First time having sex and he didn't cum?

So I recently lost my virginity to a guy that I kinda have a thing with ,(he's not a virgin,) but the first time we had sex we went for probably about 35-40 mins and I was kinda starting to hurt and get tired so he asked if I wanted to take a break. So we stopped. Because we stopped he didn't cum. I feel super bad , like why wasn't I enough for him to cum and just want to know if him not cuming is probably going to bother him a lot. and make him not want to return and do stuff with me again 🙃
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I was in a similar situation, lost my virginity to a guy who wasn't a virgin and he didn't come because I was starting to hurt and had to stop him. I later learned that he in general just takes a really long time to orgasm (so sometimes even now I have to tap out because I start getting sore and just finish him with a bj). He likely still enjoyed the experience even if he didn't orgasm, it's like sometimes I have sex and I'm not orgasming but it feels nice and I like it, it's about the journey not the destination.

    • Yeah, he told me he takes a really long time. Thank you this made me feel quite a bit better 😊

  • my friends with benefits can't cum either!! he told me i was the best he ever had and he's obsessed with having sex with me so i know i'm not doing anything wrong but he just doesn't really cum, whenever we have sex, it's always just precum or he just comes when he fucks himself

  • Some guys need as much or more foreplay than we do. They may also need to have another form of sex in order to cum and/or orgasm. Such as oral sex (yum, yum!) or anal sex (ouch!). Sex is also very mental, so positive eager encouragement and extreme enthusiasm is also helpful.

Most Helpful Guys

  • He was probably nervous and worried about you and how you wee feeling. Try it again (with condoms of course) and take it slower and use tons of foreplay. Just enjoy being naked with each other. Maybe he jerked off before sex or earlier that day (yes all young guys jerk off but will never admit it) If he still has issues then give him a good handjob he will love it.

  • I think that's fair enough really. It's never been a problem for me but I've had girlfriends tell me that they've asked exes if they were gonna finish soon or not coz it was boring lol

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  • Not uncommon at all, some guys take forever. If that happens and I get sore I usually give them head to finish them off.

  • it could mean a lot of things. from personal experience, it means he's not that into you.

  • 35-40 minutes before you, a VIRGIN, started to get sore? Not buying it.

  • Tbh sometimes it happens I'm 3 years into a relationship and sometimes I don't. It also depends on him whether he's distracted or not

  • when a guy has a lot of experience he can control when he cums. you should have picked someone less of a slut lol

  • If he was using a condom, that could be it.

  • I wouldn't worry about it, its not uncommon and you just lost your virginity. So its kind of expected for your situation and im sure he understands that.