enough being 16 in the UK. A child that young can't comprehend the issues they'll face just to get a tertiary education, never mind marry.

    • Yeah they don't really know what they are doing

  • Is she having sex with him because if its just a normal relationship then its ok i think.

    • They had sex

  • Hello again

    There is a huge gray area between the age of consent (15 here) and the age at which parents lose legal authority over their children (18). I personally would not want my 15 year old child dating a 27 year old (I have dated guys with a similar age gap but only after I turned 18). That being said, actually marrying her would vitiate any issues of parental consent.

    • Does 1😍 mean 18?

    • They had sex too

    • @tstrbrainer yes lol @jessiebellll I wouldn’t want my 15 yr old child having sex with a 27 yr old no matter how badly she wanted it. But if the age of consent is 15... like I said, that’s a tricky legal area and not one I know much about. Tell your cousin to talk to a lawyer in her country who specializes in family law

  • The girl should be able to decide when she's 18. I do find it messed up though. It is however a lot more common than one would think.

    • Yeah it is

    • @nodnol32 The age of consent is 15. What reason do you say she should decide when she's 18? Is that the age of consent where you are. Is your law better than theirs?

    • @lilbonifide its just that at 18 everyone is considered an adult.

  • Yes I do.

  • In my opinion she is too young to make the decision to get married. I'd pressure her to be his girlfriend for 5 years before going ahead with marriage.

  • It's none of your business honestly.
    Why do you care so much?
    Do women have one waking moment when they're not obsessing about the evil penis oppressing them?

    • It's messed up

    • Women are messed up.

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