Everytime I wear something sexy my boyfriend watches porn and ignores me?

Everytime. It's weird like he knows what I'm doing. I wore this sexy outfit for him he watches porn... loudly mind you, and then ignored me the rest of the night... I don't understand and then randomly wants to have sex with me at weird times. I'm unsure what the issue is but my thing is why do you act surprised that I'm pissed about it? I dress up or strip for you yet you'd rather watch porn?
Everytime I wear something sexy my boyfriend watches porn and ignores me?
Do my looks make you want to run and watch porn?
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Superb Opinion

  • Here are some reasons why he might prefer porn:

    No anxiety when one masturbates (other than the risk of getting caught if that is an issue in the relationship). Often anxiety is a big part of what comes from partner sex: anxiety about how I smell, how my body will perform, will my body perform, does my partner like me, my body, how my body reacts etc. For many people, unfortunately, relationship sex is filled with so much anxiety that it is not enjoyable
    A person is tired and masturbation doesn't require the same level of effort, both mentally and physically to perform
    It is not painful. For both men and women, relationship sex can be physically painful and the inability to resolve the pain or effectively discuss it with their partner leads to the desiring relationship sex less or avoiding it
    A person is bored
    A person is bored with their relationship and wants to play out a fantasy in their head
    A person is stressed
    Because they like it
    They don't have to worry about getting rejected by their partner
    Their partner is sick, has their period or just doesn't want it when the partner does
    They want to do it quick or don't have the time required for relationship sex
    Their partner is traveling or away from their partner
    It's convenient, like in the shower in the morning or evening
    It is their best attempt to remain faithful to the marriage because they are really unhappy and don't have anyway to resolve marital conflict outside the bedroom
    They do not desire the kind of sex they will have with their partner
    It's fun
    They want to indulge in a fantasy that they are: too afraid, embarrassed or fear rejection from their partner to share with them
    They just want an orgasm and they know how best to get there in the fastest way possible
    To learn more about their own body and what they like and how to reach orgasm

Most Helpful Guy

  • No idea. I would think that if something someone did made me suddenly want porn that means their action was arousing.

    If someone is making me excited I would feel that having them is a whole lot better than porn.

    It doesn't logically compute. Is he just an ass? Is he insecure about something? Is the sex the type where he gets cacti (plural!) up his rectum? Surely if all is well, he'd choose you here. It never hurts to be overly blunt with a guy. We are after all morons sometimes, twice so when excited. But all in all if this behavior remains after he knows he could have his partner instead... well, there has to be some other issue he's sitting on.

    • It's making me nervous. He's not cheating so maybe it's a porn addiction? I don't know.. we had sex recently and it was great. So I'm not sure why he has to watch porn for half the night and ignore me at the same time... 🙄

    • Well, the odds of him figuring this out are greater than the odds of you doing it. Since it is obviously crucial to your relationship, find some time to ask.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Dump him girl! Do yourself a favour. You’re absolutely gorgeous and can do so much better than this waste of space

    • Thank you yeah I'm noticing my self esteem is dwindling down since we've been with this guy.

  • I think you can tell him that you can copy what he likes most in porn and it may attract him enough

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Hmm, you actually look gorgeous. Not sure why your boyfriend does that

  • No, you look like a beautiful and sexy woman that I'd much rather be with then watching porn. I largely find porn quite unrealistic and boring which is why I would rarely ever waste my time watching it. It would seem your boyfriend has some weird issues.

  • Trust me on this, if he is doing that every time you wear something sexy, then he is not ignoring you.

  • Time for a new boyfriend, I think. Ya gotta ask yourself this question: "Do I feel loved?"
    Well... do ya?

  • Get a better boyfriend girl

  • Ditch him.

  • That's weird. How long have you been together? Is this a new thing? Maybe he's worried about you getting pregnant?

    • I don't know... He didn't seem worried the last time I had a pregnancy scare. I was terrified he laughed it off. And it's somewhat new, everything is new it's only been 5 months. We moved too fast.

  • Dump him.

  • I don't know what his problem is would be one lucky guy if I had a beautiful woman dress sexy for me and want me. He might just not be into you which I can't see why.

  • I'd take you in that outfit over porn any day! Damn! You fucking sexy!

  • no make a porn movie with you how can he just not want to jump your bones there are so many guys that want a woman to be sexy for them I just don't understand it

  • Sound slike a toxic man

  • And why he is still your boyfriend?

  • Might wanna find a new boyfriend then.

    • I'm looking haha 😆😅

  • Get a girlfriend, most women are queer anyway.

  • He’s probably gay. Most men that act badly towards women are.

  • Is he afraid to touch you? He could just jump you instead of jerk off to porn

    • Yeah since I'm sitting here lol I don't know. He's either gay or intimidated?

    • Maybe intimidated