During sex, are you more of a giver or receiver?

I'm pretty selfish when it comes to sex. I just want to give and pleasure. I get off from watching him get off but if he tries to pleasure me it's really uncomfortable for me. I don't like the attention and i don't like oral, but it's supposed to be healthy to let him give once in a while. I just don't like it. So, what are you? A giver or receiver?
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  • Am really both but she would stop me if i wanted to return the favor and push me layimg on my back again and she goes: just let me suck him a bit more lol she would let me eat her but only very breifly. I do love it so much and just feel lucky but she leaves my cock red and numb if i dont ask her to stop after a while LOL i get off on the thought that i have her there for my pleasure and the fact she really wants it and enjoy it amd won't get bored or anything. She would suck even watching tv she'd red her head on my thigh and grabb him.. i would just sit and enjoy playing her hair spread on my thighs or cupping her cheeks when its feeling really good... you're my ex type

  • I'm much more of a giver - much of my pleasure and arousal comes from pleasing her, and seeing/hearing/feeling her lose control because of what I'm doing to/for her.

    That doesn't mean I don't like to "get mine" too, but most of the time, I'd rather play with her or at least do it together.

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  • I'm both. I wouldn't enjoying receiving if I didn't get a chance to give a bit to him first, whether it be a blowjob/handjob, a bit of grinding while making out, etc.. That all helps me get even more turned on and want something for myself as well a lot more.

    Often, like yesterday, if he proposes we start off with 69 even, I'll say no, let me give you head for a bit first. Helps me get in the right mind-set too. :P

  • I have the same problem. Only I was bitten really hard during oral so oral freaks me out because I'm scared I'll be bitten again d it hurt really really bad. And I like giving my boyfriend pleasure and getting off that way. But at the same time I'm doing his fantasies. But when it comes to me being the receiver I don't enjoy it as much. I'd rather be on top.

  • I'm a giver. I'd rather give oral than receive it and I feel you on the whole "I get off from watching him get off" I'd make sure he was Sexually Exhausted before I even started caring about my needs, even if it meant I'd have to get myself off later on!

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  • I would not mind not having to give a girl oral.

    However, I'm definitely a giver by nature. It's always about making her happy first. But if she takes charge, I won't resist either.

  • I am a big giver and reciever
    I will give my boyfriend head or whatever it is he want most of the time because i feel like the fact im getting him off and he's enjoying it makes me soo horny and really ready to receive. lmao

  • I am definitely a giver!

  • We're both givers, which is nice, but we are both happy to lay back and recieve when the other one wants. Works out quite well haha

  • I am both I love to spoil him sexually and I love to be spoiled by him as well.

  • I'm a receiver.

    It's more exciting to me when a man knows how to make me explode inside and out.

    Haha.

  • I'm more of a chameleon. I'm fairly good at determining what she needs and providing it. And if what she needs is for me to simply take what I need, then I do exactly that. The trick is to fuck her in a way that I want but is also what she wants. That way her physical pleasure is enhanced by the mental stimuli of letting me have my way with her. I find that after I get her sufficiently 'revved up' with this, I can basically do whatever I want to her and she'll get off on it.

  • I'm a pampered princess.

    • no way! I totally recalled you being a giver.

    • I give, but I definitely get what I want.

    • You sound fucking hot..

  • Don't you mean selfless?

  • I want be the giver and give lots of foreplay to a girl

  • A giver puts a smile on my face when I see her toes curl and starts to moan.

  • Same here receiving is uncomfortable i'm a giver 😎

  • Both equally :)

  • How are you selfish for wanting to give him pleasure all the time?

    • I don't let him give me pleasure

  • A mixture of both.

  • I have no fucking idea

  • Why not both? hehe.

    If I HAD to choose, definitely giver, too full of energy to just
    lay there and give her seductive remarks. ;p

  • I'm a virgin, but judging by my fantasies, I'd say I'm a giver.

  • I don't know, but everyone gets a nut!!

  • I consider myself an object. I do what she wants, but I get what I need.

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