Erection problems during sex, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

So this morning we spent a lot of time just making out, touching each other etc... I get very aroused, i get my erection but soon as she wants to touch i lose my erection, or as soon as she wanted to insert my penis, it just goes away...

She was very sad about it and very self aware too, which is normal, but now she thinks i dont love her, which i do but now she is feeling insecure cause she thinks the blame is on her...

What should i do now?
I think it might be a psychological thing I don't know, cause each time she fishes down i become self aware during the foreplay
When i was grinding her, i was "rock hard", cause i think its my lust speaking but when i notice perhaps she wants to get involved more physically i think i snap out of that...

[summiter]

I think it is nerves. Are you a virgin? Maybe have he give you a blowjob and see how that goes.

You can also get a cock ring that you put on while hard and it keeps the blood in the penis and keeps it hard.

[rud0_88]

you're exactly right dude. Its psychological. Let it go. Enjoy yourself. Let her enjoy herself. Just. Let. Go.

[Asker]

i enjoy myself a lot, i know its just this mental thing but now she's so insecure about my feelings to her and i have already told her i love her, i mean look at us during foreplay when its all gas no brakes; i dont fear nothing and play with her body, but then its time to switch gears into action and i just start mentally slipping, losing grip and boom momentum gone for some reason i just hope, she isn't toooo upset about it cause now i just feel more pressure which isn't good either

[rud0_88]

I went through the same thing. here's the thing, I had testicular csnver when I was 21. Evrrything before and after canver was fine with my sex drive, but then I met this girl. At first, e erything was cool and then I started having the ssme problem as you. I just couldnt keep it up. It ruined her affection towards me because no matter how much you really care, if she doesmt get that d, then no words matter. Actions speak louder than words. Now, 6 years later, I found out it sas the chemistry between us, so to speak. My subconscious wss telling not to do this. I liked her and I was attracted to her, but there was something in my subconscious that told me no. It was all subconscious because even though i enjoyed her, it was her not me. I kept saying its me... and at the time I thought so. But it was her. I just didn't realize it at the time. Maybe its the same for you. Or maybe its just neevousness. I don't know man but this is a HUGE problem and if you can't fix it with her, leave. Try someone else amd see of the problem still continues. My problem was just with this one girl. I was fine with everyone else. So yeah, you gotta figure this out. Because it will end your relationship, if it hasn't already.

[Asker]

has happened with another girl too, i think its nerves really cause im starter, i think i put too much pressure and being self aware like when i grind her ass or she's on top, its really hard, i have premature ejaculation etc... cause i think im more so "in the moment" but when i feel her hand go down or anything, i think i become too aware like when i pulled my pants down, i could keep it up, it was only when she tried to fiddle it in :/ and i really love her and her body

[rud0_88]

Yeah just nervousness amd anxiety. Over thinking it. I don't know man. Get drunk or something. Take a xanax. I don't know that's really bad advice but at the same time, its important to get over that issue bro.

[Asker]

yes i know u are right, and using any substance to get over it is indeed bad, specially at my age but maybe for this one time to get over it

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you get so worked up that you lose the erection. Id cut back on the masturbation and then give it another go. If that doesn't work I would see a urologist

[Asker]

what do u mean by worked up? too much foreplay? mental thinking?

[Opinion Owner]

Overstimulation both mentally and physically

[Asker]

hmmm, so less masturbation and less time spending on foreplay? cause i was thinking as soon as i get really aroused, just penetrate

[Opinion Owner]

No, less foreplay isn't fair to the other party. Just take it slow and work on keeping your erection

[Asker]

well she did mention we spent a whole lotta time on dryhumping and making out but okay i will work on it