Embarrassed about using lube... help?

So when I’m cold during sex I’m clearly not as wet no matter how turned on I am. It’s only at my boyfriends place because he likes blasting the air, I don’t. He had what I’m assuming is lube because he put it on me and it was all slippery I felt really embarrassed because I’ve never had to use that. He asked what was wrong but I didn’t want to tell him that. It’s not that it didn’t feel good I don't know. I just feel like no one I know would use it and it makes me feel like something is wrong with me.
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  • There are many reasons why people use lube. If you are giving a guy a hand job, it enhances that. Prostate massage during oral sex requires lube. Obviously, anal sex need lube. There are times when women do not naturally lubricate enough and they need some assistance. Stress or a temporary illness can inhibit natural lubrication.

    Emotional intimacy means much more than allowing him to put his penis in your vagina. It means trusting your partner enough to talk about things that might be sensitive or embarrassing. If you tell him that the cold air causes you to be dry, he will be glad to know the explanation; for all you know, he is thinking that he is the reason for that problem. Tell him and overcome that hurdle. And, if you need to use lubrication, it is just a part of life for almost everyone. It is like farting when you are around him; sooner or later it will happen. When it does happen, he won't break up with you. He will probably laugh, make a joke about it, and go on with whatever you were doing. And then you will feel a bit more comfortable with each other.

    • Thanks for MHO!

  • Lube is used by almost everyone honey :)
    It's completely normal. Some people just have harder time getting wet down there. If that's the case with you, ask your boyfriend to stop blasting the air during sex. Second of all, try making foreplay longer. It's especially important to you, girls. Third of all, if those won't help, you shouldn't feel bad about using lube. Everyone has used it at least once. That's why it's so common in sex shops! :)

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  • When you're chilled, natural lube stops. It just happens. Use the lube.

  • There is nothing wrong with you. Using lube is common. However, it sounds like he may not be giving you time to 'warm up'. Maybe not doing enough foreplay. And if the room is really that cold, then he needs to consider your comfort, and at least compromise on the temperature. But there is nothing odd or unusual about using lube.

  • Tell him you can't get wet with the air blasting

    • He turns it down a little but I’m still cold I haven’t told him that specifically though

    • Tell him you need a warm environment to get wet. Most girls do.

  • It's totally fine. Don't worry about it. It happens to a lot of girls and guys as well

  • well at least you can just squirt lube on it and go on xD for us guys it doesn't make a difference. if the hole is slippery, it will do it's job xD the embarrassment of a man not getting it up is way worse, cause then you're dead in the water xD

    • Yea I was confused as to why I was holding on and why something was squirting on me and wet. I guess that’s true

    • to me it's just normal specially during longer sessions things can dry up a little. i was with a girl before and things were getting a bit rough and i was reaching into the nightstand to get out the lube and when she saw that she looked at me as if i had just gotten a gun out of the nightstand xD like calm down xD it's just lube.

  • Hey idiot
    Lol jk 😘 no one likes a chafed clit/birth canal
    He was doing you a favor
    Lube is your friend

  • It's pretty normal to use it sometimes. It's okay. Don't overthink it.

  • There is nothing wrong with stop thinking about it

  • It's his fault for having the AC so high. Tell him to turn that shit down! Smh

  • Nothing's wrong with you. get over it.

  • lube is there for a purpose, if it works for you, use it :)

  • People who use lube won't tell you unless you ask or they have the power to admit it.
    It's nothing embarrassing to use lube. If you want to get more familiar with it buy it yourself and play with it. See how it feels and stuff like this. Read online about lube. Do your research and then buy one and test it for yourself.

  • Nothing to be embarrassed about. If your body’s not responding because it’s cold.
    That’s why lube is available. You should thank him.

  • So tell him to turn the Damn air down. Simple.

    • He did I was still cold.

    • Then turn it off this isn't rocket science

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  • At least he used it

    • Not making me feel better

    • It can be fun to use together