Found out my significant other lost their virginity at 8/9, how do I get over this?

[Anonymous]

So I’m pregnant, and my husband randomly divulged to me that he had a girlfriend in 3rd grade that he did sexual stuff with. He mentioned a few explicit things but then tried to retract and act like it was innocent and just 2 clueless kids exploring their bodies. I am mortified. He then said he didn’t technically lose his virginity until he was 21 and doesn’t feel weird about that whole experience, they dated for several years and then he didn’t date again for a while. But either way, the thought of this hasn’t left me for the past 2 days. Could be the pregnancy hormones but I am honestly regretting everything from the marriage to having his child. I am so upset, I haven’t really ate or slept since finding this out. I’d like to feel better about it but I’m just not sure how to proceed. It’s not like I’m getting a divorce over this but I don’t know how I’m going to get over it.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling upset and struggling with this news. It's understandable to have a strong emotional reaction to learning something like this about your partner.

First and foremost, it's important to take care of yourself during this time. Make sure you're eating, sleeping, and taking time for self-care activities that help you manage your emotions. If you're feeling overwhelmed or need additional support, consider reaching out to a therapist or counselor to help you process your feelings.

It may also be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about how you're feeling. Let them know that this news has been difficult for you, and ask them to be patient and understanding as you work through your emotions. You may also want to ask your partner questions about their past experiences and how they feel about them now, to get a better understanding of their perspective.

Remember that everyone has a past, and while it can be difficult to hear about certain experiences, it doesn't necessarily mean that your partner's feelings for you or your relationship are any different. Try to focus on the present and the positive aspects of your relationship, and give yourself time to process your emotions and come to a place of acceptance and peace.