Found a condom in my boyfriends jacket, is he cheating on me?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been on birth control for a year now, so we NEVER use condoms. I can’t remember the last time we used one.

so there’s no reason why he should have one unless he’s having sex with other people?

[worldscolide]

I love every one saying "yes he must be cheating" and jumping to that conclusion with out even having a conversation with him about it.. how stupid can you be..

I've been in this situation before.. my wife found a condom in one of my jackets. I haven't worn the jacket in a very long time, wife asked me about it, I explained to her that I use to carry a condom with me at all times before I got with her, and even during some of our time together because she wasn't on birth control until we got married.. so um rather than listening to the idiots here who say "yup he is definitely cheating" ask him about it first. Maybe there is a reasonable explenation..

Smh...

[worldscolide]

If you can't grow a pair and ask him about it and do this nifty little thing we call communication, than perhaps you aren't mature enough to be in a relationship to begin with..

[Asker]

I will ask him about later when I’m out of work

[worldscolide]

Good. Start there. If he is evasive or can't look at you, you have your answer..

[AustinMan]

How often do you snoop, rifling your boyfriend's jacket pockets?

[Asker]

He told me to go in his jacket to get his money. So stop jumping to conclusions

[AustinMan]

Well played. So you have no idea how long it's been there. I know in my jacket, things get under my gloves and live there for years. I'm thinking this is a similar situation.

[Asker]

He wears this jacket almost everyday so I think he just got it

[AustinMan]

I wear my jacket a lot too so I'm not sure that's conclusive. Talk to him about it but I'd strongly suggest that you be calm, direct, and matter of fact when you do it. No emotion, yelling, or tears.

[AustinMan]

I also strongly suggest you talk to him about it in person. If you know you're not going to believe him, then either let it go or just dump him.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Lol, I love these people defending him when she said the jacket is not that old, and she was off condoms and on birth control BEFORE he received the jacket! Smh.

His only defense would be he's maybe, "holding it for someone..." 😆 I mean that's plausible... right? 🙄

Just confront him on it but not over the phone! In person so you can see his facial expression and reaction. See what he says and then judge accordingly. And remember, if what he says doesn't sound right or you still feel like something's off, it probably is! Go with your intuition.

[Anonymous]

This is heart breaking. I would never be able to trust him after that so I would throw this whole relationship away

[Paris13]

I smell a Rat... THAT:((xxoo

[summiter]

You will just have to ask him and hope for the best

[wankiam]

have you confronted him about it?

[wankiam]

@update its certainly more a question of how much you can trust him. his story may be true but are you willing to accept it if he has a plausable reason for its presence

[boggboss]

At best speak to him on the matter I know I have a few and on occation have dripped them off to my brother

[boggboss]

So u are willing to just assume he is cheating and end it there over seeing what he says

[Asker]

I said I will talk to him. I’m just saying, it’s not like he’s gonna be like “yeah I’m cheating on you. Sorry haha”

[OvershareGamer]

Unless a friend put it there to screw with him.

[pooper89]

Confront him about it and gauge his reaction

[ItalianGuy2020]

100% he is

[genericname85]

If you don't trust them, leave them and don't Snoop through their shit

[Asker]

Nobody was snooping. He asked me to get his wallet from his jacket.

[genericname85]

What's wrong with having condoms anyway?

[Asker]

Are you trolling lol

[buttcrackjoe]

Look ma’lady how old is the jacket? I’ve found shit in my jacket pockets that were many years old.

[buttcrackjoe]

CMON peeps give the guy the benefit of the doubt, you havnt been dating forever I presume some guys like to go out prepared it has probably been in there for some time prior to the relationship?

[Asker]

It’s a newer jacket, he wears it almost every day

[buttcrackjoe]

Did he get it used like at a thrift store and how old is newer? Did you get it when you were together? Have you guys EVER used condoms?

[Asker]

I bought it for him for Christmas. And we used to use condoms at the beginning of our relationship. But the condom isn’t old. It’s brand new and it’s not a brand we’ve ever used before

[buttcrackjoe]

Does it have a manufacturing or batch date? Condoms last a long time and can appear new. Maybe he was holding it for a friend at a club? Pls tell us what happens when you ask later 😃

[ROCKS128]

Lady.
You talk to him about it.
And figure out some sense first.

Doubting your partner and asking others about him on his back, is not healthy for any relationship.

[Asker]

I was just asking a question.

[ROCKS128]

Ya, but your thoughts will change you...

[skittles2017]

He might be. That's what he's showing like

[HereIbe]

BOING! He's fucking someone else--or spreading his ass for someone else.

[Joker_]

He's cheating on you

[Anonymous]

Either there's a REALLY funny story about that condom, or yes, he's screwing you over. You have every right to question him about it. He's your boyfriend, not your roommate.

Regardless of what he says, keep an eye out. Working late a lot? Hanging out with the guys really often? Disappearing and not answering calls/texts?

I found out my girlfriend was cheating super quickly just by using a gps which showed me exactly where she was sneaking off to. Something to think about.

[Anonymous]

Probably doesn't apply to YOUR situation. But, years ago, I was dating a woman and I bought some special condoms that had knobs on them and stuff that was supposed to be real stimulating to the woman. I had every intent of using them with HER. She saw them and freaked out because I hadn't told her about them first. I think she assumed I bought them to use on someone else, and that was it for the girlfriend...

[Anonymous]

Mostly like yes. Especially if you 2 never use condoms!!!

[Anonymous]

Yeah, most likely.