Everytime I wear something sexy my boyfriend watches porn and ignores me?

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Everytime. It's weird like he knows what I'm doing. I wore this sexy outfit for him he watches porn... loudly mind you, and then ignored me the rest of the night... I don't understand and then randomly wants to have sex with me at weird times. I'm unsure what the issue is but my thing is why do you act surprised that I'm pissed about it? I dress up or strip for you yet you'd rather watch porn?  Do my looks make you want to run and watch porn?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Here are some reasons why he might prefer porn:

No anxiety when one masturbates (other than the risk of getting caught if that is an issue in the relationship). Often anxiety is a big part of what comes from partner sex: anxiety about how I smell, how my body will perform, will my body perform, does my partner like me, my body, how my body reacts etc. For many people, unfortunately, relationship sex is filled with so much anxiety that it is not enjoyable
A person is tired and masturbation doesn't require the same level of effort, both mentally and physically to perform
It is not painful. For both men and women, relationship sex can be physically painful and the inability to resolve the pain or effectively discuss it with their partner leads to the desiring relationship sex less or avoiding it
A person is bored
A person is bored with their relationship and wants to play out a fantasy in their head
A person is stressed
Because they like it
They don't have to worry about getting rejected by their partner
Their partner is sick, has their period or just doesn't want it when the partner does
They want to do it quick or don't have the time required for relationship sex
Their partner is traveling or away from their partner
It's convenient, like in the shower in the morning or evening
It is their best attempt to remain faithful to the marriage because they are really unhappy and don't have anyway to resolve marital conflict outside the bedroom
They do not desire the kind of sex they will have with their partner
It's fun
They want to indulge in a fantasy that they are: too afraid, embarrassed or fear rejection from their partner to share with them
They just want an orgasm and they know how best to get there in the fastest way possible
To learn more about their own body and what they like and how to reach orgasm

Effably · Accepted Answer

No idea. I would think that if something someone did made me suddenly want porn that means their action was arousing.

If someone is making me excited I would feel that having them is a whole lot better than porn.

It doesn't logically compute. Is he just an ass? Is he insecure about something? Is the sex the type where he gets cacti (plural!) up his rectum? Surely if all is well, he'd choose you here. It never hurts to be overly blunt with a guy. We are after all morons sometimes, twice so when excited. But all in all if this behavior remains after he knows he could have his partner instead... well, there has to be some other issue he's sitting on.

Blonde401 · Accepted Answer

Dump him girl! Do yourself a favour. You’re absolutely gorgeous and can do so much better than this waste of space

elizamichale1 · Accepted Answer

I think you can tell him that you can copy what he likes most in porn and it may attract him enough

Zifey · Answer

Hmm, you actually look gorgeous. Not sure why your boyfriend does that

LiamSawyer · Answer

No, you look like a beautiful and sexy woman that I'd much rather be with then watching porn. I largely find porn quite unrealistic and boring which is why I would rarely ever waste my time watching it. It would seem your boyfriend has some weird issues.

Citizenkirk · Answer

Trust me on this, if he is doing that every time you wear something sexy, then he is not ignoring you.

Dargil · Answer

Time for a new boyfriend, I think. Ya gotta ask yourself this question: "Do I feel loved?" Well... do ya?

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Get a better boyfriend girl

JohnHaley114 · Answer

Ditch him.

AndrésC64 · Answer

That's weird. How long have you been together? Is this a new thing? Maybe he's worried about you getting pregnant?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Dump him.

kellytheman · Answer

I don't know what his problem is would be one lucky guy if I had a beautiful woman dress sexy for me and want me. He might just not be into you which I can't see why.

DrewJohnson · Answer

I'd take you in that outfit over porn any day! Damn! You fucking sexy!

driven159 · Answer

no make a porn movie with you how can he just not want to jump your bones there are so many guys that want a woman to be sexy for them I just don't understand it