Ever found out something about someone that lead you to question everything you though you knew about them?

[Anonymous]

i meet this younger girl earlier this year , she worked the " help " desk type area at the business she worked at , very popular / social and well liked. came across as very sweet and innocent , she had done really well in school , played sports , goes to the gym , comes from a good family / mother in a well known school teacher here. so sort of your model good grades jock type girl.
but when covid hit the place she worked closed for a bit and i didn't see her for a while. but i found out a few things about her online when i came across her social media pages. which really surprised me

one was that she had a thing for tattoo's , had liked a couple tattoo places online and already has 1 real tattoo on her side ribs area and its fairly large. but tattoo's are fairly common now on younger women so maybe it shouldn't of been a huge surprise she had one although i wasn't expecting to see it on her but ok with her having one , it actually suits her body type

but the shocker was a couple weeks ago i saw some new more recent pictures of her , she had been swimming with friends and you couldn't notice this in any of the other pictures posted but in 1 picture you can clearly see without any doubt at all that she has both of her nipples pierced. i did not think she was the type at all for something like that , she seems like a really down to earth intelligent young women who doesn't even post revealing or sexy pictures to her social media yet she appears to have her nipples pierced

i don't know , realise that piercing has surged in popularity in recent years so is younger women getting it now who wouldn't of considered it a couple years earlier as its more mainstream and less stigma to have it. but she just doesn't seem like the type and i really start to question what i though i knew about her based on this.

[JaneDoe377]

What type of women get their nipples pierced? I didn't know there was a type.

[Asker]

true that is a good question , i've often found its more party type girls around here although in recent years have seen others with them. but have not seem many girls like her with them , be willing to buy into the idea a sweet and innocent girl could have her belly pierced and a small tasteful tattoo but nipples? having pierced nipples kind of implies that she's showing them to someone else and wants people to notice there pierced ? why else would she have them unless there for her own enjoyment

[JaneDoe377]

Maybe cuz it can feel good. As you said, her own enjoyment. Having them doesn't mean you show everyone. I'm sure some do, but i don't think it's a generally encompassing idea.

[Asker]

i actually though they looked really hot on her for some reason. although something about her actually having them seemed really weird , one of those what is the world coming too thoughs , if someone like her has pierced nipples , what are the other girls getting done these days? true a lot of girls hide there pierced nipples 90 % of the time , i've known some with them who don't even have a single picture on there instagram showing them , doesn't mean she's showing people but not sure i believe that no one else has seen them by now , although unclear of the timeline as to when she got them , did i just notice now? or are they a recent addition as piercing places reopened here a couple weeks ago

[JaneDoe377]

That's a lot of contemplative thoughts about it. I had a friend who had 58 piercings and her vagina jingled when she walked. So, at least she's not that far gone.

[Asker]

its also possible based on who she is that she got them done to try and change her image around here , what better way to drop the sweet and innocent teachers daughter label than get a tattoo and your nipples pierced , everyone is going to think your a wild child and fit rate into the cool crowd or for some unknown reason she just really is into body art and tattoo's , guess there is a lot of girls her age who are into that thing now days

[JaneDoe377]

Yes a lot of girls are

[Asker]

still i recall seeing a poster at her work that she did " tutoring " for kids on the side , hard to believe the tutoring type girl is seriously interested in tattoo's and has her nips pierced a part of me wonders if she just matured really suddenly or something about her mindset changed , she just didn't seem to care what people though anymore and is either trying to be someone different or this is what she always really wanted to be like

[JaneDoe377]

You could always ask her

[Asker]

how would i explain that i knew about them? is 1 picture online that shows them from a distance and you'd have to know what pierced nipples look like to even know what they are haven't even got her to show me her tattoo yet and everyone else seems to already know about it by now

[JaneDoe377]

Just be like 'so what do you think about tattoos (and /or piercings)'. Pretty direct question without giving away that you have the information already. I guess. It may open up the discussion for what you really want to ask her

[Asker]

i think it be a red flag to her if i asked something directly , although i feel like everyone else knows about the tattoo , seen pictures of her at the gym in a top that shows it , so everyone there must know by now that she has it , doesn't seem like its secret. honestly have no clue how i'd bring up the nipples , why would i suspect she had them to begin with , unless she mentioned having got new piercings or were they obviously visible through her clothing , why would i know about em at this point. ( the only piercing she knows that i know about is her belly button , as i saw it one say when she did a stretch when i walked by and she acted a bit nervous after that i had seen it , so she knows that i know she's into piercings but nipples? why would i suspect she had hers done. i've looked at the picture multiple times and like 100 % sure thats what they are , they look like a barbell , long and flat too big to be hard nipples and poke through her bikini top like a piercing would

[JaneDoe377]

You have put a lot of thought and research into it. You can say 'I saw you have a tat through... Whatever social media'. Or 'do you have any other piercings besides your belly'. I think being up front is the best way. I mean how much younger is she? That could be weird

[JaneDoe377]

I mean is she over 18, at the very least

[Asker]

yes she's over 19 , she'd know that i saw her facebook , and she liked 2 tattoo places so i could mention that , think asking about the tattoo first would be the safest. it seems her interest in tattoo's is public , if she's openly liking tattoo places online , but she only appears to have 1 tattoo the nipple? not even sure how go begin bringing that one up , what i can't figure out is it a new addition? or did she have it the whole time i knew her? the piercing places only re opened here in mid June so would of had to got it done soon after. they were closed entirely from march > then , so she couldn't of got it during lockdown. so is it possible she had it much earlier going back to Jan or late 2019 and i just wasn't aware

[Asker]

i would also imagine most people here , her age know that she has a tattoo and nipples done , seems like they'd know about such a thing , doubt its really a secret. i'm just out of the loop and don't see her in revealing clothes or at the beach , obviously if you saw her at the beach you'd see her tattoo , its at least 5 inches long and a couple high on her side ribs which is pretty visible in her bikini

[JaneDoe377]

Don't know. I do know they can take up to a year to fully heal.

[JaneDoe377]

Nipples that is. Not ink

[Asker]

it be impossible to determine if there healed or not from the picture , all you can tell is that there pierced , seemed to be larger jewellery , might that be a sign there newer? hadn't had time for them to heal and get smaller barbells put in. do they usually pierce them first and put in bigger jewellery or can they did it with smaller ones now too? doubt very much she's had them over a year , around summer 2019 there seemed to be a surge in girls her age getting them done here and she would of known some of those girls and perhaps seen there's and decided she wanted it too , so its possible she got them around that time or slightly later in 2019 but my gut says there a new piercing she got within last month or less but possible she had them a bit longer

[Asker]

another reason i think they might be a new addition is her sports got cancelled , she was suppose to play basketball this fall but its cancelled until early 2021 at least. so maybe she said the hell with it and got them pierced knowing she wouldn't have to play sports for months and that give them time to heal and if she's tired of them could take them out once sports resumes down the road?

[JaneDoe377]

They do pierce with bigger hoops or barbells to allow for swelling.

[Asker]

the larger barbells would seem to lead more towards them being a very recent addition. which is kind of what my gut says , but tough to say for sure without more info i'm not exactly sure when she got her tattoo either but i don't think she had anything pierced or inked by early 2019 , pretty sure she got belly around that time and saw a picture of her from summer 2019 that showed the tattoo , so seems like she started getting things done around mid 2019 for some reason

[JaneDoe377]

I don't know. It seems like you are thinking way too much about it. S

[Asker]

true my original point was that it lead me to question what i knew about her , something about her with tattoo's and nipple piercings just seems off , its hard feeling to describe , its something i've had a hard time accepting as real. i've obviously seen many other girls with the same piercings or multiple tattoo's , maybe i just didn't think she's turn out the same way

[JaneDoe377]

You are assuming a lot about women with tattoos and piercings.

[Asker]

i would read or assuming anything if an average girl had a small tattoo somewhere , that by itself wouldn't tell me a lot if anything about her. maybe it was the surprise factor which lead me to question her , as i had no clue she had one , it made me wonder what lead her to want and become interested in them. although is a lot of different reasons why people become interested in tattoo's , can often be peer pressure , see other people with them or celebrities. some just like the look it gives them or feels its the modern look to have one these days. so without asking her , we really don't know why , it doesn't seem like she's seeking attention as she never posted a picture of her tattoo online and doesn't seem to reveal it much in public , but is a reason why she wanted one , whatever it may be

[Asker]

but i think most guys would assume things if they knew the girl had her nipples pierced , true that maybe the girl herself wouldn't assume these things or necessary got them done seeking sexual attention. you have to try and view this from a male perspective. he's thinking well she got jewellery painfully interested into her nipples , so she must want people to notice or be some reason why she wanted them done so badly that would be worth all the pain and trouble. most guys sort of assume the reason has something to do with sex or sexual attention. most guys view the nipples / boobs as a very sexual region of a female body i don't know if this girl is seeking sexual stuff from guys by having them or not , maybe its why i questioned what i knew about her , if she is more active sexually than i first though. just trying to explain it from a guys perspective , we'd just automatically assume nipple piercings on a girl were related to sexual reasons , even if that may not have anything to do with why she got them ,

[JaneDoe377]

Yes I understand. It seems like most guys assume its a sexual reason. And maybe it is. But I don't think it's that reason for everyone.

[Asker]

sort of like the tongue piercing , when girls were getting that 5 or 10 years ago , guys would obviously assume it was for sexual reasons that she had one , and it a lot of cases maybe it was or maybe was other reasons or some just didn't want to admit it was for sexual reasons not sure what all the reasons for nipple piercings are , obviously a trendy factor , some do it cause there friends already had it , some just like the look of body piercings , is also a coming of age factor / rebellion , some younger girls might feel a nipple piercing was a way to show they were no longer little girls and had matured into teens/college aged women , so some of these reasons aren't necessary related to sex , but some do get them cause boyfriend's wanted it on them or to get male sexual attention , seen girls in bars before wearing tight tops so you can see they have em in , obviously these girls wanted attention from having pierced nipples

[JaneDoe377]

You have put a lot more thought into it than I ever have or would.

[Asker]

true i think most guys would put more though into the girl having nipple piercings than another girl would. most girls she knew likely wouldn't think much of it , but the guys might make a big deal of it. might help to explain her tattoo and why she doesn't show it off much. most guys wouldn't find tattoo's on girls on say the wrist , arm , ankle , behind the ear as sexy or something they'd pay much attention to. but a tattoo on the side ribs area , is sort of borderline , some guys might find it really appealing , where is others might not care. myself i lean more on the really appealing side for some reason , it just seems hot on her , maybe cause of who she is or her body type , gym girl with tight body. so might explain why she didn't let me see it earlier , might of knew i'd like it guess i though about this a lot cause she was someone i knew from real life and liked her , perhaps wanted to learn more about her , yet to learn the story of her tattoo or piercings , as to how they came to be