Feeling worthless after a one night stand?

Hey, (I’m not proud) but I’ve just lost my virginity to a complete stranger I met on a party yesterday. Her was nice, good looking and didn’t feel weird with him… but I can’t help to feel sooo used and unworthy. He didn’t even ask for my number or Instagram and this makes me feel so unworthy of any relationship, like this is as good as I can get.
The morning after I felt super embarrassed as well because I bled quite a lot (not blood but more like blood tinted liquid and the bed looked awful), he said nothing about it though. I never told him that it was my first time so he was a bit rough but after a bit it didn’t really hurt me, although I think I wasn’t wet enough.
do you think this bleeding will happen in future sexual intercourses as well? My vagina feels kind of sore now
anyway I need some advice and comfort right now.
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  • There has been many questions on here about girls wanting to lose their virginity and just go out and find a stranger and do it
    I always warned against this because I have always felt that if they did that they would not find a guy that would make it all about them and that's what you want you want a guy it's going to make love to you that's going to make you feel something so beautiful and so deep and if he can do that instead of being selfish and getting on top of you pumping five times and he's finished then you going to have the worst experience ever I'm very glad that you wrote this I hate that it turned out for you the way it did because you just made me realize something when I answer these questions there's another important part did I have never ever written down and that is you and just went through something beautiful and you want to be held and want to be loved and you want to be acknowledged that you just did this and I'm sorry that didn't happen for you you are 100% right and feeling the way that you feeling
    This is really unlike me not have the right words I wish I could give you comfort I wish I could hold on to you and tell you it's all good
    When I was fifteen and a half 16 years old I lost my virginity and I was pissed off because I thought I was going to see fireworks. The girl I was with is 19 she said it was great I thought it was terrible we had sex two more times the same thing happened I could not understand it she said why do you feel that way it was beautiful and I said no it wasn't you is no good I mean you were good but it wasn't no good.
    She was going to be at home for one more week and then she was going back to school to college
    Every day I would think about it why was it good how come I didn't see fireworks LOL
    She called me at 3 days before she had to leave and she said her mom is going to be out on Saturday and she had to leave on Monday she wanted me to come over I said okay
    We started to make out and I started doing something different I started to make it all about her I wanted to show her my thanks and gratitude for taking my virginity and allowing me to do this so I made it all about her
    When we were finished oh my God I saw fireworks and I learned a very valuable lesson when making love you have to make it all about the woman you have to make it all about her from start to finish and then afterwards
    That is when you know that you have done everything in your power to make her have an orgasm and you hold onto her tight after she has them
    So I don't know if that guy did that for you or not if you want to DM me go ahead please do

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  • This happens with a lot of girls and it's nothing to be ashamed of. It was just time for you to lose your virginity and unfortunately it happened in a particularly casual way. You should see a doctor and make sure you don't have any STDs, but other than that I think you should just chalk it up to a normal experience.

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  • First of all, don’t beat yourself up over it. We all make mistakes. There is no emotional connection when you have sex with a stranger. He didn’t know you were a virgin and probably assumed you were looking for a one night stand just like he was. Plus, having sex with someone you just met implies it’s a hookup, so I’m not surprised he read it that way and didn’t ask for your contact info. You’re absolutely worthy of a relationship and the love and respect that goes along with that. You just have to take your time and cultivate that. Date a guy for a while and build trust and an emotional bond. Then have sex with him. Makes sure he’s worthy of you before taking that step. Let him know you’re inexperienced when it happens so he knows to be gentle and patient with you. Some light bleeding the first couple of times you have sex is completely normal so don’t worry about that. It will go away. The soreness is because he was either too rough with you or you weren’t wet enough. You just need to go slow and engage in foreplay so you can build arousal and natural lubrication and not just go straight into sex. With experience, you’ll learn what you need to warm up. So chalk this whole incident up as a learning experience. You have a lot to offer a guy. You just need to slow down and choose the right guy.

    • exactly what she said

  • what you are going through is quite normal, though it didn't happen to me o my first time, mine was planned by me and executed by him, it was in a bath, him on his back and me lowering myself down, he held his hand under my bottom for support, I had control over when and how deep he should go
    little blood and none since

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  • It’s done. You can’t change the past. Beating yourself up over something you can’t change isn’t worth the energy. Take some time for you.

  • A slutty way to lose your virginity, that's why you feeling worthless now.

  • its because he used you, there were no real boundaries from the sound of it. he was selfish and you naïve- next time wait for the right person and right time to do anything. you may or may not spot in the future.

  • It's going to be ok almost every girl hurts and bleeds her first time. At least you didn't have your virginity matter so much in your head, I always daydreamed about my first and thought it was supposed to be so magical and special and just for the man I marry but my first boyfriend woke me up raping me! So it could be way worse. Guys will always use you for sex if you let them. That's why I make guys wait. So I know they really want more and so they don't lose respect because guys will think you're a whore and not girlfriend material

  • You made a dumb mistake. Now free your mind of it. Don't let it condemn you.

  • You brought this on yourself tho

  • I did the same thing and I regretted it. I got past it but I always thought that I should have done better.

  • Maybe you shouldn't have had one, then.

    • Now that's the truth.

  • He thought you only wanted a one night thing and he wanted that as well so no contact info. What is done is done and now you know that this isn't something you want again/in the future. Bleeding the first time is normal and foreplay can help you the next time.

  • Virginity isn't as big of a deal as this CULTure makes it seem.
    Just go out and have fun, you're still young

  • Happened is happened.. just try forgetting about it. And live a life full of positivity, happiness, smile., and much more.

  • Well yea you were a total slut. Don’t worry you were the only one. Just don’t say he raped you because you regret it.

    • Not funny. Been falsely accused of rape before. Did 18 months before being found innocent.

    • @blissinanarchy1 did they remove you from the sex offender registry? I’m guessing nothing happened to the girl.

    • @blissinanarchy1 well there is a thing called double jeopardy you can't be charged for the same

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  • Live, learn and move on. You will get over it.

  • What did you expect?

  • Hangovers are a mufucka

    • lol!!! Remember OUR One Nigher, Nancy? Cooool Breeeeze!!! lol!!! xxoo

  • Wow you're disgusting. Wtf is wrong with you?

  • U should go to doctor

  • Just suck cock and save the sex for men you love truly live unless your trying to have a baby you should suck cock

  • You might bleed again, but it will be less. And eventually you won't be sore after, unless he's really big. Sounds like a good first time so nothing to feel bad about

  • Oh darling if it helps my first time was awful too. To a guy that wasn't very interested and was a total jerk. This will pass and you will meet a person to enjoy your sexuality at different levels. I think most women do not have perfect first times. Also it will teach you to measure yourself and understand who really deserves you

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