Exactly what is the difference between finding women attractive vs seeing them as sex objects?

Obviously when you find a woman attractive is because you obviously think she's hot enough to have sex with. So logically speaking wouldn't this count as sexual objectification?

Exactly what is the difference between finding women attractive vs seeing them as sex objects?
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  • I'm no fan of modern feminist terms but I think "sex object" is actually a good one. Especially because its not a gender specific term. Alright now to answer your question. Seeing someone as a sex object means you only think of them as a bipedal fleshlight. You don't value them as a thinking, emotional human. Attraction on the other hand is much more complex. It can be simple and small but it can also grow to be a complex and large. It grows changes and adapts and is person specific. It also implys a certain level of affection and care for that person and is a gateway to love.

    • i agree but just like i told everyone else a lot of women will jump the gun and claim you are sexually objectifying them just by thinking they're hot

    • Are you speaking from personal observations?

  • Attractiveness is that you want to be with her and spend time with her but seeing as sex objects is like all you want to do is fuck her as simple as that

  • Just feminist pseudo-intellectual BS. Women don't pay any heed, women love attention. More effort they put in more interest they will get. There is no difference. Not to mention its same for both genders, not just men. Its like saying women are blind and don't find men attractive.

  • Her character...

  • Women: "I'm going to let half my tits hang out today"

    Also women: "OMFG WHY ARE GUYS PAYING SO MUCH ATTENTION TO MY BOOBS?"

  • Obviously when you find a woman attractive is because you obviously think she's hot

    "attractive" does not always equal "hot".

    • that doesn't make any sense

    • Different guys have different ideas of what "attractive" means. Hot means hot.

  • Feminists leftist idiots would tell you that there is no difference that a man finding a woman attractive is the same as rape..

  • I don't know, but it is usually the ones that dress and act slutty that complain about being seen as a sex object.

    • yea because it's usually the wrong guy (from their point of view) that sees them as a sex object. I bet they wouldn't be complaining if Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt stared or even sexually harass them.

  • the difference is not seeing them as more than sex objects. but hardly anybody does that anyway. at least that's what i assume since i think that's pretty bizarre.

  • There is no difference, if you see a girl you want to sleep with you are just the stereotypical misogynistic man-splainer and perpetuator of toxic masculinity. Boys should not be boys they should be “its”.

  • If a man finds her attractive it means he likes her but, if he sees her as a sex object he thinks he can buy/lure and use her for his selfish fantasies.

    • Ha! You say that as if women don’t have sexual desires OR ever use sex to get what they want. You really took the feminist cool aid

    • @hahahmm he never said it doesn't happen the other way round, the question was about men finding women attractive?

    • what if I tell you that almost 100% of the times women actually love being bought and dont mind being your sex object just as long as you buy her at her highest price

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  • Well the first thing worth mentioning and the thing people fuck up all the time is *sexualisation.*

    Sexualization is not objectification. A billboard of a woman in a bikini is not objectification, it's sexualisation, which is basically just putting a focus on sexuality.

    Objectification requires a disregard for their agency. Now you can chop that up into "soft" and "hard" objectification and we can say soft is fairly common and okay while hard is bad. Alternatively, you could just cut out soft objectification altogether, say fewer things are objectification and decide that everything that would otherwise be hard objectification is all their is and that it's just bad.

    Most people don't think too hard about it and women in particular are more comfortable latching onto sexualisation as objectification, in other words they want to feel that it victimizes them. When really, again, sexualization is not objectification.

    The thing is that it just seems to bother women oftentimes and rather than this just being a thing about nature (that you have to just accept or endure a bit of discomfort), instead because they don't like it, it ends up being treated as something wrong with everyone else, something wrong with the world.

  • Nothing.

  • That's it mate hahahahahahahaha!

  • Uhh dude, you want to have sex with every other eye candy you meet? Talk about having too much free time. I suppose, to a cynic, there is no difference.

  • If you're attracted to a woman, you think she's hot enough to possibly have sex with ; if you're objectifying the woman, then that's all you want.

    • so they are the same things?

    • @derek2017 no. Attraction means more than just desire for sex; it includes other aspects such as traits of personality. If you want sex alone from the woman, you are effectively objectifying the woman.

    • yeah but that only happens if you meet her!! Without meeting her she is a sex object, so the phrase "youre objectifying me" means nothing if you haven't met her!!!

  • I think it's little bit like looking at a picture of Mamet's Olympia. It's a priceless piece of art that depicts a female prostitute sitting on a bed naked.
    It caused an uproar when it was first displayed in a museum, societies back then we're very religious, rigidly sexualy repressive, so many people could not handle the subject matter, a naked prostitute sitting on a bed with her eyes fixated on the veiwer, just as you are objectifying her she has her eyes glued towards the spectator, she is defiant and proud of her sexuality.

    Exactly what is the difference between finding women attractive vs seeing them as sex objects?
    • otfrl!

  • How can I be expected not to sexyualize women when they do everything they can to sexualize themselves?

    • get a plastic surgery that will make you look like Tom Cruise or try to have the same net worth as Floyd Mayweather

  • This is actually a good question. When I find someone attractive it basically means I would fuck you. I think subconsciously, ALL men view attractive women as sex objects whether they believe or not. Doesn't mean that they can't love you and it doesn't mean you should be disresctful and treat them as sex material only, but subconsciously, that is the case. It's very difficult for me to comprehend how people can have fun in a relationship when it doesn't involve a lot of touching. I know so many boyfriend and girlfriends who have fun just by talking, talking, smoking weed together, and more talking, with occasional cuddling and sex. I just don't get it 😑

    • I agree the only reason I asked this question is that I think there is no such thing as "sexual objectification." I think this is just a term used by feminists to shame men for feeling sexual attraction towards women like they should unless they are gay or asexual

    • Yeah, basically. Feminism has ruined the world

  • The way they present themselves, and it's pretty damn obvious lol

    • I agree but this question is about the difference between feeling sexual attraction or sexual objectification

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