Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
THIS IS A RAMBLING RANT. I NEED TO DO ANOTHER VERSION THAT EXPRESSES IT BETTER AND LESS SNARKY SOUNDING, BUT IF YOU WANT A FUN TRIP THROUGH MY MIND...HERE YOU GO.
I am just taking deep throating as an example, because it is one of many such acts and you deserve to hear some explicit downsides because all teens and young people now see is porn that glorifies the activity.
BOTTOM LINE: It's hard to do, uncomfortable, and to get good at deep throating you have to get really good at not barfing when you gag. Some people just take to it and it's no big deal. But the truth is, women and children (and males too) who work in legal and illegal porn, in prostitution, or are abused by being forced to choke on penises, even if they freely chose to consent to it STILL suffer problems from training away the GAG reflex.
This is because the gag reflex protects your lung and gut health. It helps keep food particles, saliva, swallowed solid objects of all sorts from going down to airpassages and suffocating/choking you. A fucked up gag reflex can mean you get bronchitis every time you catch a small cold because your respiratory system has trouble gagging up mucus and moving it to the mouth or stomach to be spit out or digested.
Not making this up. These are real health problems that long time sex workers legit have. They often get lumped in with the symptoms of smoking cigarettes, weed, meth and other drugs you smoke or snort, because the co-morbidity rate is so high (that means they happen together, a lot). I have worked with sex workers and known intimate details of their lives for over 30 years now, yes, really. I've seen it. I started volunteering in public health a long time ago because I had been one of those abused, used, very young women once. I'm not going to go dig up any studies or science articles that you can read because there aren't really people writing about this anymore in open source literature. Not since the 70s, but it's still known and understood.
So what does this mean. It means this really is a risk. It exists. I can't tell you how BIG of a risk it is. I don't know how many times you can DT before your gag reflex gets wonky, and if you add alcohol and other drugs to either person's system when you do it, you risk even more injury, and when you add herpes or another STD that can be transmitted orally you add even more risk (and if you have NEVER been STD tested but you have been exposed to anyone's genital or oral secretions in any way, you COULD have an STD).
So if there is a risk, is the reward worth it? Is watching a woman "gag on your mighty schlong", or showing your devotion by "gagging on a mighty schlong" really worth the health risk? What if I told you women should not have to feel pressure to submit to things that risk their health? This is 2018, and that's just stupid. Jesus doesn't want you to make your wife unhealthy just to have relations with her, and I am putting it like that because I'm just trying to get you to see it in moral terms, not that you care about Jesus or are a man, or even want a wife.
We can all agree, probably no one should have to get sick or choked to death for our fun times, if we can avoid it. (Even if we're consensual sadomasochists, we agree, and if you DON'T agree, you're what's called a sociopath.)
What if I said hey, "the guy who wants to shove a hard flesh object of some length down your throat and make you gag for his jollies would NEVER agree to do such a thing if the tables were reversed (and you KNOW he wouldn't.)
He simply would not allow you to jam your fingers back in his throat for 5, 10, 30 minutes, over and over until it made you orgasm, even if it was the only way you could orgasm. You know most men wouldn't do that because they wouldn't submit to it or see it as a rightful thing to ask them. The man would simply not submit to his head being forced and hair roughly pulled so you could do this choking thing enough until you had your orgasm. (Maybe some men, but very darn few.) Imagine how much money and drugs you would have to offer most men you know to do something like that before they'd agree?
So, just what exactly is this man offering you in exchange for this unpleasant thing you train yourself to like? Is it money, security, paying your medical bills when you're 45 to get you treated for bronchitis one more time? Perhaps if you have to do this or be beaten, or do this vs. starving, or dying, or having to jones for dope for longer, or do this or not be loved, you'll think the risk is worth it. And if you think it's worth it, do it, I guess. It's your choice as an adult where it's legal to even perform fellatio. I'm not kink shaming. I love kinky shit. But I have my limits of what I will do to another person.
And the worst thing of it all is it is not even the best, most sensual, most awesome feeling kind of blow job to get. It just mostly LOOKS good, powerful, domineering and degrading on camera - because...
it's yet another of the many porn sex acts that look/sound good but don't actually feel good in real life, because porn is acting, duh.
And it's 2018 now. It's unethical to make all women submit to all men on all things that men want. It's not caveman days, it's not ancient Roman days, it's not Jesus' time anymore. So we all draw the lines on who submits to whom and when somewhere. I think of it like the DMV. Women work there now and if you want your car tags you might have to follow the direction of a woman, whether you like it or agree with how it's done, you just have to pay the money she says, fill out the form she says, and wait in the line she says and you can fuss, fight and be pissy about it because man should never submit, but there you are in the real world, and...it makes no sense not to just do what she says, so you do it. Or you walk out without your car tags, get pulled over by a lady cop, get a ticket, go before a lady judge to fight it, and one way, some way there will be a woman you HAVE to submit to or literally risk being shot if you protest it too far.
So, quit playing this dom-sub-god-slave-male-female tape in your head. We're not different from you, we're just other people, and we're made out of all the same stuff that you are. Beyond the very most basic role of which person has the sperm, and which person has the ovaries and the uterus and the developed mammary glands, probably ever other gender norm is going to be polluted in some way by the environment, so, gender norms are a little messy even down to at the very simplest, basic level, so that makes them all at least a little bit bullshit. It is not black and white. It's always some shade on the spectrum.
So, why be that guy? The guy who thinks "I have a penis, and I am stronger physically than this woman, and I can do this."? Why not be the guy who says "yeah, but it's not good for her health and I don't really need it?"
So yep, it's about feminism, the battle of the sexes, the battle for supremacy over equality, the battle of porn fucking people's ever loving minds up because they just don't know how the stunt sex gets done and what cost it exacts on the body, because no one is supposed to get as obsessed and detailed about it as I am, but here I am...
Anyone still with me here?
I hope that was a fun ride.
Not in the mood to argue so won't, but hey, comment what you think.
This is how the deep existential dilemma all humans face of negative versus positive, good over evil, and always wanting to be in the light makes me feel.
"In certain cases, absence of the gag reflex and pharyngeal sensation can be a symptom of a number of severe medical conditions, such as damage to the glossopharyngeal nerve, the vagus nerve, or brain death."
And deep cleansing breath now....
When all else fails remember that almost no person on earth with their senses intact can resist the charm of frolicking animals as long a the animals don't get hurt. Therefor, cat vidoes are the great equalizer.
What Girls & Guys Said
11 40Anal is also really bad for both partiesu
It depends on a few factors. One of my exes, of semi-petite frame, can take thick long meat in her basket, and not get stretched out, as she's connected with her body. I didn't train her that way, she just came into it.
@Ahsthen it's still not healthy. Doesn't mean I don't want to try it at least once though just for the sake of trying.
That's simply made up. There is no evidence for anal sex to be directly unhealthy in itself. What has been connected with forms of later anal incontinence is forceful/violent anal sex. With that means forcing the penetration of the anus. This can, especially if often performed, cause weakening of the rectal muscles. This can also be the case where large objects are being used, and I'm sorry to all men out there but your penis isn't big enough for that. The epidemiological research done on this carry many flaws due to small sample size and not separating causal anal sex from more forceful such. You can also see a quite low difference between those reporting having had anal sex and those not when it comes to anal incontinence. The same is true with damage on the inside, causal anal sex does not prove a cause.
@WhiteKite : the empirical world has many degrees of freedom. A person's body can vary in its ability to withstand activity. One must be self-attentive. However, any activity eventually wears down body parts, if only because those parts age, the results of which can vary.
@SirRexington, it can be, but it can also be done in perfectly healthful ways.
Alright, makes sense.
Except for the part where you do that thing that women commonly do where they blame others for what they do. Whoever DOES it is responsible for themselves. It's not the guys fault automatically (damn feminism!!)
I appreciate what you're saying, but you're ignoring that women really have been socialized to accept the sexual choices of a male partner, and that men really do pressure women into sex acts. Not that men never get pressured either. This particular issue just happens to have a feminist angle to it.
Thing is you are writing as if it doesn't matter of the type of guy you get, he should "stop" or change his personality as opposed to just being with someone who compromises or has more sh-stuff in common. This is the core of the problem with dating now. Women like jerks and laugh at nice guys but they want the jerks to be nice to them. Of course he is a cheater, or selfish, or ignores the girl, or in your example, controlling and tricky with pressuring the girl to do something she doesn't want to do.
Well, if there's any message here it's to say no to those guys because you know it's not great for your health.
as it got more ranty i just tuned out i agree women shouldn't be pressured to deep throat but it does come off as shaming people who do want to try it even women
I can accept that. I do say "go ahead and do it" but know the risks, and that was my ultimate point. I knew it was going to be ranty when I started to write it. I have a lot of ranty feelings about it.
People will do what they want regardless of health risks. And also fetishes have never really made any logical sense.
Yep I'm with you on this, they eat at McDonald's, some inject filthy opiodes into their veins, and some swallow giant shlongs while engaging in sexual Congress. They don't care, you can't stop them from doing bad shit.
What a great piece of lumping sex, rape, "gender roles", "my opinion", "I'm not going to provide evidence, just take my word for it" and actual solid advice in to one matter.
Well, here's the thing about the evidence... It's deep medical journal evidence, which you can't really link to. Def my opinions all over in this take though, which is what takes are.
I don't like deepthroating, myself. It strikes me as a forced, "I saw this in a porn" move and everything that gives me that vibe turns me off.
Relatedly, men who perform oral sex on women are skyrocketing their risk of contracting oral cancer and it is NOT a type of cancer that you want to be getting. I
www.chicagotribune.com/.../...-20180312-story.html
I'm actually not surprise by this, I think deepthroating is a very inhuman act and I find nothing around or sexual about it. I seriously never understood how is it that some people can actually get off to these type of things.
anyways if i have to make a list of my top most repulsing porn genre out there as of now, deepthroating is one of them
Porn brainwashes people into thinking these fetishes are normal lustful desires and activities.
Truth is sex is only natural desire.
Fetishes like oral sex, anal sex, and gangbangs are all sexual desires that come from ego related drives.
Oral sex is desired by those who have a need to feel that their sexual parts are special.
Anal sex is desired by those who wish to avoid pregnancy.
Gangbangs or multiple partners are a desire for a person to feel the need to be treated as superior.
A typical porn scene always consists of the same fetishes and activities. I think these are all done in this manner because a pornstar would all have these sexual fetishes at some point because regular sex for them just wouldn't excite them anymore. I mean they don't even get excited from having others watch them have sex, so they will always be willing to do more wild things.
Good for you. Yep, it's a joke all these deep-throating idiots - both genders. Just waaaaaayyyyy too much porn.
As if Sweet Brown running from a fire wasn't enough to make me laugh about Bronchitis; now I find out that deep throating can cause it too. AIN'T NOBODY GOT TIME FO' DAT
Girls deepthroating a peeled banana make me uncomfortable.
You may think it's sexy but all I'm thinking is "if that breaks off, you gonna choke to death"
I've heard of all the kinks all the time. Maybe it's just me though.
I don’t expect a girl to deepthroat me all the way but if she wants to try or is good at it I’m not gunna say complain or say no 🤷♂️
Excellently stated!
ok a bit shorter would help for busy people have s good day
Its a two minute read. And you were warned.
@BaileyisDarcy true but we all skip the slow parts
Stop crying about what people find good in porn that what's wrong with this rant
No tears. Just food for thought.
Being average length means a large number of females can swallow my cock without it getting past the back of their mouth. But I think one can train their gag reflex to be variable. I can reach down my throat with my finger and not gag.
Deepthroating is hot
Okay.
Now do one about how cunnilingus causes throat cancer
I shall. STDs and safer sex are in my rotation.
Thank you