Everytime I sleep with this guy he nuts within 3 minutes. am I doing something wrong?

he said he hasn't had sex in a few months and we’ve hooked up a couple times but everytime he puts it inside me (and im wet) he nuts sooo fast. is there anything i can do to slow down the process or how do i tell him without hurting his ego? I don't know if i want to have sex with him anymore because i never even have time to be pleased. HELP!
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  • Your partner is suffering from premature ejaculation, it occurs when a man ejaculates sooner during sexual intercourse than he or you would like. It is a common sexual complaint. As long as it happens infrequently, it is not cause for concern. If he is unable to delay ejaculation during intercourse all or nearly all of the time, psychological and biological factors play a role in it. It is common and treatable condition. You can help improve sex for you and your partner. The exact cause of premature ejaculation is not known, it is a complex interaction of psychological and biological factors. Psychological causes include, Sexual abuse in past, Poor body image, Depression or Worrying about premature ejaculation. Talking with him will help you both to overcome this issue. (Dirty talking also helps). Men who are anxious about obtaining or maintaining an erection during sex may have relationship problems in previous experience. A number of biological factors contributing in premature ejaculation include: Abnormal hormone (testosterone) levels, Abnormal levels of neurotransmitters, Inflammation and infection of the prostate. Common treatment options for premature ejaculation include behavioral techniques, topical anesthetics, and counseling. Behavioral treatment you can support is – girl on top positions – cow girl and lap dance. Men last much longer in these positions, it help him to built confidence and satisfy his manhood ego. masturbating an hour or two before sex with you also help to delay ejaculation during sex. Pelvic floor exercises is important and permanent solution for weak pelvic floor muscles impairing his ability to delay ejaculation. Pelvic floor exercises – known as Kegel exercises can help strengthen these muscles. The pause-squeeze technique as foreplay also works wonders. Begin sexual activity as usual, including stimulation of the penis, until you feel almost ready to ejaculate. Then you – girl squeeze the end of his penis, at the point where the head (glans) joins the shaft, and maintain the squeeze for several seconds, until the urge to ejaculate passes, repeat the squeeze process two or three times or more. Condoms might decrease penis sensitivity, which can help delay ejaculation. Anesthetic creams and sprays that contain a numbing agent, such as benzocaine, lidocaine or prilocaine, are sometimes used to treat premature ejaculation. These products are applied to the penis 10 to 15 minutes before sex to reduce sensation and help delay ejaculation. They are available as over the counter things in medical stores. If any of these things work, you will need not to consult medical therapist.

    • Great answer

    • @Jmmmfi4 I hae woirked in a hospital for two years counciling with girls about sexual disorders.

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  • Nope, no one is doing anything wrong. Some guys are just more sensitive.
    Some things to help lengthen his time would be not going too hard too quick for too long to start.
    Also, change positions and switch back and forth from to sex to foreplay a few times. Let him concentrate on you for a good long while too!!! ;)
    Good luck!!!

    • thanks for the MHO!!!

Most Helpful Guys

  • Sadly, three minutes is average. It is not good. You need to ask him to try to last longer. Is he in good physical shape? That can help. It can also help if he is aroused for ten minutes or so before intercourse (which can be spent on foreplay or him giving you oral sex). Try a position that gives you control like cowgirl and have him tell you if he’s feeling like he will orgasm so you can shift your position a bit or slow down. You can also have him rub your clit in that position. Doggy style is almost guaranteed to make a man with this problem orgasm quickly, so don’t go into that position until you want him to finish.

  • 1. You aren't doing anything wrong.

    2. You need to have him give you lots of foreplay and oral/fingering, so that you cum at least once before penetration even starts.

    3. He needs to slow down (you may need to encourage him to go slow), and slowly build up to going harder and faster. He's going to have to concentrate and practice in order to learn some control. Right now, he's rushing straight to an orgasm, but he'll enjoy sex a lot more if he learns to take his time - and obviously so will you.

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  • Three minutes is pretty average. If you want the sex to last longer, have more foreplay and continue after he has finished.

    • @kannettava possible for guy who cum in 3 minutes.

  • That's just something he has to work on..

    And something he'll get used to eventually with practice.

    The most immediate things though is that he can use a condom (if he hasn't already) to reduce the sensation.. Also he can try to go again for a second time after the refractory period, which should take him longer to orgasm

    • he can also just slow down and take his penis out for a breather.. You/him can also pinch the tip of his penis. It would reduce the blood flow and shrink the penis to make him last longer

  • A few things may help:
    1) Give him a handjob first that way when you have sex it may slow him down if he already blasted off
    2) Have you tried going for round 2 or 3... sometimes that slows a guy down
    3) Tell him to masturbate more frequently that way he won't have so much built up
    4) Use thicker condoms

    What do you think?

  • Captain Quickdraw...😂😂😂😂, does he know he's ringing the bell early, does he act embarrassed?

  • Oh you really have to tell him. 3 minutes is not worth getting undressed for.

    Ask him this:-

    I have some bad news and some very bad news. Which do you want first? He's either got to learn how to control himself or lose out on sex.

  • Either he's a fast rabbit (which is disappointing) or your pussy is a relentless vice to which a penis can only submit.
    Also read, or he's a premature ejaculator or your pussy when wet feels just that awesome.

  • This isn't you. It's him.
    You're gonna have to work out something with him see how he can give you a sign you need to stop so he can get it together or something

  • A ex of mine had the same problem. I found the solution to be to make him cum before penetration, like oral or with the hand then after a while have penetrative sex

  • Maybe foreplay with his hands or mouth to get you closer to the edge? Other than that I don't know, I've always been able to delay as long as needed.

  • You aren't doing anything wrong at all. It's very common for us guys to get off rather quickly. I might recommend that you have then get you off first or get you close.

  • He may want to use a cock-ring to help him possibly slow down but needs something to help him slow down

  • If he had any clue what he was doing, he would get you off FIRST. BEFORE he puts it in.
    You're dealing with a beginner, someone who jerks off a lot, and they're always in a hurry.
    And to immediately jump to 'no sex anymore' says you aren't ready for a committed relationship either.
    Ah... noobies. LOL

  • It sounds like you're doing everything right... but he's not satisfying you before he sticks his dick in you. You're enabling poor performance.
    He's gotta buy the ticket before he gets to ride. He's gotta pay the toll if he wants to cross that bridge.
    Make the lazy fuck eat your pussy before he fucks you.

  • LoL um, there's like delaying lube I guess?

  • Some guys just do that

  • No, but he sure is, lol.

  • Always do in stress free

  • Think he needs to learn to control himself. If anything your doing to good he keeps nutting so fast lol

  • If anything, you're doing everything RIGHT. The problem is his. He needs to learn control.

  • How do you do could u please send a short clip would be helpful to make informed decision

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