Found out my boyfriend has given other women oral but not me?

I've been with my boyfriend over a decade. And during that time we've had plenty of sex. But one thing we've never done was him give me oral. I was cool with it cause I'm like he's not into giving that's fine. But I recently found out no he does give oral (well has) just never with me. And it's making me feel shitty badly, but he keeps saying if I want it he'll do it. That course it's his pussy (he talk like that sorry) so yeah he wants to. My thing is we've been together this long and you never did it or offered... so what's wrong with me that you'd give other women (including one night stands or girls in threesomes) oral but not the girl you've known for this long?

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  • That stings! Here's the thing, "very nice" can be a compliment, but it can also feel impersonal. Maybe he's shy or not great at expressing himself. The best way to find out is to talk to him directly. Tell him you were hurt to learn about the oral sex and you'd love to understand why it hasn't happened between you two. Open communication is key in any relationship!

    • Oh he's definitely not shy at all I'm the shy one. And he knows I'm hurt about it. He keeps saying he wants to go down on me I just gotta figure out of I'm scared about it or not. But I'm scared cause for twelve years I assumed he didn't want to. Just to find out he does it. So now I feel gross like something is wrong with me that he never wanted to with me

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  • Sounds to me like the other girls asked for it tbh, or he knew they were into it, you never showed interest in it so he probably assumes you weren't into it, don't be shy and admit you want oral and let him do it, then you can forget about being left out or whatnot

  • Maybe he doesn't like doing it? No different from a woman who stops giving bj after marriage..

    • I give him oral almost everyday so. And he says he does like doing. Which is why it hurt my feelings cause if you like it then why haven't you done it for me? I never asked cause I assumed when he never tried he wasn't into it, and I was okay with that. But knowing he's done it plenty of times (he was a slut to put it nicely) so he's gone down on tons of girls. Just not me, the one he's been with for this long

    • Of course he likes getting a BJ, but he might not like giving oral. Some women don't like giving BJs but they do it anyway when they where young and stopped doing it after marriage. It could be that's his situation, he did it before but never liked doing it, so that's why he stopped

    • Yet he did it for tons of girls? But not the one he wants to marry?

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  • I think you didn't done your work well to convince him to give you oral. You must do 69 style with nice fragrance and sweet on your private part to attract him to suck and lick... you must ask from other women what does her private part having which make your man to give her oral...

    • Ew no I'm not asking girls he slept with a decade ago about my man going down on them. That's disgusting

  • thats such a asshole behaviour, how could you taking it easily?

    • Take what so easily? That he didn't go down on me before?

    • yes, he never did why you taken it easy?

    • Because I just assumed he wasn't into it so I never asked because it wasn't something I needed sexually

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