First time having sex with a new partner, do you want to have vanilla sex or try every kink in your book?

First time having sex with a new partner, do you want to have vanilla sex or try every kink in your book?
Your first time with a new partner, does shyness or inhibitions make you keep it very simple and basic or do you go for it and engage in a sexual decathlon where anything goes?
I've never had a partner in a relationship
Vote A
I've dated but never had sex
Vote B
My first time, I want it plain and simple, like a little foreplay, fondling, fingering, and then missionary
Vote C
My first time, I want it sorta simple, like a little foreplay, fondling, fingering, and then missionary or doggy style
Vote D
My first time, I want more than the minimum. I want foreplay, etc, but also oral, 69, and then maybe cowgirl or reverse cowgirl
Vote E
My frst time, I don't want plain and simple. Give me oral, 69, and anal sex
Vote F
My first time, anything goes. Tie me up, spank me, roleplay, anal sex, BDSM, whatever my partner wants.
Vote G
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I usually like lots of foreplay that first time. Lots of kissing and caressing. Exploring and stimulating each other's erogenous parts with fingers, hands, tongues and lips until we are are insane with desire and aching to FUCK. Then energetic sex in various positions. None of that tender, lovey dovey, gazing into each other's eyes, missionary kind of sex. Not that there's anything wrong with missionary or that it can't be in the mix. But hopefully she is the type who loves the thrill of a good fucking.

    I wouldn't call that vanilla. But I wouldn't go for anything too unusual the first time.

  • New partner as in ONS? Simple foreplay around 20-30 mins, will definitely touch her ass, thighs, boobs and most other parts of her body. Position will be doggy unless she’s a really good looking girl or has big boobs. I will insert hard into her and thrust fairly fast and hard, some deep penetration but mostly mid depth penetration.

    A date or girlfriend? Foreplay will include a full body massage and lots more touching, last longer than an hour. Position will be missionary only. I won’t insert hard into her but more gently so my bigger sized one doesn’t hurt her too much.

Most Helpful Girl

  • I’d stay a bit more on the vanilla side for the first couple of times. I’ll give him oral but I don’t like getting oral until I’m fully comfortable with him and only if we’re already dating. Any position goes tho, I also don’t do anal unless we’re dating. Then after getting to know their kinks and all, I’m usually down to try anything.

    • wait , why not anal?

    • @Light_beam I reserve anal only for when I’m in a relationship with the guy

    • Yes... whyyy?

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  • First time is always sort of simple... lots of exploring to get to know each other

  • It might be better to try everything, if you can, because you might never get the chance with that5 person,. again.

  • I like the idea of being wild and trying everything with a new partner.

    • If that doesn't scare her away, she's a keeper, right?

    • Depends, but yes it is part of being a keeper in my opinion.

  • From what I remember I used to spend a lot of time getting to know her body. Lots of foreplay and then we would have sex, either missionary or cowgirl.

  • Just focus on making her cum...

  • vanilla. basics first. what good is knowing that the freakish exotic stuff works, if you don't know if the basics work?

  • Yeah, the last woman I had sex with it was on the first night we met. We did 5 different positions.

  • When my first time comes, I’ll want it to be traditional. I think it would make it more special and romantic. After that we can start experimenting as much as she wants.

  • It depends on her favorite positions. If she's a virgin I prefer cowgirl, because it let's her control how deep I am.

  • I just met a new partner I’ve never been pegged so hard and deep by a woman she said she never did it before and it showed because she was not gentle my butthole was sore for days

  • I voted E but I’d really want to do doggystyle specifically

  • Start of vanilla and as your get into get more kinky when horny people are more open minded and if they don’t like what you propose be respectful and leave it be

  • Never had any experience yet 😂

  • Depends on the partner.

  • Id go vanilla the first few times.