Finding a demisexual guy?

cthom1243 Xper 3

Yes, seems men now want to jump in bed less then 24-48 hours before even getting to know a woman.. I’m a demisexual woman.. I don’t bed with men like this unless we’re exclusive and officially dating ( which a lot of men aren’t seeking ).. I looked into asexual / demisexual dating apps , but their limited..

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I can’t bed with a man that I don’t know personally and or have any emotional connection with..

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Sigh, may have to find a gay man to be friends with / can’t be friends with men it never works out.. I don’t think about sex like this freely

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genericname85 Master
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you don't need a demisexual guy. if you are "demisexual", all you need is a man that establishes a good emotional connection with you. that's what happens in every normal relationship. so just go for a normal straight dude.
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- cthom1243
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  I need a Demisexual guy being friends with straight men never works out.. ever.. sex has to be involved and it’s getting on my nerves
- cthom1243
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  It never works out sadly
- genericname85
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  wtf? i have never sex with girls i'm friends with. if they wanna have sex with you, they simply don't wanna be your "friend".
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- cthom1243
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  I don’t do friends with benefits not what friendship is
- genericname85
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  dude... what? i just said that i never have sex with girls i'm friends with xD what does friends with benefits have to do with that? i don't get it.
- cthom1243
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  This is why o don’t want to be friends with men
- cthom1243
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  I “ I just said I don’t do friends with benefits never said anything about you
- genericname85
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  ok. you don't do friends with benefits. how does that fact have to do with anything we were talking about? i just don't get it.
- cthom1243
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  Aren’t you responding to me?
- genericname85
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  yes. i do not understand why you think that "not wanting to have sex with a random person within the first 48 horus of meeting" makes you demisexual XD that's just completely normal. guys who look for sex like that are just not normal. and i do not understand how "friends with benefits" has anything to do with finding a partner that you may like. as you stated, you do want sex. and you wish to first get to now them and be officially dating. that's not demi sexual xD
- cthom1243
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  I’m a Demisexual in general and been this way all my life ( I’m currently in celibacy and haven’t had sex with a man in years ) .. I don’t open my legs for every man I meet or see
- cthom1243
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  It is Demisexual clearly you don’t know the proper definition of what a Demisexual is - I won’t be physical with a guy , kiss him, hold hands, or get close unless there’s an emotional connection built
- genericname85
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  " I don’t open my legs for every man I meet or see" that's again a statement that makes me go "wtf is she saying?". like what are you trying to convey to me? it's completely normal to not just fuck ervery person you meet. that's not a special thing that only you have xD i don't fuck every girl i meet. i don't even fuck every giurl that i find sexually attractive. that doesn't make me demisexual does it? i just don't get by what specific thing you determine to be demisexual. cause oall the things you said about yourself just seem completely normal.
- cthom1243
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  Just stop responding to me it’s stupid responding to you
- genericname85
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  "I won’t be physical with a guy , kiss him, hold hands, or get close unless there’s an emotional connection built" that's not demi sexual. the vast majority of people don't do that with people that they have no emotional connection with xD
- genericname85
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  well i'm sorry. but if you're saying that: getting to know someone first and having an emotional bond before you decide to kiss, hold hands or have sex is "demisexual", then sorry. that's bs. that's just being normal. cause that's what most people that have a normal heterosexual relationship did to have said relationship.
- cthom1243
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  You need to research what a Demisexual is and asexual I don’t need you to tell me about my sexuality and who I am.. I’m a part of the LGTBQ community
- cthom1243
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  I’m not even heterosexual either
- cthom1243
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  I don’t know what straight people do / you don’t have to be straight to be considered asexual or Demisexual - you can also be bisexual , gay , lesbian, or poly
- genericname85
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  ok. weird question: who's the most sexually attractive male celeb to you?
- cthom1243
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  I’m not sexually attracted to men
- genericname85
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  who's the most sexually attractive female celeb then?
- cthom1243
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  That’s not how that works I don’t have any sexual attraction towards any gender. That only happens after an emotional bond has developed
- genericname85
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  well that is an interesting answer. because 1: why didn't you give me that answer when i asked which the most sexually attractive male acteur was? why did you explicitly deny that you're sexually interested in "men" particularly, when really you can't be interested in any gender before an "emotional bond has formed? does that not strike you as a bit weird? and secondly: what exactly is that "emotional bond"? like can you elaborate on that concept a bit?
- cthom1243
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  It gets interesting and deep with me what are you digging for?
- cthom1243
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  Lol..

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Kaneki05 Master
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There are Non-demisexual guys who would take it slow and bond that connection. Even if it took months i would be good with that.
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- cthom1243
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  No their too busy trying to get in bed with every woman they meet.. I have to be go back to friendships with gay or asexual men
- cthom1243
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  Half of the time I’m not seeking a relationship I’m ok with friendship with men too
- Kaneki05
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  Welp that's a narrow view. But if that's the view you take then do it. Go back to friendships with gay and asexual men. And it's not hard to be friends with a man.
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- cthom1243
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  It is most men don’t know how to stop stop sexualizing every woman they meet. I’ve turned down over 20 men these last few months wasn’t interested in friends , but if I dropped my panties they would be ok with that.. I don’t look for relationships from men , but I try and socialize with all genders. Today I turned down 2 guys both wanted sex and one showed me his dick.. he said would masturbate to my online dating profile which there is one that’s clean and not disrespectful.. so yes I have a safer chance of not getting raped or sexual assaulted with how most men men are and over sexualized
- cthom1243
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  Now I have to delete my profile dating pic for my own safety
- Kaneki05
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  Dunno what men your meeting but that's not normal men lmao. Yes it's true we have sexual thoughts quite a bit but pretty much any guy with a sense of respect or common sense don't mention such thoughts if the woman don't want it least of all just show are dick.
- cthom1243
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  I’m not meeting these guys anywhere.. quiet frankly I’m aware their not normal thus why I’m ok meeting gay or asexual men now for friendship. I don’t entertain these types of guys nor do we meet.. they get the boot
- Kaneki05
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  So only gay and asexual men are normal?
- cthom1243
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  Yes asexual men don’t think about sex with women they have no to limit sex drive towards women at all and gay men are only attracted to other men
- cthom1243
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  If I’m seeking strictly platonic friendship I may have a better chance of being friends with asexual or Demisexual men possibly now even virgins despite I’m not one
- Kaneki05
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  Like i said narrow view. Just don't complain about it effecting your life when you choose to have that view.
- cthom1243
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  Not complaining about anything trying to find dating apps or apps for asexual or Demisexual people now
- Kaneki05
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  Then why this question?
- cthom1243
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  To connect with other asexual and Demisexual people who can relate and how we can find each other
- Kaneki05
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  I see so your looking for a guy on here. Hopefully you have good luck with that.
- cthom1243
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  No to find such people for pointed where to find these men at

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kqueen Xper 5
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the nature of demisexuality would make it pretty pointless to make a dating app for it
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- cthom1243
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  There are people who identify themselves
- cthom1243
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  Regardless if the app isn’t solely
- kqueen
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  yes i know there are people who identify themselves as demisexual lol. I meant because the nature of demisexuality means that a demisexual man would not be attracted to someone because of their picture, and could only be attracted to someone once there was a strong emotional connection. I mean it could work but it'd be more appropriate to call it a friend finding app
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- cthom1243
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  Right It’s complicated I know tried to explain this process to a guy down below I can’t lecture this
- kqueen
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  you could also just go find an app strictly for making friends, rather than a dating app. Since functionally it would be the same thing
- cthom1243
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  I’m trying
- cthom1243
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  I made it known friends and networking lol I’m a rare woman
- kqueen
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  how so?

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OlderAndWiser Editor
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Which dating sites have you used?
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- cthom1243
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  Why does it matter I don’t use dating apps to men for relationships. I use them for friendship and networking/ I don’t online date
- OlderAndWiser
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  "I looked into asexual / demisexual dating apps , but their limited.." That's why I thought you used dating sites. And if you do, perhaps you are just using the wrong ones.
- cthom1243
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  I’m still trying to find these apps.. I let it be known on the two I’m on I’m Demisexual/ asexual
ChubbyKing Xper 5
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Up your worth. It's an indication that you're only attracting desperate dudes, or dudes who don't see you as valuable enough to commit to. Either way if that's all you're capable of finding you kinda gotta start taking an introspective look at your dating life
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- cthom1243
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  I don't know what the hell your talking about
- ChubbyKing
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  In other words, the good men don't want to be with you. Not that they don't exist like you seem to think, but they don't want you
joeldalton Master
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Head to Narnia.
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- cthom1243
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  I wish
shortster Master
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Look for a guy waiting for marriage?
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- cthom1243
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  No I don’t know if I want marriage in this current climate and the vast majority of men not seeking marriage to begin with.. it’s not about even looking for a guy willing to wait until marriage it’s about friendship and socializing.. this confirms men and women can’t have strictly platonic friendships with straight heterosexual men
- cthom1243
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  I’m not seeking a friendship
- cthom1243
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  Not anymore with men or a relationship
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- shortster
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  You're not looking for a friendship or a relationship with men? Then why are you looking for a demisexual guy?
- cthom1243
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  Because I’m an ace woman or Demisexual cusp of asexual and a lot of Demisexual men aren’t seeking sexual relationships with women
- cthom1243
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  Demisexual and asexual men aren’t straight men
- cthom1243
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  Their a break off of the LGTBQ community
- cthom1243
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  Under the rainbow
- shortster
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  They can be
- shortster
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  The rainbow is a Christian symbol for the covenant between God and man.
- cthom1243
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  Ok I don’t judge
- shortster
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  I try not to either
- cthom1243
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  Just letting you know the spectrum
- shortster
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  I am pretty familiar with it.
- cthom1243
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  Ok I’m not straight and I’m not lesbian I’m a complex woman lol
- cthom1243
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  No one can understand me
- shortster
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  Well not if you don't let them.
- cthom1243
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  They just can’t it’s deep with me
- cthom1243
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  Takes a certain guy
- shortster
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  Are you the smartest person to ever live? Do you understand yourself? If you answered no to the first question and yes to the second one; then their is someone out there who can understand you.
- cthom1243
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  I’m a spiritual woman and need a spiritual man - frequency and vibration is everything conferring to my soulmate
- cthom1243
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  Not every guy is meant for the journey
- cthom1243
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  The it and the one fits me
- shortster
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  But that doesn't mean that there isn't a guy who is ready, willing, and able to take that journey. You just need to open yourself up to the possibility of it and keep your eyes out for him.
- cthom1243
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  I want someone I connect with on a deeper level and I’m open he’s coming soon I wish he appear so this feeling can stop
- cthom1243
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  Would prefer if he was a Demisexual
- shortster
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  Okay, well I wish you luck with your endeavor.
- cthom1243
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  Thanks
- shortster
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  You're welcome
Rudon00 Yoda
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I'm demisexual. cannot kiss, hold hands or have sex with someone unless I have an emotional bond with them.
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- cthom1243
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  How I feel and these losers just won’t stop - I find I’m better with asexual or gay men
- Rudon00
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  Lolol I hear ya cthom1243. I do love sex. but it got to be with the person I have an emotional bond with. as well as sexting.
- cthom1243
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  Yes my safety is more important then these guys want you to come to their houses for sex / that’s a trap
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- Rudon00
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  I'm glad to know you value yourself cthom1243. and do not compromise your worth to fit in with the crowd what everyone is doing these days. Im still a virgin because of such beliefs I hold dare. And i m not giving my virginity to just anyone
- cthom1243
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  How I feel when it comes to sex too
- cthom1243
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  In celibacy
- cthom1243
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  I’m glad you understand it’s rare to find Demisexual and asexual people
- Rudon00
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  Yes it is. Are you a virgin too? What influence your beliefs to become a demisexual cthom1243?
- cthom1243
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  Always been this way no in celibacy
- Rudon00
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  Okay Are you currently single?
- cthom1243
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  Yep..
- Rudon00
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  Yeah me too. Such is always the case