Eye contact during s*x with friends with benefits?

[Anonymous]

Every time I sleep with my friends with benefits (known him for years) he always looks at me, and gives intense eye contact during s*x. I have no feelings towards him since he's rejected the idea of a relationship with me. I dont understand why he got upset one time when I didn't look him in the eyes or want to kiss him. He said making out turns him on, but I just felt awkward. Ended up giving in. It sounds weird on my part for not wanting to do intimate acts even though we're f*cking. Why does he want to be intimate if he doesn't want anything out of it? I just want to f*ck and go home.

[GingerGuy]

Not only would mine not look at me, she'd even have her eyes completely closed almost the entire time. But I think it's different for us a little bit? Yes it's intimate, but maybe more so for women? For us it's like, when you don't, where are you mentally you know? It's like we aren't even there for you. Like being ignored (that's the feeling). I would look at her constantly (not just body lol, but in her eyes or at her face), but when you aren't getting that back... you know? It's like, "why don't you want to look at me?". That's how I felt anyway.

[GingerGuy]

But sex for me is very intimate, and that's why I have sex, for that intimacy. So I also learned that fwbs isn't for me because I need that intimacy that you just don't get from that.

[Berethor]

Yea a guy might feel little ignored, but it could be worse, some girls only have sex with lights off. :)

[GingerGuy]

@Berethor Very true! lol

[Berethor]

So you don't like eye contact during sex in general or you worried about getting attached?

[Asker]

No I would never get attached to him. He ruined that for me lol. I love eye contact but only when im in love with the person. Its just weird as hell when I don't love someone. Its like 😯😶

[Berethor]

I see, it seems like to him it didn't matter, and he like eye contact and even making out with his friends with benefits, I don't think that eye contact is unusual thing for friends with benefits to do, but making out is kinda is, your relationship is supposed to be focus only on sex and kissing can be seen as a romantic gesture, that's why kissing is rare on porn, though there is some porn with kissing. Yes on one hand is might seem silly because kissing is usually seen as a minor thing in comparison to sex, but for people who are purely in a sexual relationship kissing could be avoided. He is the one who rejected the idea of a relationship with you, so it his fault, you can tell him that because you friends with benefits then you want "only" to fuck with him, not kiss with him, you lust for him but don't love him. Telling him to avoid eye contact during sex is little more strange, but if you gonna have sex with him only in doggy position and the like then is come naturally. :)

[Avicenna]

Maybe he likes feeling like he’s having sex with a girlfriend

[R3DthatDude]

That’s the limits of being fuck buddy, no eye contact lol I don’t understand they issue. That’s Just how it is, want all the perks of a relationship without actually being in one

[Berethor]

Yea it's already almost like a relationship, well it's not as bad as one-night stand. :)

[Iron_Man]

Those things never work out what’s the point to it?

[Asker]

Absolutely! I agree. I dont want anything with him, but I do enjoy the sex. Just dont understand why it has to be intimate sex.

[Berethor]

It don't has to be intimate sex, many guys don't care about kissing part, but maybe he does.

[In_Trance]

So you'll fuck but won't look him in the eye? smh

[Asker]

Lol yes I want to nut and go home

[Berethor]

Unusual for a girl, but you basically only want his cock, not him looking in your eyes. :)

[Anonymous]

Then make it clear to him what you want