Every time I want to suck him, he gets mad?

[Anonymous]

I've been telling my boyfriend that I wanna suck him and fuck him and he be all into it and saying we will do all that, but midway sucking him, he gets all mad and throws me off of him. It's like as if he's about to cum and then he gets all mad and stops me from continuing. He does not cum.

He's the one getting all mad, but he tells me that I'm the one getting mad. I've even asked him why he won't let me suck him or ride him or things like that and he just says "because" but in an angry whiny tone... And never really even give a reason. He just asks me "what?" as if he didn't hear me even tho he heard me clearly.

I've been super horny for a few weeks now and he knows this. We've only fucked once this week and that was a few nights ago but it didn't last as long as usual.

I was telling him I wanted to suck him tonight and he said yes. But he got mad when I'm midway sucking him. He won't tell me what's going on and he claims he's not mad while being mad at me and telling me I'm getting mad when all I said was that I wanna suck him..

This seriously hurts me and it just feels like maybe he's getting it from somewhere else when he's at work.

He was never like this before. He used to just let me suck him while he laid there to enjoy it. Last night, he even said we'll fuck when we wake up today but we didn't even have sex and he kept putting it off, saying we'll fuck tonight but we still haven't fucked. All day, he's been dry humping me and being sexual, but when I start to be sexual back, he gets all mad and says, "we don't have to do this every time" but we actually don't even do this all the time or every time as he says... :(

[Anonymous]

Something kind of similar happened to me, I started getting very angry/upset and stopping sex acts midway, or refusing altogether, and I couldn't tell my girlfriend at the time why. I got angry when she even asked about it. We ended up breaking up over that and a few other issues and never solved it between us.

I know it started because I got assaulted, but she didn't know that had happened, and I couldn't tell her because I kept remembering her reaction to a TV show scene where someone got assaulted and she laughed. I still haven't told anyone though, even people I know would take it seriously.

I am back to normal now, so I think for me it just took some time alone being celibate to reset how everything felt sexually, or something like that. So maybe with your situation, he could benefit from some time without any sex stuff, and instead work through whatevers going on with himself?

I hope that it's not the same thing as my situation, but that would explain why he won't tell you and why it came on so suddenly. What helped me move past it may not help him though, even if it is the same. Maybe worth a shot though.

[Anonymous]

He is a dominant and doesn't like you doing things or getting on top
He wants to pin you down and have his way with you
I think you will also love being submissive

[Asker]

Trust me, I do love being submissive to him, but I enjoy giving him oral... like I crave it when he's not shoving it in my mouth.

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds cool You guys need a sit down and open up session!!

[Asker]

I've tried many times.. 😪 I don't know I have sexual frustrations that masturbating doesn't cover...

[Anonymous]

Bipolar

He needs meds that help him love a normal life and react normally!

My brother has this and hurt his wife after the meds they are happy banging out another niece

[Billlewis]

A lot of guys don't like having their dicks sucked. I don't, because it tickles too much.

[BoopBoopBeep]

sounds like a toolbag. go find a real man

[AviatorTom]

Sounds like he may be having issues with you being in control. Let him take charge.

[Asker]

All he wants to do is fuck me without foreplay... he won't let me suck him or ride him. He just wants to be the one to do all the fucking. But he knows I've been wanting to suck him. Plus, if I tell him the next day that I wanted to suck him in between fucking, he would say that I should've done it, knowing full well that if I even tried to do that, he would've just flipped me over and kept fucking me without letting me suck him.:/ He's always in control when we're having sex, but sometimes I wanna ride and suck...

[AviatorTom]

You have a guy who only likes being in control. It will be very hard to break him of that. If that's not what you want, you may have to find another guy.

[Asker]

But i love him outside of sex, too.. I just wish he would let me suck him as much as he initiates to fuck me without foreplay...

[AviatorTom]

Try talking to him and tell him how much it means to you to suck him. If he really cares about you, he'll let you do that, and hopefully you'll both enjoy it.

[Asker]

When I do talk to him about it, he does say that he knows and that he'll let me suck it as much as I want to or that he allowing me to suck him while he's asleep... But he always throws me off randomly while I'm sucking him and sometimes he denies he does that.

[Wonderingguyy]

He sounds like he’s got mood swings. Tell him to tell you what his problem is, and say that you’ve had enough with his stupid mood swings, and you won’t put up with it anymore if he doesn’t change.

[Asker]

He just says there's nothing...

[Wonderingguyy]

Well it sounds like you’ve done what you can to get answers out of him. don’t put up with his dumb behaviour anymore and leave him then… Or convince him to see a psychologist because his mood shouldn’t be changing that quickly.

[Lokiion]

He probably just don’t want to cum

[Asker]

I feel that but he could've just communicated that instead of getting mad and throwing me off of him. He only ever wants to cum inside my other two holes.

[BarryLiverstone]

What was it like with his ex? Cuz you may need to change and he can tell you

[Asker]

Not too sure. All I know is that his ex used him as a rebound and for his money. He gets weirded out when we talked about our sex life with our exes which I understand. In the beginning when we got together, he was always initiating the sex multiple times a day, but he knows I'm a really horny person and he says he likes that. We've talked about how if I wanna suck him, I will ask him and do it and he said he was fine with me doing all that if I ever wanted to.

[BarryLiverstone]

If he isn’t as much into it as the beginning. You may be feeling like he's lost some attraction.

[Asker]

I think so but he says it's not because of that so I don't know what's the truth..

[BarryLiverstone]

What do you want? If you could change things

[Asker]

I'd like foreplay in our sex life. It doesn't have to be for me, but I'd like to suck him off with or without sex. I'd like to be able to ride him when we're having sex without him telling me to get on top or not. I'd like him to acknowledge that I have sexual needs, too.. not just him when he wants it...

[BarryLiverstone]

Those are all completely reasonable needs and he should have no problems giving you all that. When you have asked him what does he say to each desire you have?

[Asker]

He just says that I will get all of it or we can do them or he just laughs and tells me to calm down because I'm "being too naughty" and that we can fuck later, but sometimes we don't even do any of the stuff I mentioned.

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s very dismissive of him and he’s not taking you seriously. Sure if you are saying things while having sex that can be naughty or dirty talk. But if you talk to him when you two are calm and then he doesn’t take action that’s not fair. Are there things he wants and you do them?

[Asker]

Not really? He has been wanting to do anal with me and I finally did let him do it about 5 times or so now. He wanted a swing so we got that and we've only fucked once on it even tho he said if we bought it, be would be fucking me on it a lot...

[BarryLiverstone]

So the summary is that when he asks for things you give it to him and try to make him happy. But when you want things he doesn’t step up and instead he only uses you when he needs to get off. Even when you try to ask again and want him to be with you

[Asker]

Kinda. I mean, when we're laying in bed, he knows I wanna have sex, so he does turn me around and dry hump me then slowly start to penetrate first. But the problem is that when I wanna suck him, it seems to be a problem to him that I enjoy it. He says he doesn't get mad that I wanna suck him, but he won't tell me why he's getting that way at all. He just says "because" or "it's nothing" and that's it. But he knows how much I've been wanting to suck him. He didn't start being like this until a couple weeks ago when I was sucking him when he was asleep and it got soo intense that he threw me off because he was about to cum, but he didn't cum because he just stopped himself. I have told him that he should just release it and feel good, but he keeps making the excuse that it's too messy but he knows how badly I want him to cum in my mouth or just explode all over me. Ever since that night, he just never really let me suck him and when he does let me, he throws me off and gets an attitude or gets mad at me because I keep wanting to suck him.

[BarryLiverstone]

Oh ok, then I know what he’s acting like that

[Asker]

And what is that

[BarryLiverstone]

Could be a few reasons. Not going to post here as it may embarrass you

[Asker]

message me

[BarryLiverstone]

Not sure how, you are anon. Follow me

[Asker]

Just followed

[Staximus]

He sounds like a closet case

[Asker]

Yeah but he isn't.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

looks like a lack of mature communication, he needs to start talking. This seems like he is embarrassed of something, he doesn't dare telling you and gets frustrated. But I can only speculate

[2021biguy]

It doesn't sound like a normal thing, no guy would do that to you.

[Asker]

That's what I thought, too, because I used to have a friends with benefits and it was never like that. I stop that friends with benefits thing and started taking stuff seriously so I met my boyfriend and at first, he wasn't like this, but after a while, it kinda just went like this and I don't really know what's going on because it's just an immediate mood change but he says it's not because of me and that's it.

[2021biguy]

Yes he might be bipolar.

[Charliefretz329]

That’s crazy, call me up to pinch hit

[MasterKS]

you dont get any dick in this world than begging for this shit?

[Steve32127]

That's kinda crazy. I've never turned down a BJ. There's no chick that wants more sex than I can provide. Maybe he's turned off by the fact that you're coming onto him. I'd say try letting him decide when to do these things.

[Asker]

Yeah that'd be like never because he just skips straight to the sex.. I want to suck him, so if I express that to him, why is it on his terms when I get to suck it? I understand that he may not be comfortable at the moment but when we're just laying in bed, being intimate, and I ask him if I can suck it and he says yes, why would his mood suddenly change and throw me off?

[Asker]

Even when he gestures me to suck him, I start to do it for a few minutes and he acts like he's going to cum already, so he pushes me off and then his attitude comes out.

[Anonymous]

This really sounds like a fake question. I'm not even going to respond.

[Asker]

Smh this is actually a legit question because it got me confused.

[Opinion Owner]

No guy that I know, would turn down a bj or get ridden. Sorry. He's got someone else. Either a girl or he's a closet gay. He's over compensating for you to be a submissive sounds like. Have to face facts. Got to confront him.

[Asker]

It's not really that he turns down a bj or a ride. He just gets mad when it seems like he's about to cum.

[Opinion Owner]

After how long?

[Asker]

30-45min ish

[Opinion Owner]

FAKE!!!

[Anonymous]

Maybe he has a slow sex drive and can't keep up with you.

[Asker]

Well... When we first started dating, I told him I like to have sex a lot/often and he said he liked that because he was the same way. And then when we started fucking, I did ask to take breaks here and there, but I could always go for more rounds until I pass out or until I'm outta breath. Andddd I've noticed he slowly has been not being able to go for more rounds but he does last a couple hours because whenever he was about to finish, he would slow down so he wouldn't finish but to keep fucking me. If he does finish in under an hour, he doesn't wanna go for round 2 even tho he keeps being sexual towards me as if we were gonna go for another round..

[Opinion Owner]

What is age gap between you two

[Asker]

We're the same age, just a few months apart.

[Opinion Owner]

Has he ever had his male hormones checked

[Asker]

No, never. What would that do?

[Opinion Owner]

They can also help lower his sex drive or give him no sex drive at all

[Opinion Owner]

You could also help with them being moody

[Asker]

Hmm well... If I'm not the one initiating sex, he will. He just skips all the foreplay and gets an attitude when I tell him or ask him about sucking him.

[Opinion Owner]

His mind frame isn't right evidently. Does he like to go down on you

[Asker]

Yes he does

[Opinion Owner]

But how often

[Asker]

Almost every time we have sex and whenever I put my booty in his face, he'd pull my clothes down to lick it if we have privacy.

[Opinion Owner]

That is good. Do you orgasm easy

[Asker]

Yeah and he loves that cuz it makes him want to make me orgasm more.

[Opinion Owner]

Cool. Maybe it's too painful for him to finish his self

[Anonymous]

He has issues or he getting it some where else. Find a man that will make you happy

[Anonymous]

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