Fingers technique advice?

so this is my 4th girl to ask me to enhance my fingering actions, she said she enjoyed fingering more than intercourse , so do you have any idea?
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  • It's harder to answer that request that one would think... Though the anatomy is the same between women, there are small variations, so even when you get a decent hang of fingering, you will sometimes find that you need to explore a little to find out what works for a particular woman.
    My very best advice is: Communicate. Get her to tell or show you what works for her and where to touch her.

    Second most important advice: Learn to locate the G-spot.
    Some people will tell you it doesn't exist. Every woman I've been with disagrees.
    If you read on the internet, you will find uncountable sources telling you to put your 3rd finger inside the vagina until the 2nd joint and bend your finger to do a "come hither" motion rubbing the front wall (towards her belly). This is a good starting point, but the G-spot is no spot. There's not always something to feel, and it's not always where it's "supposed to be". Sometimes it's further in or closer to the opening. Sometimes it more to one side or the other. So explore her and pay attention to her reactions or have her tell you where it is (if she knows her body) or tell you when she feels a different, more pleasurable feeling. Furthermore, it's an area rather than a spot. So don't get too hooked on one place. There's is vagina that wants to be touched around the point you've found.
    I've found that often the G-spot needs to be "switched on" by getting the woman very aroused (it will also be pleasurable with regular arousal, but when highly aroused, you can do magic). Then you will likely be able to feel the G-spot as a "rough" area. Sounds strange, but trust me, once you've felt that once, you will always be able to recognise an aroused G-spot.
    Now, just find the pace that works for your partner and keep that pace while stimulating the G-spot. But don't just rub back and forth. Apply some pressure against the area. Some women like a light pressure, some can take a lot of pressure. Also, try rubbing in circles rather than back and forth. If she is one of those who likes A LOT of pressure, try pushing the palm of your other hand against her belly.

    I think that's it for the G-spot. I don't know how many words I'm allowed to put in one reply, so I'll continue in the replies.

    • The clitoris is much simpler. You'll find it at the angle of the vulva closest to the belly. It varies in size, and on some women it easy to see and/or feel, but on others it tiny and can be tricky to put your finger on (again, pun intended). But some women don't like too direct stimulation of the clitoris (it can be very intense for some), and if that's the case, touch a little to one side or above. I've only met one girl who wanted a single finger on her clitoris. My experience tells me to rub 2 or 3 fingers over it, making sure that you're not just dragging it back and forth, but that your fingers are actually moving across. Sometimes the clit is "lively" and not as fixed in position. That's just something you'll have to find out how to handle. My preferred approach is to switch between sideways and circular rubbing on the clit. Sometimes I'll push semi-hard against it while dragging it upwards and letting it slip past my fingers (almost like a flicking past my fingers). Some women even like it when you spank the clit (gently or not so gently)... But that's far from everybody's cup of tea. Another suggestion is to hold the clit between two fingers (2nd+3rd or 3rd+4th) and drag it up and down. I find that while the G-spot responds best to consistency, the clit prefers variation, so I make sure to switch up the pace and the technique every now and then. But once orgasm approaches, I've found that it's best to go with consistency if you want to make her orgasm (perhaps keeping the pace and technique and just increasing pressure). But if you want to drag out the pleasure, take her close to orgasm and switch technique at a similar pace (perhaps lightening the pressure a little) and repeat as long as you or she wants. If you want to tease her, rather than keep her surfing on the pleasure, reduce the pace as she gets close to orgasm, but don't stop completely and build back up. Those are some of the things I've learned so far, and it works for me.

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  • Lick her clit and finger her simultaneously

  • Ask her what she prefers.