If you want him to stop asking you about whether you had an orgasm, I would recommend that you teach him about the nature of female arousal. As a woman approaches the point of climax, there are very obvious signs a man can use to determine how close she is and whether she has reached orgasm. Some of these obvious signs are as follows: lots of vaginal wetness, a tightening of the lower one-third of vagina , a ballooning of the upper to thirds of the vagina making it more spacious (a process known as tenting), the beginnings of muscle contractions throughout the vagina and around the vulva in general, the clitoris slightly retracting near the point of orgasm.
All of these are very clear indicators of the level of arousal in a woman and her proximity to orgasm though the tightening and the spasms are the closest indicator that work as and is very close. If you want him to become more aware of when you're reaching orgasm so he doesn't have to ask, it depends on whether you are engaged in penetrative sex or some other form of outercourse. If you are engaged in intercourse, the best way for him to tell you are close is to the vaginal tightening around his penis. when he feels this, you should slow down slightly so that he can take note of the contractions during orgasm when they occur. if he's not acting like a jackhammer, it should be very obvious that you're orgasming. if he is giving oral or manual stimulation, it should be obvious that you are at the point of orgasm as he should be able to visually see your contractions. Teaching him to look for these signs can help to prevent his need to ask.
Wow that's the perfect answer.. well detailed.. thank you for your help i will definitely use your advice
I wld feel myself tightening and fluid wld come out but I feel like when he wld still ask after that I was starting to think I had to do something else like a wht liquid come out
No problem, do remember that you have a part to play in this too. You have to be honest even if that means hurting his feelings. You have to be honest about your pleasure and what does work. If he's hitting that right spot, you need to tell him to keep going because no matter how attuned a guy is, its really hard to tell the difference between hitting that spot and kinda hitting that spot without some feedback from her. If you are reluctant to tell him what isn't working, phrase it as a positive. "I like when you focus on..." rather than "I wish you wouldn't do...". Keep those lines of communication open and good luck... also, thank you for the MHO.
Getting wet down there is just your vagina lubing up as you get more aroused. It does not mean that you had an orgasm.
Your br keeps asking because he wants to please you. You see that as pressure and it hurts the mood. But if he doesn't ask, he won't know and won't know to keep trying.
You may feel that what you had was good enough and don't worry about actual orgasm, but after a while of doing that you will feel cheated out of the orgasm and will blame him for not doing as much as is needed to get you there.
Till you know yourself better and can more easily move to orgasm, you may want to avoid the awkwardness of his asking by telling him that you are enjoying what you have together and that when he comes to just come and then cuddle, but not ask about you. Except, tell him that if on certain times you are feeling like you want more, you will specifically tell him to do more and even tell him what is doing the best for feeling good for you.
But don't be annoyed. He is trying very hard to please you.
It's confusing, you're right because women don't really cum, except for some women but you can see it. We orgasm and it's obvious when we do. Not necessary vaginal but I like with the clitoris... and men do notice when it happens. You should talk about it, I would be upset too because not every women orgasm easily
Exactly. Like when you get turned on you'll feel yourself get wet down there so to me i did cum.. and I want to talk to him about it but maybe it turns him on to ask that in some weird way?
I would say he just want to be reassured about the all thing.
Yah ur right.. when he asked me i was like um yah.. he's like it's simple it's a yes or no? But since I thought I did and he asked me I'm like wth am I suppose to have done
Coming is more than just being wet, perhaps u think u are coming but u aren't and that's why he's asking
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!If you had a REAL orgasm you and he would know about it. I don't think you ever have. First warning sign is these shivers and goosebumps. If you get it right after that it becomes a little uncontrollable. He certainly would feel it. You would be looking for a repeat.
I see well i have felt myself tighten and he's the first guy whose had to ask me did u cum.. i thought It was common sense to know that. . i mean I know he's definitely not a virgin
Yes, tightening is not quite near enough. Kabooms gave a good explanation but did not really say how it should feel for you. The big mistake in his description is that when tightening he should slow down. Any woman will tell you that to get to that point and change ANYTHING is a mistake. What he is doing is correct (whatever it is he is doing) and you dont change anything or she will be disappointed. Dont change position, angle or speed, nothing. Just stay as it is because it is building.
Yeah your right i think slowing down wld make a diffrence during that time
yeah i would be annoyed if its consistent as shit. lol.
Yeah like i start feeling pressure.. like last time he was like "come on baby I want to feel you cum" in my head I'm like ughh -_- can't i just do it.. i dnt want to focus on Cummings it stops the fun
bahahaa! wow thats so fucking iff! gosh total mood killer. its like, srsly dont fucking tell me to do it already. im doing it! i hate it when people tell me what to do if its just rabble rabble rabble.
Exactly girl.. I'm like smh!!!
He's just asking if you had an ograsm. Guys can't always tell because there is the whole idea of girls faking it. Obviously every guy wants to make his girl orgasm and it's a bit of a blow to the ego if he can't.
Yeah your right maybe he wants to make sure he satisfied me but at the same time it can make me feel pressured and focus on that rather than making it a fun time
You should honestly just communicate with him and tell him that it's putting too much pressure on you and having the opposite effect of what he's hoping for.
Yeah your right! !!
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