EX calling me baby during sex?

[Anonymous]

We have not been together for a couple months but now but both of us act as if nothing really has changed, we're friendly to each other and like once a month we meet up and have sex, that's it. sex , I spend the night- we cuddle, the next morning he drops me off and we don't talk much in between unless to wish a happy holiday or the occasional hey how are you doing ( which usually leads to us seeing each other ). When we meet up, it's not like he immediately wants to have sex, he actually kind of takes it as an opportunity to catch up and we talk for a bit and then we have sex, last time he called me baby a few times during and I found it weird because I didn't really think of myself as his baby anymore ( although I would like to be ). I actually am more stand-off to him when we see each other and probably try to make it seem like I'm just there to have sex, which is def. a defense mechanism on my part, I've been badly hurt before and really don't want to put myself in the line of fire again ( he doesn't know much about this bad breakup although I know he also has been hurt before , actually he says every girl has hurt him ) I truly want to at least try to make things work , if we're seeing each other how we are and being cordial how we are I'm thinking there are at least SOME feelings there and we should act upon them but like I said I don't want to put myself in a vulnerable situation.. do you think that there's a chance he could be feeling the same way I am? Should I say something? it's very hard for me to bc like I said I have had a really bad relationship before which was my last experience other than him and I'm still very scared to be hurt like that again.

[Criscodomus]

Don't risk your feelings again. It's not worth it. I know it sounds harsh but he's going to tell you what he thinks you want to hear and might even do anything or promise just to sleep with you. It may seem like he wants to peruse something further and he may even tell you one day but it's only so he doesn't have to work hard to find some girl to have sex. Guys like this just want to take the easy way, they talk to their ex's to see of they have a chance and when they see the opportunity they go in for the kill and take what they want. If he cared and wanted to be with you he would tell you and have a serious conversation about it. I'm sorry to say but I don't think this guy loves nor really cares for you but this is something to learn from. He's one less asshole that you have to worry about and one more type of guy that you know to stay away from.

[Asker]

The thing is it's not a situation where he is trying to sleep with me only,, any time we see each other I almost always make the plans and even when I go over to his house he doesn't want sex immediately, sometimes I'll get there lay in bed and he'll just want to go to bed..

[Criscodomus]

Maybe he knows that he'll get it anyway, like friends with benefits.

[Criscodomus]

Thank you for most helpful. Good luck