Guys, For all the men out there who have a female bestfriend and have slept with them is the experience or sex different from sex with a random girl?

I know that men don’t usually associate sex with feelings I understand that but the reason why I ask this question is because I sleep with my guy bestfriend on occasion and I’ve always wondered if it’s more comfortable for him or if he feels safer vulnerability wise so I wanted to ask what runs through your boy brains when you sleep with your female bestfriend compared to a total stranger

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  • 1. A "random" girl would be a girl selected by someone else, using a method of random selection that gives every girl on the planet an equal chance of being selected. I don't know ANYONE who has ever had sex with a "random" girl. Sorry, but the misuse of the word "random" is a pet peeve for me.

    2. "I know that men don’t usually associate sex with feelings I understand that" Apparently, you don't. SOME younger guys are like that but, for most guys, having sex with a girl makes them feel closer. You are simply repeating a stereotype about guys.

    3. "I ask this question because I sleep with my guy bestfriend on occasion" And all you do is sleep? Why are you just avoiding saying tha you have sex with him?

    4. "I’ve always wondered if it’s more comfortable for him or if he feels safer vulnerability wise" Yes, most guys have vulnerabilities and insecurities and those guys probably do feel better being with someone they know and trust.

    5. "so I wanted to ask what runs through your boy brains when you sleep with your female bestfriend compared to a total stranger" I can't speak for boys because it's been 52 years since I was a boy, but for an adult male, if you are his friend and the sex is satisfying, he probably wants this to become a LTR and not just friends with benefits.

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  • With a female best friend is absolutely better.

    With a random girl it's just sex. It's just lust for the purpose of cumming, but you don't care about each other. You are just using each other.

    But with a best friend, it's lust combined with genuine caring. There is a connection. It's more intimate. You care about each other and want to please each other, not just cum for your own sake.
    When I'm in that situation, I am more focused on her pleasure. And I feel closer to her as a friend.

    • That makes a lot of sense! I definitely feel closer to my guy bestfriend but he doesn’t like to talk about it or bring it up very often but I do notice that when we do have sex it feels very caring and connected

    • I genuinely believed that only females thought this like the whole feeling more comfortable, vulnerable, more of a closer bond but I have always wondered if he sees it the same way and I do know that every guy is different but I do think that no matter what you can’t not feel more connected if you are having sex with a bestfriend

    • I can't speak for other guys, but that's how I feel, too. That's why I always preferred having a steady girlfriend instead of just hooking up. I liked having a female best friend to hang out, go places and do things together, and have conversations. We could hold hands, walk with our arms around each other and be tender. I could be more genuine with them than I could with my bros. And the sex was really special.

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  • I had a female friend who I could talk about anything with. One time after we both got out of bed relationships we had sex with each other. It was kind of revenge to our bad breakups. I looked at her after and said see what their missing. I think it helped us get over our breakups. That was the only time we had sex and we remained friends.

  • I like having that type of relationship with my neighbor friend. It's more comfortable and we explore so many other things easily.

  • I have never done this, but I wanted to come in and answer anyway because you have good point system on this question

  • You feel safer and more comfortable around her. It definitely nice to get that connection and feel that close.

  • It’s a lot better because then we can be more relaxed and still have a good time rather than trying to make sure everything is perfect and goes right. I still sleep with my female friend on occasion and yes my wife knows about it.

    • Haha that’s awesome that you have a relationship where your wife is ok with that and thank you for the response! That makes a lot of sense about it being better and more relaxed

    • Yeah ask long as my friend remains on BC I can cum in her too and my wife is ok with that but. It’s ok my wife fucks he EX boyfriend from time to time that’s a different story if you wanna know about it DM me

  • ofc it is more soulbounding then anything