During sex how do you tell if a girl is moaning out of pleasure or pain?

its safe for me to say that my ex girlfriend was the most masochistic person I've ever known in my life.

she had this ignorant mindset about men. according to her all men care about during sex is fulfilling our reason to shoot our load and not give a fuck if we make our women feel pain and discomfort during the process. she would also tell me how she believes that we men love hearing women scream and cry as we pound them away during intercourse.

a lot of the times we had sex I kinda felt like I was gaslighting myself. I remember during foreplay I would lick and nibble on her nipples and she would always look up in the sky and moan load. I couldnt tell if she was moaning out of pain or pleasure and I felt afraid to ask,

so I was wondering is there a universal way of telling if a woman is moaning through pleasure or pain during sex? I really want to know cause not only do I want to enjoy sex like a normal human, but I also want to be with someone who feels the same way in return. I dont want sex to feel like a episode of gaslighting.

During sex how do you tell if a girl is moaning out of pleasure or pain?
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  • Since this all depends on the person there is no way to tell accept to ask when you can't tell.

    I'm on the bigger side and while I do everything I can to not create pain I know sometimes I do and if I get the sense I am I ask. Sometimes I get a no, sometimes I get a yes. Good sex requires good communication from both participants.

    And if she is lying to you, you probably should find a different partner. Unless she is enjoying the pain then that's a whole different discussion.

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  • In human physiology, there's a fine line between pleasure and pain. Many of the same chemicals are involved in both. That's why BDSM works.

    There's only one way I know to distinguish between the two. Unless she is a complete masochistic sadist, she will stay and ask for more if pleasured, and will pull away (or push you away) if pained.

    • She doesn’t need to be a sadist for any of this. Do you know what a sadist is?

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  • I mean, if it's just lick and nibble most likely she's moaning. As long as you're not biting it. 🤪

    Sex isn't supposed to hurt. If she's a virgin, have a certain condition, or you are well-endowed.. then maybe it's pain. But if you both are doing it repeatedly and for a long time now, most likely moaning for pleasure.

  • You can just tell I think. If you know her orgasms, she will sound different. It's kinda hard to explain

    • but women dont only moan during orgasms

    • I've blocked you anon, you probably annoyed me and I blocked you lol. Anyways, what do you mean don't moan only during orgasms?

    • a lot my other exes have moan during foreplay as well. such as when I used kiss them in the neck or lick their thorax

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  • Well, I know it's out of pain, 'cause I put clothes pins on her nipples !!! 😂😂😂😂😂

  • If she says “stop” or “ouch” then she’s in pain. If not she’s probably enjoying herself.

  • It's pretty obvious from body language when someone is in pain. their whole body would be clenching up and their face will be contorted in a really unpleasant expression. That sort of stuff.

  • If it's pain and she doesn't say something then that's on her but it's kind of you to ask too. Just ask her more this? Less that? Most all moans are pleasure in my experience.

  • Wow, you had a REALLY screwed up ex girlfriend.
    This would've been a huge red flag for me that told me, time to get out of this relationship. 😐

  • Look for body ques

  • ask her

  • Subtle facial expressions, but every once in a while I’ve paused to ask.

  • Her facial expressions

  • She will tell you

  • If she's in pain she should communicate that to you. If she's enjoying herself, she'll either let you know of express her pleasure to you.

  • I think she would be telling you to stop if it is hurting her.

  • I just assume that female moaning means pleasure for her. If she was feeling pain, I just figure she would vocally say in words that something was hurting her

  • Well tell the girl to ask you to stop if it's hurting her

  • The way you are talking, I doubt if you have ever had sex with anyone, ever.

    • and why does that concern you? since you didn't answered my question can I assume it that you are the real femcel virgin here?