Find I crave a lot of sex but don't get the oppurtunity to actually have any?

[Anonymous]

at least thats how its been lately , seem to crave a lot of sex. sometimes girls i follow on social media or seen in real life , mainly a couple specific girls from gym or servers at restaurants that i go to.

but i don't really get any oppurtunities to have sex as i'm not seeing anyone , and i don't really go to private parties or weddings places where it be more likely to actually pick up. i'm seeing them more in public places or there work and with covid hasn't been a lot to do here the last couple years although things seem to be returning to more of a normal

i'm not really good at getting #'s , i've rarely texted any of these girls , never sexted them and never had any of them send me nudes but seen sexy pictures of them on social media before so i know what they look like in a bikini most of the time

[TonyV]

Stop being weird, that will help.

Going straight to thinking about fucking any girl you see, or imagining them in bikinis when you to talk to them is creepy and desperate. You come off as thirsty as fuck and I can almost grunted they pick up on that.
You basically are scaring off both types of women, the women who want a relationship don't want a horny fuck only after sex, they want something real.

And the girls just trying to fuck don't want to fuck some guy acting weird who dosent get girls, they still want to play hard to get, probably go on some kind of date first, but there you are, pitching a tent, staring them up and down, literally, cause you admitted it, undressing them with your eyes, they know you'll bust in like 5 minutes, they don't want a rookie they want a pro, and you ain't acting pro.

My only hookup I went in with , ero expectations, ignored what I thought were signs, played dumb a little bit, didn't say any horny fuckboy shit. A random tinder girl I had added on snap asked to meet me at a bar, so we drank played some board games and talked, then outside in the smoke area she wanted to show me her bra, ok seems odd played it cool said it was a cool pattern didn't say any fuckboy shit like "I want to see what's underneath, then she asked me back to her place, again played it cool no fuckboy questions or assuming what we'd do. Got to fool around a little, nothing crazy except it was my first hookup or one night stand.

Point is they want a smooth operator not a horny pervert that only has sex on the mind.

[Asker]

i agree that i haven't been going about it right , part of the problem is i've always craved sex a lot so its hard to not come off as wanting sex when i encounter them. the weekend was brutal after i posted this question , Friday and Saturday night terrible. obsessed over this one girl i know who works at a restaurant and has actually talked to me at the gym before. and then on Saturday ran into a younger girl who works at another restaurant , she'd have been a great option when i was younger and she was wearing these tight yoga pants to drive me totally nuts. then today was kind of dull i went to the gym and like only saw 1 girl i found attractive and she already had a boyfriend

[Asker]

so not really sure what the solution or path forward is at this point , i pretty much always notice or check out girls , think it be virtually impossible to not notice them. and not sure how you get over the lack of experience at this point in life , when college and high school prom options are obviously long past. i still think there is girls at the gym that i'd have a chance with but you'd have to go about things much differently

[oldermale]

Same here, so usually end up masturbating and edging for hours lol

[DonkeyDan]

Sounds more like a statement than a question.

[Asker]

maybe but looking for suggestions as to what i could do about this , obviously open to trying something different

[DonkeyDan]

Have you tried tinder hookups?

[Asker]

not really , not a big city where i live so not really sure who or how many singles would be using those here , dating is more about who you know or social circle. not that i don't necessary know any girls just not really seeing them in the right places

[FilmGuy93]

Okay. I'm not sure what your question is here...

[In_Trance]

so what's your question?

[Asker]

guess i was looking for a solution to the problem

[xXxGLADIATORxXx]

Get a girl freind or hire a prostitue

[Asker]

there aren't really any prostitues here , isn't even a strip club , its like a rural area / small city but doesn't have that element. might be like 1 strip club an hour away and i doubt its that exciting. its like everyone here is married or seeing someone , i come across the odd single at gym but usually be much younger than me