Found Condoms on boyfriends jacket?

I was hugging my boyfriend and I put my hands on his pockets and felt there was a condom there but I ignored it so he took it out and I asked him why he had these since we never use condoms. He said it was an old condom and I asked him to show it to me and it had expiration date 2023. Are they new? I heard condoms have expiation date to 5 years but I’m not sure if he just bought them? We used condoms last year but not anymore since I’m on IUD. I think he’s wearing an old jacket I’m not sure, also he is not the cheating type and he loves me. He told me they were old and He got really mad when I asked him if he’s sleeping with someone else, threw it and broke an item in my apartment and left saying “you don’t trust me”. What should I do?
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  • You're aware you're overeating to a condom, right?

    I don't use condoms or matches, but always have both and more on me for that macgyver spirit all IT and engineering hearts have.

    Sure, you need to keep an eye open. But don't make a scene you can't draw back from if there is nothing there. Get busy and clever to spot him. Talking and false accusations will get you nowhere.

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  • Condoms typically expire 5 years after the manufacture date, so its impossible to know exactly when he bought the condom. If there is no other reason for you to believe he’s cheating, then I’d calm down and accept his explanation. You remember the jacket from last year and you used condoms during that time, so he could be telling the truth. I believe in giving people the benefit of the doubt until I’m reasonably sure they’re lying to me. His response was immature and troubling though. I’d watch out if he has anger issues.

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  • Meh. I get your concern but I also get his reaction. He shouldn't have broken something in your apartment, but you were pressing the issue (which is totally understandable that you would press the issue).

    Male condoms last between 3 and 5 years. You think he's wearing an old jacket, and said you guys stopped using condoms last year. It sounds like he probably just forgot it was in there. If you don't doubt that he loves you, just give him a few days to cool off and then apologize.

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  • You have many trust issues? Let it go.

  • Would you rather he had child support pay stubs in his pocket instead? He is f-n around or on the prowl; that is that.

  • Different brands have different expirations. It sounds like he was upset but if he did not have anything to hide why get mad.
    How is your sex life with him? Did you recognize the brand of condom as one you two used when you used condoms?

  • Don't give validation to the saying
    girls can be naive and stupid. dump
    his lying ass or deal with the real
    consequences that will follow.

  • He might be a part time sex clown who blows them up as balloons. Ask him about it.

  • He might of just had them in his jacket from last year when you both were using condoms , I think if he was cheating on you he wouldn’t of pulled them out of his jacket pockets and showed you he would of got nervous and changed the subject so more than likely he is telling
    You the truth , I always find stuff in my jacket pockets that I haven’t worn in a year and think damn I forgot I had this lol

  • whatever the case maybe he should not throw items and go into a frenzy if he got nothing to hide

    this type of behaviour is only displayed by people who know their lie and deception is exposed

    • if my girlfriend found condoms in my pocket , even I would know it looks suspicious

  • If You don't use condoms then there isn't a point for Him to carry a condom around is there?

  • could be a left over from when you still used them. chance he forgot it was there if he doesn't wear that coat often.

    then again the ladder does seem possible also.

    do you recall the brand and packaging of the ones you used long ago? average shelf life of one is 4 or 5 years. depending on brand and material it is made out of.

  • wow he reacted way too aggressively to that, like guilty almost, I would say that's a red flag and keep an eye on that guy.

    doesn't mean he used them or anything and they can be old, it's just I think it's suspicious the way he reacted.

  • You don't wear a jacket all year so it's plausible. It's not like I always throw away every condom I have in every place if we start having condomless sex regularly.

  • Do you guys fuck without condoms?

    • We used condoms last year the last time and now I’ve got a IUD so we don’t need one

    • Did you ask him about it?

  • He's lying and likely cheating. Condoms do have a 5 year expiration date, but he doesn't need one since you use an IUD.

    • We used the condoms he showed me last year the last time

    • Yeah, but why would their still be in his jacket a year later?

    • You’re right but also I remember last time had the jacket was last year

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  • Condoms don't expire quickly. It could be an old one.

  • He fucked a whore

  • Sounds unsafe to be with if he got that mad

  • He might have cheated

  • I do use condoms if my girlfriend is on birth control, if she is a away and I need to play it makes less mess on the bed sheets but the percentage of men do that is very small.

    • Also I would be carful for you safety as well

    • I might add play with myself.

  • I guess you both have to sit together and sort this out. If you both trust each other to the level that you guys dont use protection, then these misunderstandings are immature.
    In my opinion, you could have confronted him after a while.
    And for him, he shouldn't react in that way.

    So both of you sort it out.

  • Seeing as you can't be sure about the condom date and have no other reason to be worried it seems unwise to destroy your relationship over this.

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